What Do You Owe a Woman?
Taking a step back from our usual breakdowns and analyses, I want to focus on something that’s been on my mind for the better part of, oh, my entire career in seduction: what do you owe a woman you’ve brought into your life?
I consider myself a pretty exceptional guy. I mean, I’ve always been a man of extremes, and women have always been cast to the emotional extremes around me – they love me, they hate my guts, they love me again, they want to stab me in the back and get revenge on me, then they come to me and tell me I’m a man with a good heart and the best experience of their lives. And I have focused hard on developing myself in as many ways as possible, to provide as much unique value to the lives of those around me as possible – the women in my life being no exception. I bond with the women I spend time with like no one in their lives ever has, and I take them to bed better than anyone ever has or ever will. In long-term relationships, I try to take girls on fun / unique / amazing experiences, and do things with them that other boyfriends might be scared to do. I want every woman I’m with to be able to look back on me and say, “Chase was the experience of a lifetime.”
But when you build expectations like this, sometimes you aren’t always able to meet them. Sometimes a girl sees you and likes you so much that she wants all of your time; and you wish you could give it to her, but you simply can’t. I tell girls now; I tell them forthrightly, “I can’t promise you anything. I could be gone tomorrow and might not be back for years.” Yet, they still fall hard for me and want as much from me as they can get.
About 3 ½ years ago in Washington, D.C., I was getting frustrated because I was finding this consistent pattern of how I’d be telling girls all these amazing, fascinating things about myself, and they’d act bored or unimpressed and things would go nowhere and I’d lose them. This kept happening, and anytime I see something happen again and again, I make the problem a priority to focus on and iron out, so I decided to try what at the time seemed like a radical strategy and one I didn’t really even think would work: I’d focus on telling women as little as possible about myself and just let them talk about themselves.
To be a man truly successful with women, one must first come to master his own feelings – to override deep emotions and instincts when he knows those emotions and instincts are going to take him the wrong direction.