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Is Marriage Worth Doing Anymore If You're a Man?

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By: Chase Amante

TEXTModern marriage seems to offer many pitfalls for men. Yet many men still marry anyway. So is marriage worth doing for men today – or not?

There’s an ongoing debate on our forum about whether marriage is worth it if you’re a man.

Marriage as an institution has undergone some extremely significant changes in the Western world over the past century. Indeed, it’s been changing for the past three centuries, but in particular over the past 70 years – since the first no-fault divorce law passed in Oklahoma in 1953 – there’s been a complete transformation in what marriage is, what it stands for – and even who marries and why.

In fact, marriage ALWAYS changes… and most of the ‘new’ changes to marriages have happened many times in history before – if not in recent history.

The changes marriage has undergone are argued to have improved it for many parties.

There’s one party marriage has not improved for, however: heterosexual men.

So, today, we’ll take a close look at what the changes to marriage have meant for men… and whether, as a man, marriage is something worth doing anymore.

Conversation Example: Repartee

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By: Chase Amante

conversation example: reparteeThis conversation example shows how to build flirtation, banter, and excitement in the initial Repartee Stage with a girl. Follow along & watch it unfold!

A short while back, a reader requested the following:

Chase, in HTMGC you say repartee is to be used after the opener and that it consists of push-pull, chase frames, intrigue and teasing.

Is it possible write an FR style article that shows these tools specifically being used at the outset during the repartee phase?

All the posts on these tactics only give mid or end-game illustrations of their use.

I've also read the conversation example article. It's awesome! Upon close observation, i notice that in the convo example post you skip the whole repartee aspect post opener and jump right into rapport hence why i'm requesting for an article where you specifically show how push-pull, chase frames, teasing and intrigue can be jumbled up together after delivery of the opener.

So all right; let me give you a conversation example with a fleshed out chunk of repartee.

If you have not read my prior Conversation Example, I’d suggest you check it out. That example takes you deeper into the conversation than this example will (we’re going to stop after repartee). If you want some real (verbatim) conversations and repartee between girls and me, plus the full chapter on repartee, check out that chapter and the two reports in the appendix of my book How to Make Girls Chase.

Keep in mind, repartee must be calibrated to the girl. If she’s responsive to it, laughing, into it, you can draw your repartee out a bit and have some real fun with her. If she’s the humorless type, though, you’re going to move through repartee pretty quick just to not waste time cracking jokes that flop / using tech that doesn’t ‘hit’. Some girls just respond better to bonding than they do playful banter.

For our example here, we’ll use a girl who’s responsive to repartee and gets into it – that way we can unfold a nice, fleshed out repartee sequence with a girl you’ve just met.

Why Are There So Many Single Men and Women?

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By: Chase Amante

so many single men and womenThere are 4x as many unmarried 40 y/os today than there were just 3 decades ago. What’s happened, and why are so many men and women single and alone?

In the same forum thread that inspired my last article about men who resent women, a separate forum member commented to ask:

Does this still apply when women reject all of their suitors to end up single? Many of the women who rejected me over a year ago are still single. This description could well apply to many single women above 33, say. Can we then declare that the woman's standards were unrealistic or that the criteria that she used to reject were unreasonable and harmful (to her own happiness)? Or would you still argue that she rejected all of those guys and ended up single because she has expectations for men based on her experiences with men the past and she didn't see comparable quality with any of her suitors? This could be a past chad boyfriend but even if she's a virgin it could be male figures in her family e.g. a woman might want a guy to be taller than her baby brother. In that case, would you make the argument that the suitors who got rejected failed to effectively compete with the guys/male figures of the past or would you concede that the women can be blamed here for their standards?

It's true; there are lots of single older women, and more all the time. There are also lots of single older men. There are lots of people in general who are not having committed long-term relationships, and even more of them (single and attached) who do not reproduce.

All this – people remaining single, even while older; people eschewing committed relationships; people remaining childless – are part of a broad sociological trend throughout modern societies. It is not just a Western phenomenon; the same phenomenon is occurring in East Asia, which has a very different society but the same exact issues.

If we want to understand the explosion of older single and childless people, we need to look beyond individual cases and examine broad civilizational trends to grasp what is really happening in human societies.

How to Pick Who to Go Out with to Nightlife

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By: Alek Rolstad

how to pick who to take to clubsWho you take with you to nightlife can make or break your night. Choose wrong and you can be barred from venues or see your evening ruined. So pick well!

Hey guys and welcome back. Today, I’ll resume last week’s discussion, which covered how many people you should go out with during night game, or when at social events with the intent of getting laid.

We are not discussing outings with close friends to maintain bonds or for any purposes other than taking a girl home.

For review, here are the four takeaways from last week’s article:

  1. Solo is the go-to for top-tier seducers. These guys like the freedom and independence from going solo. Most other men are not at their level and will drag the experienced seducer down. Those who are good with women, without being trained in the art, are mostly unfamiliar with key concepts such as logistics and calibration.

  1. I do not recommend going out with two guys as the typical wingman combo UNLESS the wing is trained and can go solo when necessary, like when you become isolated with a girl.

  1. Groups of three are not ideal.

  1. Larger groups over three can be helpful because this creates a private party within the venue to which you are invited. Your group will attract positive attention, allowing you to meet other women through warm approaches. The group’s good vibe may positively increase your state. Also, you avoid situations where you are alone and don’t appear as a loner.

So, the best choices are:

  1. Going solo
  2. Going out with big groups

Going out solo will not be detailed here, as we went through this last week. But who you go out with to clubs is just as important as how many people you go out with. That is what we'll discuss today.

First, a few words about going out with a wingman. The ideal wingman should:

  1. Be at your level or better.
  2. Match your style.
  3. Have predictable behavior.

I’ll share a detailed list in my upcoming series on Wingmanning. So, with a bit of patience, you will be rewarded.

If You Resent Women, You're Blind to the REAL Dating Picture

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By: Chase Amante

don't blame womenMen who resent women miss one key thing: it’s not women they’re competing with for women! But who is it who’s REALLY responsible for making them lose then?

We’ve got a guy over on the forum talking about how he resents women because they have it so easy in life (his words). This is pretty common red pill / incel talk these days.

I get it. Men are frustrated. Frustrated people look for someone to blame. Women are the ones turning these guys down, so women are the ones they saddle with the blame. Is it fair? Is it unfair? Well, this is what humans do.

Normally I would talk about fixer vs. complainer mentalities here (Fixer: “I’m failing, so I need to figure out why and fix it”; Complainer: “I’m failing, and it’s all everyone else’s fault!” Guess which one of those two guys is going to eventually get what he wants, and which one isn’t?). Or I would advise men not to compare themselves to women, because men aren’t women, and comparison to women is getting oneself stuck in mental impotency.

But today I specifically want to discuss this phenomenon of men resenting women, because they blame the women for their predicaments as rejected, dateless, sexless men.

But it is not women who are ultimately to blame for you getting rejected.

I won’t even say it is ‘you’ who is to blame.

Nor is it fair to say ‘society’ is to blame for your rejection.

Instead, there is another culprit – a far more ubiquitous one; one you are doing everything in your power not to look at, to avert your eyes from, because he is threatening, intimidating, and makes you feel weak and small.

But you must know this foe if you ever hope to overcome him.

What to Do When She Wants to Reschedule

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By: Chase Amante

what to do when she wants to rescheduleA girl you have a date with texts that she wants to reschedule. What should you do? How to respond? It depends – on which of the 4 “reschedulers” she is.

Everybody’s been there before. You have a date set up with a girl, everything’s planned, and then out of the blue she wants to reschedule.

She might be really apologetic. She might have a totally understandable reason to postpone.

Or she might not apologize or give a reason for it at all… all you get is a curt “Hey I won’t make it. We’ll have to reschedule,” and that’s it.

How do you handle curveballs like these?

What should you do when a girl asks to reschedule a date?

Using Uncertainty to Make Girls Chase You More

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By: Chase Amante

using uncertainty to make girls chase youWomen won’t chase if they feel certain they can get you – or that they can’t. Instead, you’ll use uncertainty to make girls chase you… PLUS 1 more thing.

Do women chase men because they feel uncertain?

They most certainly do. In fact, uncertainty is one of the central features of chasing behavior.

If you own a copy of my flagship program One Date & The Dating Artisan, and you’ve made it through Module 1 on getting girls to chase you, you know all about uncertainty.

You know the large role it plays in chasing behavior. You know that if you can create it, you can compel women to pursue you who might otherwise never chase a guy.

In that same Module 1, you also have a broad range of powerful tools to create all that attractive uncertainty. So we aren’t going to go too much into the nuts and bolts here today.

Instead, I want to take a closer look at the concept of uncertainty itself and expand on what we talked about in TDA Module 1. While Module 1 covers the “how to do it”, I’d like to dive deeper here into WHY it works… just why uncertainty drives people to chase others, and what preconditions there before the effect kicks in.

If you’re ready to really understand what it takes to create an inescapable vortex of attraction that sucks in women inexorably in with intrigue and attraction, you’re reading the right article.

Let’s talk about using uncertainty to make girls chase you harder and more.

Meeting & Sleeping with Women After Age 40

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By: Tony Depp

sleeping with women after age 40Many men after age 40 struggle to meet, date, & sleep with younger women. Yet some guys after 40 still find it a breeze. What do you do to make it get easy?

In a few months, I’ll be 46 years old.

I have no kids and have never been married. I’m not extremely rich, tall, or handsome, but I regularly date women 15-25 years younger than myself.

While this article is for men over 40 who want to attract younger women, it applies to any guy who wants to attract women up to 10 years younger than themselves, providing the “women” are of legal age.

Going to Clubs: How Many People Should You Roll Out With?

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By: Alek Rolstad

how many people should you go with to nightclubsIt’s a big difference to your night how many people you roll out to the club with. If your aim is to pick up girls, should you roll 2-deep, 3-deep, or more?

Hey guys.

Today, I’ll discuss a new topic. It’s a relevant question to ask concerning pros and beginners alike. It shocks me how little experienced players ask about this: how many people should one go out with? Yes, it matters, and I will reveal why it does.

This subject is pertinent to night gamers, as who, and the number of people you go out with can affect your results. But this post is not just for night gamers since you will often head to social events and other gatherings, and if you plan to go there to meet girls, then the info below, plus next week’s post, is for you.

Read on to find out how many people you should go out with to maximize your odds of success. Next week, I will cover whom you should go out with.

The Wandering Romeo and the Many Tribes of Lovers

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By: Chase Amante

wandering romeoJal Lamoree isn’t content with just one perspective on women. So he seeks out experiences, learns from different men, and explores womankind from a variety of angles.

Once there was a youth named Jal Lamoree who itched to know of women yet knew himself ignorant of them. Everywhere he looked, other men seemed to have clear ideas about what women were like and what they all wanted, so Jal decided to seek knowledge from the men around him.

He was in high school, in his third year, and his friends were boys who were nice and shared some of his interests in games and academic pursuits. Their group included no girls. These friends talked about girls, but always in an outsider way. There were girls they found hot, but “those girls were all sluts,” they’d say, before laughing and changing the topic. Jal laughed too, until the day he wondered how his friends knew that about those girls. So he asked.

“Well, just look at how Paisley Olson dresses,” one of his friends offered. “She’s always wearing skirts. Skirts are for ‘easy access’, don’t you know?” The boys all chuckled, except Jal. Jal was trying to figure something out.

“Yeah,” another friend said. “I mean, Lucy McCoy? Maya Adams? You think girls stay that popular not putting out?” The other boys chuckled again.

“C’mon, man,” a third friend said to Jal. “Everyone knows those girls are sluts.”

Jal heard what his friends were saying. But those girls ran in totally different circles his friends had no access to. He never saw them act slutty in school. How did his friends knew what they did outside of it? The few times he’d run into Paisley outside of school she’d been friendly and sweet… and she was always with one of her parents.

“Well, what about the girls who aren’t popular?” Jal asked.

“All sluts,” a friend said. “They’re either ugly or they’re sluts!” The boys all laughed – except Jal.