What to Say to "I Love You"

What do you do when she says, “I love you?” Do you run and hide, or say it too?

There are two near-universal responses to a woman saying those three little words, and they’re pretty much both absolutely horrible and flat out wrong from the standpoint of achieving anything good and healthy in a relationship. They are:

• Guy stares at woman speechlessly, face pale and full of dread, with no idea what to say back, feeling trapped and utterly put upon, or