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Picking Up Women in After-Hours Venues

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By: Alek Rolstad

picking up women in after-hours venuesThe regular nightlife’s over, but the after-hours venues are still on. How do you pick up women from these places – and not risk late-night rejections?

Hey guys and welcome back.

In my last article, I gave an overview of after-hours venues.

These venues remain open after the general nightlife closes. They are the clubs that people go to if they want to party more. They usually attract more of the power-going crowd, like ravers and clubbers. Those may make up half the crowd. The rest will be regular people who have no idea how they got there.

I recommended opting for gay-friendly after-hours places or straight-friendly gay places. They tend to have the most girls with less male competition (most men there are gay).

Gay-friendly after-hours places are not unusual because those places are known as party scenes, and nobody parties harder, longer, and more seriously than gay people. They will readily go to the after-hours venues. Most after-hours venues that are good have a gay clientele.

Those that don’t tend to be sausage fests with primarily straight men.

You may see more men, but most don’t “count” because they are gay. This is even more so in gay venues open to straight people. Even more interesting is that gay and gay-friendly venues often have more girls than those that do not attract the gay crowd.

And no, they are not lesbians.

Why Do Women Want Men Who Can Provide for Them Long-Term?

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By: Chase Amante

women want long-term providersIn today’s modern, egalitarian world, why do women still want long-term providers? Isn’t that redundant? Shouldn’t women just take care of themselves?

We have a romantically inexperienced member on the forum right now struggling to understand why women want men capable of provision in long-term relationships. Why can’t he just be his “really really cute” and “adorable” (his words) self and let women provide for him?

It might seem to make sense, after all. Women get more college degrees than men these days and, at least before age 30, in many cities (like New York and Washington, D.C.) out-earn men. The sex roles have flipped. It’s time for women to take on the provider role. Isn’t it?

This member in the thread above later argued that because women have slept with different men and are not virgins, they don’t bring enough to the table and do not deserve his resources. Therefore, they should be willing to do the work and bring home the bacon while he kicks around at home, presumably tidying up the house and working in the shed, or maybe the flower garden (after a hard day of “looking really, really cute,” I guess).

It’s obviously an absurd position to hold, but… why?

WHY is it ridiculous that a man could be the really, really cute & adorable, dependent, lovely house husband and a woman the hard-working, doting breadwinner – even in our modern, feministic, egalitarian society?

[WATCH] Why Girls Aren't Answering Your Texts

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By: Chase Amante

In just a week and a half, on Saturday, July 15th, I’ll be opening the doors to my never-before-released texting system, Impulse Texting.

As we gear up for that, I’ve put together a series of videos for you on a set of pressing texting issues and questions men run into with women.

In today’s video, we examine one key question: why aren’t girls texting you back?

Go here to watch the video:

If a Girl Never Texts You First, Does It Mean Anything?

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By: Chase Amante

girl never texts firstWhat does it mean if a girl doesn’t text you first? There are 5 different reasons why she never texts first. All YOU can do is follow your texting process.

I see a lot of stuff online claiming that, “If a girl doesn’t text you first, it means she’s not that interested.”

In articles and videos with this conclusion, the advice to men tends to be something like if she never texts you first, you should move on, and find a girl who’s more interested.

Find a girl who will actually text you first, instead.

Is this actually good advice?

Or is this advice all washed up?

What Makes a Good After-Hours "Pick Up Girls" Spot

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By: Alek Rolstad

after-hours pick up girlsWhat makes an after-hours venue good to pick up women is not just that it’s open after hours. Some after-hour clubs are awful. Yet some can be gold mines.

Hi all. I hope you are all doing great.

Today I want to discuss a topic that hasn’t been discussed yet on the site—how to pick up in after-hour venues.

The truth is, picking up girls in these venues is not the same as picking up girls in “normal hours” venues. You should consider many factors and calibrate depending on the venue type.

After-hour venues are unique with their own vibe, rules, and universe, whereas regular clubs are open during hours when people usually party. But after-hours venues are open when people typically leave for home or start heading to work around 8 am. I know of a place that closes at around 11 am! When you exit the club at closing time, it is daytime, and you may see families out and about, and you are dressed flashy and all looking like a mess. Good times.

And yes, it is possible to pull even at that hour! I will get into why shortly. I have taken girls home at 10 or 11 am! I cannot guarantee they will always be the best regarding looks or personality. At that later hour, these women are usually “damaged goods.” Be warned.

We have a lot to discuss. First, let’s look at social dynamics to understand each venue type. Next week, we break down a potential game plan.

Security & Trust in Long-Term Relationships

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By: Chase Amante

security & trust in a long-term relationshipPeople must feel secure in their relationships to stay in them. As relationship trust crumbles, security erodes, and people take steps to guard themselves.

In my four-part relationship model, GISS, the first ‘S’ stands for ‘security.’ Security, as I use it for relationships, means a few things:

  • Trust that you are who you seem to be.

  • Trust that you can be relied upon for what’s required.

  • Trust that no outside forces or events can upend the relationship.

The reason I don’t simply call it ‘trust’ is because all these kinds of trust together create a feeling that the relationship is secure. Yet in the absence of this trust, or as the trust erodes, a sense of insecurity prevails.

How secure should you aim to make your relationships? Many men strive to give their women a sense of total security – greater security, in truth, than they can realistically deliver.

It’s a chaotic world out there, full of uncertainty and unknowns. Just as your woman seeks security in her relationship with you, you bear the responsibility of deciding how strong a sense of security you will give her… and whether you can live up to the impression you allow her to have.

Tactics Tuesdays: Talking About Other Girls

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By: Chase Amante

talking about other girlsWhen you talk to girls, talk about other girls. It lets you set sexual frames, communicate popularity with women, and inspire girls to chase you.

Here’s a “golden oldie” of seduction community wisdom:

When talking with girls, talk about other girls.

I first encountered this advice in the first seduction manual I ever read, Swinggcat’s book Real World Seduction. In it, Swinggcat recommended telling girls stories that had other girls in them.

It didn’t take long before I heard this same tactic from other seduction community legends. One advocated talking about “my friend blah blah” and then referring to your friend as “she” and “her” – and if a girl asks, “Is she your girlfriend?” you know you have her hooked.

Another talked about how telling stories about other girls you know or knew allowed women to feel more comfortable around you, showing them you’re not some guy women avoid, while allowing you to show the girls you’re talking to that you have girls just like them in your life already (excellent for attainability).

I don’t see this advice so much anymore, so I figured I’d do a little write up on it specifically, just to get it out there again.

Make Girls Text You Back… On IMPULSE (Trailer)

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By: Chase Amante

Do you ever feel like there’s something you’re missing when texting girls… where if you just GOT it, the responses, dates, lovers, and girlfriends would begin to deluge in?

That missing aspect is a sense of social obligation – one where a girl feels like she HAS to, and also WANTS to(!), message you back.

A sense she gets from the way you write your texts that compels her to respond to you on impulse.

I’ve created a new System on texting girls in this unique way to create the sense of obligation in them. I call this System “Impulse Texting.”

You can watch Impulse Texting trailer below:

(or watch here)

Do Drugs Help You Pick Up Girls?

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By: Alek Rolstad

drugs and picking up girlsDrugs are becoming increasingly popular in today’s nightlife scene. But if you’re on the prowl to pick up girls, are drugs a help – or a hindrance?

Hey guys. I hope you are all doing well.

Today I want to discuss a sensitive topic: drugs and seduction. William Gupta, one of our writers, addressed this topic a while back The Truth About Taking Drugs and Hooking Up with Women. I decided to give my take.

Why this post? I am a night gamer, and it is no secret that the nightlife has more drug consumption than elsewhere else. However, be aware that high drug consumption does not define all venues. This past weekend, I went to a club filled with students. Drug consumption was low. Compare this to a music venue (house music clubs and raves are known for high consumptions of MDMA and Ecstasy) or a high-end club (cocaine), and you will notice they are worlds apart.

Honestly, I prefer venues where drug consumption is low. It is easier to run game. MDMA makes everyone behave weirdly, and running good game becomes challenging. Cocaine turns people into loud jerks: girls are bitchier; men are loud and annoying. Drug consumption is a huge problem in my book.

I felt the need to write this post because I’ve noticed that the threshold to try out and take drugs is lower these days. When I started out clubbing around 2010, you seldom saw much drug use in clubs, and if it took place, it wasn’t that visible.

I have noticed that drug use has normalized in the last few years. Seeing lines of cocaine is usual. Lines of 3mmc (a cheaper substitute to cocaine) is not out of the ordinary, and MDMA use at a venue with great music? Well, obviously, you must do that! Who can have fun without it?

I can’t go to ANY venues without girls and guys asking me if I have any or know anyone selling. I know club owners who are frustrated with all the drug sales and usage in clubs. They get in serious trouble if the authorities find out that their venue is a junkie fest or if anything bad happens due to drugs, including rape, overdose, and even death—the latter happened in Paris clubs a few years ago.

I’ve been clubbing for a while and have tried different drugs. I will only talk about drugs common in clubs and those I’ve tried.

I will discuss my experience with them in the context of seduction. However, I will not discuss the following:

  • The dangers of drugs; they are well known. Most are illegal and made in shady labs. You do not know about composition and manufacture. Being a questionable business, they often cut the drugs with dangerous stuff.

  • The illegality of drugs: you commit a legal risk by carrying, offering, and taking drugs. I will not discuss this element.

  • The cost of drugs. Yes, they are expensive.

  • Getting busted taking drugs in a venue. Bouncers will kick you out (rightfully so), and you will be banned from the venue.

These factors are real. You should consider each in your assessment.

  • I will also not discuss alcohol and pick up as I have covered this in a two-part series.

When discussing these drugs, I do so objectively given my experience and avoid moralizing, or at least I’ll try. I think all drugs circulating in clubs lately are annoying and kill the party. At the end of the day, it is your body and your choice.

Here are my experiences with each drug.