A true observation about a woman immediately makes her feel like
you’re on her wavelength. Use these truisms to disarm and connect with
her.
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Hey guys, and welcome back. So after having written 3 very practical articles, sharing some more or less advanced techniques – the last post being particularly advanced – I decided to give you something that can benefit everyone, including fresher players.
That said, the technique I am about to share, although simpler, is still very powerful (things do not always have to be super hard and complex to work like a charm). I am sure many intermediate and advanced players will enjoy this post and benefit from it.
The topic of today is about pacing – pacing HER ongoing reality. Now, what does that mean? Pacing is all about displaying an understanding of how it feels to be in her shoes, in her world, in her body.
Allow me to demonstrate with an example (more examples to come).
Alek: You know… (pause) … there is… something I find extremely fascinating.
Her: And what is that?
Alek: What it must feel like to be out here, surrounded by weird, creepy men, almost to the point of losing all hope of finally finding someone (point to self) who can take you on that adventure that rocks your world.
Her: True.
Alek: And yet here you are, still hoping for that one chance in a million that you will finally get to experience those adventures you truly seek.
The previous example may be a bit advanced, I agree, but do not worry – here is a simpler example:
Alek: I do find it interesting how the mere fact that standing here with that goofy yet tasty cocktail in your hand must feel classy in a way, and that every sip of that cocktail reminds you of good times – of leisure and freedom.
Her: -What-ever-
Now, in that example, I did not assume too many things, but I used a lot truisms, such as her holding a drink, enjoying freedom and leisure (club bars are known to provide those experiences). How can she really disagree with me?
I will give you more examples in a bit, but let us break this down.
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