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Cold Approaching Women: How Hard Is It REALLY?

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By: Chase Amante

Is Cold Approaching Women Hard?How hard is it to cold approach girls and get success with them – REALLY? Is it impossible… very difficult… or actually easier than many believe?

Commenting on my article “When Girls You Approach Get Distracted”, a reader shares his experiences cold approaching women, stating his observations and saying he finds it a difficult way to meet girls:

Hi Chase,

thank you for clarification on this situation, and on your response, I really appreciate!

Looking down at those interactions, they fuzzled out, and nothing really happened, so I dont know, maybe I mishandled them.

My cold approaches so far have been not very successful (but I,ve been doing them extremely irregularly, maybe 1-2/month). Its because I always try to come in indirect, possibly with a ping, to make everything socially smooth, and also for me to not be so extremely nervous. However, here I struggle with another problem. Basically by coming in socially smooth, I try to avoid rejections at first, my „friendly and harmless“ vibe basically makes it impossible to reject me, but as soon as I start to switch to flirty, I notice immediate rejection (at least friendly rejection). However, I started to feel that all those things are actually secondary. The girl either likes me, or she doesnt like me, and even if she likes me, she sometimes doesnt even know why. I also noticed with all my successful flirts, that it honestly doesnt even matter whether I am shy, sexy, cool, or whatever, but that she likes me nonetheless. Sensing that, I am also much cooler and more relaxed, and behave much more like a natural with her. I simply came to the believe, that there is a certain proportion of girls simply attracted to you, and some are not. I really doubt that there is much „turn-around“ that one can do, without having MUCH more time with a person, that cold approach usually allows (seconds to maximum 1 hour).

So, to sum up, for girls really hooking and GETTING interested in you, cold approach seems to be extremely hard. Of course, if you approach and you are extremely ahead in social status, it might work, but usually, thats not the case if you go for beautiful girls. The very limited time you have in cold approach, the already „weird“ situation that she gets approached randomly (few people do it), and the fact that she has no intersections with your life whatsoever, makes cold approach rather impossible to strike off, if the girl is not interested in you anyways (maybe genetically, or you remind her of her boyfriend/father).

What are your thoughts Chase?

Our reader has some interesting experiences and observations here – on women’s initial reactions to you and on the ability (or inability) to wiggle out of a first impression.

Is he right about the WEIGHT of those first impressions – and is he right that cold approach is “rather impossible to strike off” if the girl isn’t already interested in you, due to genetic compatibility (like scent-based immune genes) / facial similarity / some other intangible characteristic?

Tactics Tuesdays: When Girls Say You're Too Old

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By: Chase Amante

when girls say you're too oldWhen a girl tells you you’re too old for her, she can really mean it… or it might be a test. How you respond depends on how firm her age gap objection is.

A forum member shared a conversation recently with a girl he met at a party, vibed well with, and took a phone number from… who then protested when he messaged her that he was “kinda too old” for her.

He responded in typical guy fashion, trying to get her to explain her reasoning and then negotiate her out of it. She responded how people typically respond to people trying to convince or persuade them, by sticking to her guns harder. Needless to say, our hero did not get the date.

What can you do if a girl protests you’re “too old” for her?

Are you doomed… or does it depend?

Skilled Seducer of the Month, April 2024: Bloom

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By: Skilled Seducer

Skilled Seducer of the Month of April: BloomDig into how Bloom pulls off his thrilling same-day day game lays. Inventive sexual framing and shrewd sniper-style approaches rule the day when Bloom approaches.

Exciting news: we’re beginning a new monthly award entitled the Skilled Seducer of the Month. Each month, we’ll be introducing you to a talented Casanova – ranging from well-known veteran playboys to promising up-and-comers – whose achievements or contributions have earned him the mantle of that month’s Skilled Seducer.

For our inaugural month of April, our Skilled Seducer of the Month is Bloom. Bloom is an American seducer – a former inhabitant of New York City – who’s posted a series of impressive recent same-day lay reports with girls he’s picked up in his travels through South America. His lovers have ranged from an auburn-haired English tourist to a Chilean-Venezuelan visitor to a few Brazilian locals.

What they have in common? Bloom met all of them via day game; he seduced each one the same day he met her; and each and every one of them, according to Bloom, possessed a nice and juicy posterior.

What follows is a transcript of our interview with Bloom, conducted over a phone call, with any private details removed. Get a sense for how Bloom operates, how he selects the girls he chooses to approach, what his seduction journey has been like, and some of the techniques he’s using or developing to take lovers off the street, into his bed.

Calibrating Your Social Frame: Matching Venues & Individuals

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By: Alek Rolstad

social frame calibrationYour social frame is how well you fit into a given venue or environment. Do you match it – or do you seem out of place? The better you calibrate, the easier it becomes to excel socially.

Hey guys. Today I'll discuss social frame-the social dimension of seduction. Social frame is the underlying social meaning of the interaction between you and the people you interact with, given their sociocultural background. We can define social frame by one's sociocultural identity, expressed during interactions with others. This generates the social frame.

From my past article on social frame:

What is a social frame?

It is a term coined by master pick-up artist Gunwitch (Allen Reyes) in his product Seduction MMA (still one of the best products out there for advanced guys). My interpretation of his definition of a social frame is that it is a frame that covers everything related to the "social" or the "social aspect" in an interaction, or more precisely, in a seduction.

What Is a Social Frame?

Social frame in this context is about conveying that you appear, on a social level, as the type of guy a girl usually hooks up with.

This helps ease the opening process because a girl will be less hostile as you are a guy who is "okay" to talk with socially in her environment. It also smoothens the hooking process because you gain rapport: she is familiar with guys socially similar to you and realizes that men like you are cool and sexy. Most importantly, she will allow herself to have sex with you because it feels okay according to her social frame. Also, her friends will likely accept you if you match their social frame because they think you are high value and safe.

You can make women intrigued and interested in you without worrying about social frame, but it will be challenging - it is much easier when the social frame factor is in place. Arousing a girl when the social frame is off may lead to female state control (FSC), and she may back off despite being aroused to control her state. She will not allow herself to let go and get carried away because she is unsure whether you are a safe lover or a suitable man for her socially.

Social frame is crucial.

Over the years, I have neglected much discussion of social frame. I have covered subjects relating to it that communicate and amplify social frame, like:

But today, let's explore what you should know about social frame.

How Funny Are You with Girls? Free Quiz + Report

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By: Chase Amante

It’s been said I have a rather clever sense of humor. Humor factors into most of my seductions (even with those humorless types of girls, I will still be using humor… if only for my own amusement!), and readers of this site have been asking me for a guide to it pretty much since the site’s inception.

For that reason, while asking myself, “What kind of a program can I put together to help out guys while we get our dating app how-to guide retooled and ready for launch?” I hit upon the idea of putting a method to my side-splitting madness – and the Lush Teases™ Method was born.

Lush Teases™ is all mapped out at this point; the handbook is done (and looking slick), the audio courses are ready to record, the bonuses are all mapped out (this will be an audio + ebook only course – no video in this one, just so I can produce it for you faster than my usual glacial pace). I just need to hit the studio sometime in the next week or two to get the audio segments all banged out.

I’ll tell you more about Lush Teases™ as we get closer to launch.

In the meantime, however, I have created a short little-but-meaty report for you on being funny with women – along with a free quiz to take that evaluates how funny you CURRENTLY are with girls.

[WATCH] Tony Depp Joins GC.TV; Many New Videos!

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By: Chase Amante

We’ve had the best past week on GirlsChase.TV in I don’t know how long, with six new videos going up by Hector Castillo, Tony Depp, and yours truly.

The most exciting news is Tony Depp joining the platform.

We’ve had a lot of guys expressing disappointment that Tony hasn’t been writing for the site. His stuff was always popular. Well, now you can catch him again – over on GirlsChase.TV.

Here’s what’s gone up on the platform over the last week. You’re probably going to want to check these out.

As a reminder, PREMIUM videos are those you’ll need a GirlsChase.TV subscription to watch (that’s just $14.99/mo. Pretty reasonable, if you ask me – we’ve got a whole big library of Premium content on there at this point… and it keeps growing).

FREE videos, on the other hand, anyone can watch without a subscription.

Here’s the latest:

Tactics Tuesdays: When Girls You Approach Get Distracted

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what to do when a girl you talk to gets distractedWhen you talk to a girl, but she gets distracted and points something else out, what’s the best way to respond? There’s a right way – and some wrong ones.

Commenting under last week’s Tactics Tuesdays installment, on “no spirals”, a reader asks:

Hi Chase,

I have a question, you may can help. I noticed in two of my recent flirts, that I was talking to a girl, and in the situation I came in indirect, but I gave a vibe of romantic interest (not direct statement, but some very light flirting). I noticed both times, we were talking and the girl suddenly starts to say „oh, look how cute this dog is“ or „look, this kid is so cute“. I felt this was „off“, and I even felt a bit „platonic“, however it also felt like she is a girlfriend telling her boyfriend that she finds something cute, so its a VERY mixed signal for me. On the one hand, it kind of infuses too much cuteness and platonic feelings for a flirt, on the other hand, it is some kind of a submission. Do you know these situations and know what to make of them?

Thank you

The quick summary is he’s made some approaches on girls where the girls interrupted to comment on something cute nearby (kid, dog). He wasn’t sure how to respond. Agree? Ignore? Tell a story about your own experiences with kids, dogs, or whatever the cute thing is?

Before we discuss the best response, first let’s talk about what you’re feeling and why it FEELS like the conversation is in danger of veering into ‘platonic friend’ territory.

How to Tell Girls You Don't Have Social Media

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By: Chase Amante

how to tell girls you don't have social mediaWhen you ask a girl out and she asks for your social media, what do you say if you don’t have one? How do you communicate not being on there to girls?

The other day a reader named Luon Di mentioned in a comment communicating to girls you’re not on social media:

Since then, she has been texting me daily. I try to keep our exchanges brief. We have a date planned in the next week. Early on, I thought I had lost her, after she asked for my social media and then she stopped replying after I answered why I don't have any (there are several reasons). This is becoming a recurring problem every time I meet a girl, and a major factor in why I have lost some very early on, despite me justifying it very reasonably to them. The next day she finally answered, empathetically.

In his case, in this particular incident, it worked out. But I would like to talk about those situations where girls give you pushback, go quiet, or act like it’s “weird.”

First off, I’m not going to write an article on the pros and cons of social media for men. I talked about that way back in 2012 regarding Facebook, and the exact same logic applies today to Instagram, TikTok, you name it. The same dynamics that were and are at play on Facebook then are at play on other social media apps today. The apps change but the dynamics don’t. You can get my opinion on it – then make up your own mind – in that earlier article.

This article is squarely aimed at guys who either are not on social media at all, or prefer not to share their social media with people (i.e., girls) they’ve just met. Maybe their follower counts aren’t all that impressive; or on the other hand maybe they share a lot of stuff on there they don’t want strangers to see.

If that’s you, read on, and we’ll talk about how to make this not a detriment for you with girls, but an actual advantage.

POB's Simple Text Ping for When Girls Leave You on Read

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By: Skilled Seducer

what to ping when she leaves you on readWhat do you do when you ask a girl out over text but she leaves you on read? Simple enough: send her this ping 2 hours after the text & get her reply.

This post originally appeared on the forum here.

For context, please read this first (and the comments).

Let's say you are texting her back and forth using a proven structure.

(Like: get the number, ping, banter, soft close, hard close > date)

Now let's imagine you try to close and are left on read.

What to do?

Normally guys will wait a bit and re-ping.

Is that wrong?

Of course not.

But it means you are re-starting the process all over again. 🙁

A better solution is to press without being pushy!

But how to do it?

How to Pick Up Social Circle Girls at Bars & Parties

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how to pick up social circle girls via nightlifeWhen you run into a girl you know socially at a bar, club, or party, you may want to pick her up. But first, you must check whether conditions are RIPE…

This article was inspired by a recent forum thread. In it, our forum member knew a girl through social circle who seemed to like him. She’d give him ‘strong eye contact’ and ‘a little smile’ each time he saw her, but he never spoke to her, and she stopped showing up in his social circle.

Later on, he found her at a bar she bartended at. Here’s what happened:

In a bar we made a little chit-chat and she was really happy when we talked. But it was too loud there for long conversation, too many people and she was really busy. So I decided to ask her out, well because that was maybe my only chance. She blew me off.

We haven’t talked since then, but I occasionally see how she stares at me.

Maybe I overthink things.

The truth was, he’d declined to chat her up in a safe venue (the social circle) and opted for a much riskier one (the bar she bartended at, while she was busy and on the clock). That was the biggest mistake.

But it isn’t always a mistake to pick up on social circle girls at bars and parties. Sometimes it backfires. But sometimes it helps! Sometimes the girl who’s ambivalent toward you in social circle may be forward and uninhibited with you when you encounter her in nightlife. Other times it’s the opposite – girls who really liked you in social circle go ice cold with you in nightlife.

The difference is understanding which are safe ways to pick up girls from your social circle at bars and parties, versus which are risky ways to do so.