Different women respond differently to cold approach. Some are nice, some are haughty – and the reasons for the differences vary from girl to girl.

Different Girls' Different Reactions to Being Cold Approached

Different women respond differently to cold approach. Some are nice, some are haughty – and the reasons for the differences vary from girl to girl.

I shared a video on X the other day of a girl talking about how grateful she is to guys who still cold approach, plus how surprised she was at a woman she complimented being closed and aloof to her.

This girl (who is pretty cool & self-aware) raises a GOOD distinction about the range of reactions you encounter cold approaching women.

Basically when you cold approach you will get everything from:

0️⃣ ❄️ Ice cold, haughty, hostile snubs, to
1️⃣ Plain old vanilla disinterest, to
2️⃣ Polite rejections, to
3️⃣ Friendly chitchat, to
4️⃣ Bubbly sociable interest, to
5️⃣ Fairly warm romantic interest (“Yes, let’s hang out!”), to
6️⃣ 🔥 Blazing hot interest / DTF (“Actually I’m free right now...”)

The reactions at the far ends — ice cold snubs & blazing hot interest — are both rare-ish unless you’re doing something really right or wrong, or approaching in a really wrong or right location.

The toughest thing for guys not experienced at cold approach is learning to mentally DEPRIORITIZE the snubs while PRIORITIZING the interested replies.

Remember:

➡️ Every “no” (girl) gets you closer to that “yes” (girl)

➡️ Unavailable girls who tell you they’re unavailable are doing you a FAVOR (i.e., by not wasting your time)

➡️ MOST girls, at any given time, are in relationships; you need to sift through the attached or otherwise disinterested girls to find those “diamonds in the rough” 💎

Once you pass the point where rejection no longer humiliates or depresses you, and come out on the other side where girls can say they’re uninterested and you just laugh and SHRUG 🤣🤷🏻‍♂️, you gain a superpower with women few men ever unlock.pic.twitter.com/k7WEsw1qvZ

— Girls Chase 🏃‍♀️💨 (@GirlsChase) April 21, 2025

It raises an interesting point we don’t talk about quite enough in my opinion: why are women’s reactions to cold approach so vastly different?

Any guy who’s in the field knows how variable cold approach reactions can be.

Unless you’re doing something very wrong (or very right), most women won’t be openly hostile or wildly exuberant. But within that range in the middle between the poles, there’s a great deal of variation.

You’re the same guy, approaching the same way… but some girls just react very differently to you than others do. Wherefore should this be so?