A year or so ago, I was talking to Ricardus (remember him?) and he mentioned a day when he went around feeling like the sexiest man in town. He just put it in his head: "I am the most attractive man in this city," and as he went about his day, women's heads turned. Ultimately a random cute girl approached him and struck up a conversation with him.
And when he told me about that, I thought, "Oh yeah, I do that too."
Most of my content focuses on 'outer game', because I think that's just generally easier for guys to focus on, and that the 'inner game' will catch up once the outer game's tight.
But there's a converse to this too: even once your outer game is solid, and your fundamentals are great, you can still slack off a lot when you're not in the right headspace.
Try this: wherever you are, right now:
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Remember the last pretty girl who gave you a look when you were out somewhere. What did her face look like? Her body? What sort of signs of interest did she give you?
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Remember the last time you felt like you were on top of the world. Was it just after you got out of the gym? Just grabbed a number from a new girl or rolled in the hay with one? Had some other kind of victory?
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Remember that when a man walks and acts in a confident way, everyone around him views him as a confident man. Perception is reality, in this case
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Now, with those three things in mind, remind yourself that you are actually a pretty desirable guy
What happens to your fundamentals when you do this?
Do you straighten your posture up more?
Puff your chest out a bit?
Give your head a more confident tilt?
Open your eyes a bit wider, and become more alert?
Most likely you did these things, plus a host of other small things.
And all those small things add up together to make you stand out in a noticeable way from all the other people around you.
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