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Sexual Comfort Gambit: Listing

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By: Alek Rolstad

sexual comfort is the moveWomen today aren’t worried about being “sluts” — they’re worried about being COMFORTABLE. So how do you get girls sexually comfortable with you? One way is via LISTING.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Last week, I discussed the concept of frame control and how to use listing as a strategy to tackle tests that may arise when discussing sexual topics. Common questions include: “Why are you telling me this?”, “Why are you talking about sex?” or “Do you always talk about sex?” I explained that providing a list of reasons for why you are saying or doing something can be very effective. Outlining the benefits and explaining why it is generally well-received can help make your perspective (and frame) one she should agree with. This technique is a classic form of persuasion commonly used in sales.

Today, I will expand on this, demonstrating how to apply it in sexual comfort gambits. For an example, see the narrative gambit at Pickup and Seduction Gambit: Narratives and to some extent, the diachronic sex gambit that I will share next week.

Because this concept is intuitive, easy to execute, and, most importantly, highly efficient, I took time to reflect on it and developed some new gambits. These will help better illustrate this technique.

The primary purpose of a gambit has always been to provide an example of how to apply specific techniques via a theme to set frames and elicit emotions. This gambit is no different: you can phrase it however you like, tweak it, and experiment to make it your own.

7 Ways to Make Sure She Shows Up for Her Date with You

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By: Chase Amante

raising girls' show-up rates on datesGirls don’t show up to dates they don’t feel motivated enough to show up for. Use these 7 ways to raise women’s desire to show up for their dates with you.

You meet a girl, have a nice conversation, and ask her out.

She says “yes!” Fantastic!

But just because you’ve got her contact and an appointment to meet doesn’t mean she’ll show up. What can you do to make sure she shows up for her date with you?

In this guide, I’ll lay out five (5) recommended steps for ensuring girls show up to their dates with you – plus two more optional steps you can take.

Follow the guide, and your “date show-up rate” will go higher than that of anyone else you know.

Tactics Tuesdays: Calibrating the Opener to Your State

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By: Chase Amante

calibrating opener to stateDifferent openers get (very) different receptions from girls depending on YOUR internal state. Calibrate the opener you choose to your state & open better.

There’s an important factor in the way that you open conversations with new women that few men seem to consider:

Namely, the way your state affects the delivery – and thus reception – of your opener.

Imagine two otherwise identical men:

MAN A: approaches a beautiful girl in a red dress, and somewhat timidly tells her, “Hi… I just have to say you look really beautiful.” It’s clear from his behavior that he is waiting and hoping for a good reception from her. She is going to feel like he is kissing up to her, paying her a compliment in the hopes of her throwing a bone to him.

MAN B: approaches a beautiful girl in a yellow dress, and confidently/authoritatively tells her, “Hey. That dress looks amazing on you. Good choice.” It’s clear from his vibe that he is simply commenting on something he likes, and doesn’t really care how she will react. She is going to feel like he is passing manly judgment on her, and is going to feel a need to reciprocate or find another way to gracefully share power with him because he just positioned himself as the approver over her.

While these two men might look the same, and the women they approach look similar, and their openers have very similar words, the change in the delivery of the opener creates a completely different frame at the open.

It is very hard to consciously switch from a timid, approach anxious state (like Man A’s) to a confident, authoritative state (like Man B’s). Few men are capable of doing it on command. I can do it; but I’ve also spent years meditating and consciously state changing, and have enough reference points dealing with women authoritatively that I know exactly what it feels like and how to make myself switch to that from a different state.

For practical purposes, I am going to assume that (like most guys) this is not something you can simply do.

So what CAN you do?

Simple: rather than try to force openers that are not going to work in your current state, you are going to choose openers based upon the state you’re in right now.

Opening Nurses: A Gambit for Approaching Women Wearing Scrubs

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By: Skilled Seducer

how to open nursesNurses are some of the most fun, sexually open-minded girls you’ll find. StrayDog shares the opener he uses to strike up seductive conversations with them.

This post by StrayDog originally appeared on our forum here.

Alright guys, we're back with another field tested opener that has consistent results. This time it's a little more niche. Nurses!

It is quite common that you will see a fine-looking nurse doing a bit of pre/post work shopping, wearing her scrubs. Sometimes it’s just the shirt or just the pants, so be on the lookout ‘cause the opportunity is still there.

Now, if any of you have spent time with a nurse when she's off the clock, you know that these ladies are a joy to be around. Might as well approach her and see what you two can get into.

Easily Handle Sex Talk Tests with Listing

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By: Alek Rolstad

listing to beat sex talk testsListing is a handy tactic for getting past all kinds of tests from women — including women’s tests when you use sex talk.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Last week, I talked about frame control and how to handle potential tests when using sex talk. I distinguished between tests that women may use to test your frame, congruence, and authenticity. If you are new to this concept, I recommend reading last week’s post, as it will help you identify whether you are facing resistance tests, which require a slightly different approach. I included several links on how to deal with resistance. For example, if a girl says, “I am not that type of girl,” this may indicate a resistance test.

A few articles ago, I covered the importance and power of using fractionation during sex talk. This has many benefits, including limiting your chance of facing resistance by creating comfort. It also helps keep the conversation fresh and avoids overinflating the sex talk. More importantly, you can avoid getting tested, although you may not be able to prevent all tests.

There are many types of tests, and they are usually contextual. That’s why it isn’t easy to provide a comprehensive list of examples and “catch-all” answers to each. Frame control tests are about testing your frame, and dealing with them is something you must practice and troubleshoot individually. So, go out, get tested, and try to pass girls’ tests. If you fail, go home and think of better responses to reframe, or visit the forums and ask for help. You can even hire or hire a coach (wink).

Secrets to Getting Girls: Emotionally Expressive Approaches

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By: Chase Amante

emotionally expressive approachesApproach girls flat or polite, and you’ll get flat, polite receptions. Want girls who are excited and eager to meet you? Then BE that way when you approach!

I was responding to a thread on the forum where forum member Arnav asked about how to keep cold approach conversations going beyond the first 30 seconds. He brought up difficulty dealing with girls he approached who only seemed neutral or polite.

Here’s a description of a similar phenomenon written by another forum member, RDRChaseMember:

So from my usual experiences with cold approach, they're usually I pay a compliment to her and try to open, and they walk away or don't stop to talk to me, fine. The other experience I get from it (though pretty rare) is that they do engage in a conversation with me enthusiastically, we're making long conversation, and I go for a number. Yet, when I follow up with them, I don't hear anything back from them.

It's almost as if I should expect general disinterest most of the time.

In one of my responses to Arnav (who wants to know how to keep cold approach conversation going beyond 30 seconds), I shared a secret to getting girls that veteran seducers all sooner or later figure out: that women reflect your mood right back at you, thanks to the power of emotional contagion. In other words, if you want a girl to respond a certain way to your approach, be that way on the approach.

Here’s what I told Arnav:

This is one of the magic tricks a good seducer has that regular guys don't: he can approach a girl and using nothing but his own expressiveness and her mirror neurons he can elicit what appears to be a high degree of interest from her right away. When I used to take guys out in-field and do demonstration approaches the guys would always comment after, "Wow, that girl was REALLY into you!" Sometimes she is, but sometimes she is just mirroring my approach, because that is what women do if you seem like a reasonably cool guy and you are being EXPRESSIVE. But get her to mirror you long enough and even the girls who weren't all that interested can start to wonder to themselves if maybe they are.

Today I’m going to let you in a little more on this secret of emotionally expressive approaches, that way you don’t have to wait until you’re 3 or 4 years deep in seduction before you puzzle this one out on your own (3-4 years in is right around when this one truly clicks for the average self-taught playboy).

Monkeybranching: Why Do Women Always Want Backup Options?

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By: Chase Amante

why women monkeybranchWomen often won’t leave one man until they have another one to monkeybranch off to. Why’s it so important to women to have male backup options?

It’s more or less the ultimate ‘man role’ to be ready to walk away and leave it all behind: to wander off across the horizon, completely self-reliant, needing nothing at all besides your feet to carry you and your head and hands to do what’s needed wherever you end up.

We all intuitively respect a man far more who’s ever-ready to march off on his own, if the situation calls for it, than we do the man who begs, pleads, cries, and scrambles, trying to hang onto a crumbling situation. Men respect powerful, independent men; women are attracted to them. I don’t just tell men they must be ready to replace their women, not chase them for their own peace of mind; having this frame of mind makes you significantly more attractive to others, too.

But women are different from men.

Women don’t care about man-things like ‘respect’. Not for themselves.

Women don’t need to be seen as ‘self-reliant’; in fact, coming across too self-reliant harms women’s attractiveness to most men.

And if there’s one thing women do that a lot of men struggle to understand, it is this constant cultivation of male backup options – and their propensity to ‘monkeybranch’ – that is, to not let go of one branch (man) until the next branch (man) is already in-hand.

Often men will think they’re getting somewhere with a girl, or that she really likes them – only to realize at some point that they were in her friend zone, merely a ‘back pocket man’. A guy who’s there for her just in case of emergency.

Other times guys will be seeing a girl they like, only to realize she’s cultivating all these backup options on the side from them.

But why? Why can’t women just be happy with the guy they’ve got?

Is the grass really THAT green on the other side?

3 Ways to Beat Women's Tests When You Use Sex Talk

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By: Alek Rolstad

own the sexual frameSex talk is a powerful technique — yet women will test you on it. “Is sex all you think about?” “Why are you always talking about sex?” Use these 3 ways to sail past tests & get the girl.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

In the past few weeks, I’ve delved into sex talk topics, focusing on calibration and fractionation. This technique involves alternating between sex talk and other subjects to build comfort and avoid inflating the topic. By doing this, you keep the interaction from growing stale. Mastering fractionation is essential for effective sex talk. If you are unfamiliar with it, read up on it and practice.

Today, I want to discuss potential tests you may encounter when using sex talk. Some examples you may hear from girls:

“Are you always talking about sex?”

“Is sex the only thing you think about?”

“Is sex the only thing you talk about?”

“Why are we talking about sex?”

“Why are you telling me about this (sexual thing)?

Depending on the context, you may hear many types of these tests, but they are generally along those lines.

"Getting Girls Is Too Much Work!" That's 'Cause You're Getting Them Wrong

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By: Chase Amante

'getting girls is way too much work!' -- that means you're doing it wrongWhen getting girls feels like a lot of work, you’re getting the ‘getting’ wrong. The secret is how much work you get HER to put in – not how much YOU do.

I keep hearing this same phrase and variations thereof chanted over and over by men across the Internet:

  • “Getting girls is too much work!”

  • “Women aren’t worth the effort!”

  • “No woman is worth doing this!”

I see guys miming it all over social media anytime anyone talks about getting girls.

I see it parroted randomly on forums and article comment sections online.

It’s repeated so freely and easily, and repeated so verbatim, that it’s clear it’s a gut-level response, bleached deep into men’s psyches, that they’ve absorbed from the red pill Internet and internalized.

But if getting girls is a lot of work, I just have this to say to you, amigo:

The way you’re using to get them is the WRONG way!

How to Act Around a Girl Who Rejected You

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By: Chase Amante

how to act around rejecting girlsIt’s awkward running into girls who rejected you. Should you ignore them or try to be nice? And is it possible to re-attract them & ask them out again?

Getting rejected by a girl sucks.

It’s awkward and sometimes painful.

But do you know what’s about 10x more awkward than the rejection itself?

Running into the girl who rejected you and not knowing how to act.

What should you do when you see her again?

Should you…

  • Try to explain you didn’t actually mean to ask her out?

  • Apologize for something awkward you did the first time around?

  • Flirt with her as if nothing has changed?

  • Give her the cold shoulder and ignore her completely?

What’s the correct play?

I’m going to spell out for you the socially savviest play you can make when encountering a girl who rejected you – the play that most guarantees you come out on top, looking cool, suave, and in-control, and making her question whether ‘rejecting’ you was really the right call.

After that, we’ll talk about making moves on girls who rejected you again, too… if, that is, you want to.