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Why to Be the Well-Dressed Man

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By: Alek Rolstad

mastering personal styleDressing extremely well has major benefits for your success with women. It’s not just about attraction, either; it’s also about reputation and comfort, too.

Hey guys, welcome back.

A few years ago, I wrote a post on fashion. This post is incredibly popular, and people on the forums often ask me to write a follow-up.

I have the reputation of being one of the best-dressed guys in the community. One of my main hobbies, next to pickup and seduction, is fashion. It’s not about just buying clothes and looking great or trendy; I care about fashion as an expression and art form. I often went to clubs where influencers and people in the fashion industry go. I used to head to fashion weeks, fairs, and showrooms (by the way, it is a fantastic experience with plenty of free food and champagne; just saying!)

People have asked me over and over again to write fashion guides. This is not what I will do today. I believe fashion is an artistic field, and teaching it is challenging and not something I am qualified to do. I greatly respect fashion and see it as a distinct field, even its own discipline. I am just a hobby fashionista.

Fashion is art, and true fashion people are not the best at writing style guides. Real fashion people tend to be experimental. Asking them for advice might get you some outrageous items you may not feel comfortable wearing.

However, I have a few words to say about clothing and style relating to pickup. And this is what this post is about.

Recommended Reading 2024

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By: Chase Amante

Chase Amante's recommended reading list, 2024Chase’s sexennial reading list for 2024 is out. Book recommendations on seduction, history, society, business, economics, fiction, survival, & more.

It’s been six years since my last Recommended Reading list, which itself was six years after my first. So I suppose that means it’s time for me to write another!

There are some folks out there who read voluminously, digesting 30+ books per year. Unfortunately that is not me. It may have been in my youth (I was constantly reading in grade school and high school) but with as much time as I spend managing the business and doing my own writing I don’t have as much time to spare on reading nowadays.

The result however is that I must be very picky about what I read. Books that come highly recommended by others but that fail to hook me in in fast enough or provide enough obvious value for my time – such as the fiction novel Chronicles of the Black Company, the polemic Deliberate Dumbing Down of America, Jack Welch’s corporate bible Winning, or the business management book The Essential Deming – I quickly discard. The list below is a list of survivors; these are the books I found valuable enough to keep reading, and include now on this list.

If you like my recommendations, and you want to read more books I recommend, I suggest you check out my prior lists: here’s my first list, from 2012; here is my second list, including many recommendations drawn from Lubbock’s list, in 2018. I still like these books; some of them I still reread.

I’ve broken the list below down into seven (7) categories: survival, seduction, history and society, economics, business, fiction, and miscellaneous. If you have a certain category you’re looking for, or certain categories you’re simply uninterested in, you skip to or skip those categories and go to the ones you like.

Lastly, the links include Amazon affiliate links. If you want to buy the books but have some moral stricture against buying from an Amazon affiliate link, just type the name of the book + the author into your preferred book buying website and you should find the same work without issue. Also worth noting that many of the older books on this list that are out of copyright are available for free via Library Genesis.

Onwards!

2 Kinds of High Partner Count Women: Low SMV vs. High T

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By: Chase Amante

2 different reasons women sleep with a lot of guysThere are two (2) very different kinds of high body count women: those who willingly pursue many lovers, versus those who fail into it.

Discussions of women with high partner counts are often marred (especially in the dating advice space) between a conflict over the two (2) different kinds of high partner count women.

These two (VERY different) types of High Count women are:

  1. Low sexual market value (SMV) women VS.

  1. High testosterone (T) women

Depending on a man’s sexual experience and predilections, he may wish to reject both of these women – or he may want to reject one but not the other. Of course, if he does not realize the difference, he’ll have trouble differentiating.

If he tries talking to other men who are thinking of the other kind of high body count girl than the kind he’s thinking of, they’ll talk right past each other.

Let’s clear up these two very different kinds of multi-lover women.

How to Be More Attractive to Women: 4 Attraction Pillars

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attracting women moreAttracting women more in a flirtation or inside a relationship requires greater attractiveness. Adhere to these 4 pillars and buff up your attractive power.

I am going to divide this piece into the 4 big pillars that make women attracted to men, give you examples of excelling in each of them, and then give you actionable advice to get there.

The 3 Types of Conversation Hooks, Pt. 2: Choose a Hook

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By: Alek Rolstad

choosing the right hookWhich of the three types of hooks should you use with the girl you just met? It depends on the setting you meet her in – and a few other conditions.

Hey guys. I hope you are doing well.

Last week, I discussed three types of hooking game: rapport-based, stimulation-based, and social-proof-based. Each provides different mechanisms to capture women’s attention and draw them into an interaction. You “hook them in.”

The first type, rapport-based, focuses on building a verbal connection. The goal is to make the girl feel connected to you. This can occur when you share common interests, she resonates with you, she feels you understand her on a deeper level (through pacing), or when she finds you intriguing.

The second type, the stimulation-based approach, involves stimulating her. You are a source of excitement that she finds enjoyable—being stimulating hooks. You approach the interaction with high energy, open with witty comments, use some banter or teasing, and funny games and gambits.

The third type is social-proof-based hooking. This is when you get the hook before you open by appearing sexy and attractive before approaching your designated girl. You do this through social proof, a social psychological mechanism when people value what others value. Others view you as attractive when they see you interacting with other women or even better when those other women seem interested in you.

These are three great approaches, but when should you use each? This is what I will address today.

49 Early Warning Signs a Woman Is Going to Cheat on You

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By: Chase Amante

early warning signs she'll be unfaithfulA cheater doesn’t cheat out of nowhere. She leaves clues, hints, and signs – some of them quite obvious. These 49 signs tell you she may soon cheat on you.

Recently on our forum, Ambiance, one of our more experienced members, was blindsided when his live-in girlfriend (who was a virgin when they got together) cheated on him with another man.

In his post, “I Got Cheated on Out of Nowhere,” Ambiance shared his shock at how even this girl, who had shown him nothing but ‘green flags’, could cheat. It made him wonder whether any relationship could ever be safe.

I am just mind-boggled. Why in the M***********G HELL would this girl who has been otherwise SO GOOD to me and who seemed SO IN LOVE with me throw it all away over some guy she wasn't even in love with when she knew him growing up?? I have been such a good, strong boyfriend to her and she seemed madly in love with me all this time. Not to mention this Guy C is an oafish looking nice guy without any guile.

I had fallen so in-love with her. In a world where Western women are becoming increasingly less suited for long term relationships, I thought I had hit the absolute jackpot and then done everything right. I was the baddest, sexiest guy she had ever met who conquered her and stole her right under Guy B's nose and spent the next 10 months ravishing her in mind and body. How could she have been [so] stupid?! How could I have attached myself to someone so deficient??? How could such an otherwise incredible girl with everything going for her be so screwed up in the head???

This is a waking nightmare. I feel like what remaining innocence I had so carefully protected has been f*****g obliterated.

Yet as other forum members and I pointed out, this perfect-seeming girl had some blatant red flags for infidelity risk early on that Ambiance had not noticed.

In this article, I’ll be sharing with you a complete list of ‘infidelity risk factors’ in women – potential cheater ‘red flags’ – you should look for from the very START of a relationship (or, ideally, before you even jump into bed with her). Watch out for these signs a woman is going to cheat, and you’ll be much better prepared to avoid getting hurt.

If you’re a man who desires as LITTLE a chance of a woman cheating on him as possible, this article will be Gospel to you.

Skilled Seducer of the Month, December 2024: Allen Iverson

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Skilled Seducer of the Month: Allen IversonTraveler, romantic, and prolific seducer Allen Iverson (not the basketball player) discusses his adventures and seductions. Here’s how he gets laid.

Welcome to this month’s Skilled Seducer award. In this interview, we talk with Allen Iverson (a pseudonym to protect his identity; he’s not actually the Hall of Fame basketball player), a long-time member of the Skilled Seducer Forum and a playboy who’s been on an absolute tear all year.

At the time we spoke (in late October) he’d already picked up and slept with 47 women throughout 2024 – and he still had more time left in the year.

How’s he pulling off his incredible lays?

What’re the secrets to his game?

Dive into this interview, and we’ll get to know his potent approach together.

WATCH: Chase Amante Interview on Cross-Cultural Game, Fire & Ice Girls, & More

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By: Chase Amante

Howdy there folks.

I’ve got a new interview up on YouTube with @FrenchOG3 of X.com. Check him out and give him a follow if you’re on X. One of the few good game tips guys on that platform, I’ve found!

In this interview, French OG interviews me on a sprawling range of topics. The actual interview spans over two hours (and I think we actually spoke for closer to 3.5 if you include the chats before & after the interview), and covers a huge range of stuff.

Much of it will probably be familiar to you if you’re a regular Girls Chase reader. We covered a few new odds & ends though too.

The 3 Types of Conversation Hooks, Pt. 1: Hook Theory

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By: Alek Rolstad

three paths to connectionWhen you speak to a girl, there are three (3) distinct types of hooks you can use to reel her in: rapport-based, stimulation-based, and social proof.

Hey guys and welcome back.

Today, I want to discuss three different hook game styles. Hook game usually happens post-opening when you attempt to “reel in” a girl and settle into a group interaction with strangers. It is the moment when you proceed from being a stranger to becoming a guy who is an active part of the interaction. You may not be a peer yet, but you become an acquaintance, a guy they are willing to chat and interact with. It’s when you feel that “you are in.”

Below, I will discuss the three types of hooking. Next week, you will learn how to calibrate and when to use each of the three hooking styles.

Don't Compliment Girls You Want to Date on Their Looks. Here's Why

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By: Chase Amante

don't compliment women on their looksIt’s common for men to try to chat up a girl by complimenting her on her looks. Yet all this does is make you sound exactly like every other guy.

Over on the forum, we had a member who protested that he struggles to compliment women on anything other than their physical appearances. He doesn’t care about or pay attention to women’s ornamentation, he says, and wouldn’t complimenting on something else be ingenuine? Here’s some of what he commented:

Iʼve long believed that the purpose of compliments in the early moments of an approach is to communicate sexual intent, which signals confidence and avoids creepiness.

For the intent to be sexual, I would have thought compliments on genetic features would hit the mark better than those on clothing or adornments. After all, a child she could give you might inherit her eyes, hair, complexion, or facial features — but not her shoes, blouse, handbag, or earrings. (Expensive earrings, maybe!)

You might think, “No, no, a girl isn’t thinking about having kids with some guy she just met,” or vice versa. But hold on — this isnʼt conscious.

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I donʼt know if this is a problem most guys face, or if Iʼm just some genetic anomaly that is somehow immune to acrylic nails and handbags.

Well, on the rare occasion Iʼm actually impressed by some trinket, I now know what to do!

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Maybe you luck out and she has a killer walk or some other standout behavior, but that’s 1 in 1000. What do you do with the other 999? Revert to a very genuine compliment on her physical features? I do most love those, but Iʼm told thatʼs not seductive.

He had a lot more theory behind his approach to opening with looks-based compliments. I love theory! The one issue with theory, of course, is that if you’re using it for something practical, like, say, putting girls in your bed, you need to turn your theory into testable hypotheses and test it out. Then test competing hypotheses. Then find which works best.

I can tell you, as most any other guy in the game can as well, that looks-based compliments are very suboptimal most of the time with girls (there are times and places and ways they can work. But in general you don’t want looks-compliments as your go-to).

Let’s look at why that is and what you can do instead, EVEN IF you don’t care a lick about women’s fashion choices (like our forum member).