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Girls' Signs of Interest: Why Can't Most Men See Them?

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By: Chase Amante

missing girls' signs of interestMost guys have ‘signal blindness’ to many of the signs women send. Why is this… and what can they do to start seeing women’s signals and signs of interest?

When I first started coaching men on meeting women, I discovered I had an unusual power nearly none of the men I coached possessed:

I was able to recognize girls’ signs of interest.

Like anyone new at anything, I at first worried about being a bad coach not worth the money students were paying me. However, I soon discovered that simply by directing men to interested women and giving them a few basic things to do, I’d amaze my students.

My more intermediate students could see some of these signs, although often not until I pointed them out. If I told a student like this he’d missed an escalation window with a girl (i.e., a chance to move things forward with her), then pointed out the signs she’d shown that indicated that, he’d nod his head and realize it: “Oh yeah, I did notice her doing that. So that’s why she did that!”

He’d noticed the signs, which means some part of him had learned to pay attention for them… but he hadn’t progressed to acting on them. He hadn’t learned to pounce on such signs.

The guys who were new, on the other hand, were oblivious. They had no idea which girls liked them, or that any did. They could not tell a wildly interested girl from a disinterested one. If you got them into a conversation with a girl opening escalation windows left and right, they’d just keep talking normally. When you asked them why they didn’t take advantage of all the openings the girl was giving them, they’d say, “Huh? I thought she was just talking normally!”

I have sat in on guys’ conversations and dates, helped the guy to pull the girl to another venue, or even to pull her home, all while the guy had no idea the girl was open to doing any of that with him. When we talk later the guy is astounded the girl went that far with him and wants to know how I knew she would.

How I knew she would is simple: girls are constantly signaling their interest levels and openness, and I can see these things… but apparently, surprisingly to me at first, most men cannot.

Tactics Tuesdays: Verbal Buy-In During Sexual Escalation

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By: Chase Amante

verbal buy-in escalation to intimacyAnother way to get intimate with women. Rather than just feeling them up and undressing them, you can prompt them to verbalize desire for you instead.

In my article on pussy-centric escalation, a commenter asked me for examples of getting verbal, logical buy-in to your escalation to intimacy. I recommended this for any girl who seemed like she was either on the fence or could cause trouble (e.g., an orange flag girl, etc.).

So let’s talk verbal buy-in during your sex escalations!

Verbal buy-in is anything you are doing to get a girl to affirm that yes, she really wants this next step in the seduction to occur.

You’ve no doubt heard of the social justice / feminist / egalitarian concept of “affirmative consent”, yes? You might’ve thought it a terrible, seduction-killing concept. But believe it or not going for verbal buy-in as you seduce is basically just this: it is the same concept as “affirmative consent”, just gussied up and made sexier.

I’m going to show you how to do this today, and add another powerful tool to your sexual escalation arsenal.

Not Getting Laid? You're Playing It Too "Safe" with Girls

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By: Chase Amante

not getting laidGuys who are not getting laid are so due to “safety.” They don’t do the three things guys who do get laid do, and they pay the price for it in sexlessness.

When a guy is not getting laid, it is almost always for the same reason:

He is playing it too safe with girls.

I don’t mean “safe” as in “avoiding sketchy situations with girls bristling with red flags.”

Sure, red flag girls might be easier, but that’s not the kind of “success” you want.

Instead I mean “safe” as in he is doing things to protect his ego and avoid work that might not pay off instantly, the cost of this being that he continues to not get laid with girls.

So long as he continues playing things this kind of “safe”, he will remain stuck in a dry spell, going nowhere with girls, and not getting laid.

The only way out of it (aside from Lady Luck taking pity on him and throwing him a freebie one day) is to stop playing it so safe… and begin taking the kind of risks that bring girls into one’s life and bed.

[WATCH] Day Game Coaching Student Goes IN-FIELD (Real Time Coaching)

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By: Hector Castillo

Have you ever wanted to see what it looks like for a student to get coached live, in-field, to do better with girls he approaches on the street?

Well believe it or not I had a super gracious student of mine who allowed me to record and share one of our coaching sessions where he went live into the field to make approaches and take me with him.

Tips to Pick Up Girls in Venues with Bad Male-Female Ratios

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By: Alek Rolstad

pick up girls despite a bad sex ratioFound yourself in a venue where the male-female ratio is no good? Too many hot dogs, not enough buns? Here’s how to pick up girls there anyway.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Last week I discussed the men-to-women ratio when you are out, how it affects the social dynamics, and the difficulty level you will face, thus, your results.

Dealing with an unfavorable male-to-female ratio (more men than women), whether at a party, club, or social gathering, will always make pickup and seduction MUCH harder for you. It is unbelievable how much effect this has, and odd why it is talked about so little. I know Chase has discussed it from a different, broader perspective before.

A bad ratio can redefine your night and make it more challenging because:

  • You face more male competition (women will raise their standards).

  • All men are valued less (a high supply with a low demand will lower the value of ALL the demand).

  • Women have a stronger frame because they are in a position of power. This means more testing, jealousy plots, and other annoying hoops to get through.

  • Women will turn into attention-seekers because men lose their value.

  • If you manage to hook, you have more men constantly bothering you.

Yes, a bad ratio is a significant factor.

Last week we discussed how too many girls can be problematic because of the pendulum effect: girls will eventually get bored and leave, turning the tides in your disfavor.

The IDEAL ratio is when the ratio is balanced, preferably with a bit more girls, 55/45 or even 60/40. Beyond that, the pendulum will swing in the wrong direction. For more info on this, check out my previous post.

So today, I will discuss how to deal with a bad ratio. We will cover how you should approach bad ratio nights and how to do damage control, but first, we need to discuss preventive measures.

How to Always Act the Right Way with Girls (1 BIG Secret!)

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By: Chase Amante

how to act the right way with girlsGirls put guys in some tricky situations. Is there a way to always know how to act the right way with a girl? There is… and it’s not as hard as you’d think.

Have you ever known a guy who was ultra-smooth, and seemed to somehow always know the right thing to do with a girl?

Ever wish you had a way to be like that guy, and always know how to act the right way with girls yourself?

Believe it or not, the secret that ultra-smooth guy has access to has nothing to do with his personality or his upbringing.

He doesn’t have any special powers inaccessible to other men.

He’s actually doing something that any guy can learn to do.

He probably never even set out to learn how to do it.

But you can.

You can specifically TARGET this ability, and deliberately seek to become a guy who always know how to act the right way with a girl.

All it takes it is a bit of a...

shift!

When Girls Try to Dictate Frames to You

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By: Chase Amante

girl dictates frameEarly in a relationship, many women will try to dictate what that relationship will be. How you respond to these “frame dictations” determines everything.

There’s a newsletter I recently sent out to the Girls Chase Newsletter list on women’s early frame announcements (EFAs). If you’re unfamiliar with EFAs, these are women’s demonstrations to you, either before sex or not long after it, regarding what they’re looking for with you.

A girl might be looking for something casual. She might be looking for something serious. She might not know what she’s looking for. Either way she is usually going to convey her position or lack of one to you in an early frame announcement. You will see it – if you’re paying attention, and know what to look for.

While I was writing the newsletter on EFAs, I briefly inserted my own opinions on which ones I preferred versus disliked, before removing them. A newsletter doesn’t need my opinions; it’s more useful without, just giving the facts, so you can decide what suits your own agenda.

However, in that moment when I wrote my own personal preferences (before removing them), I realized the EFAs I disliked all had something in common, and the EFAs I liked had something in common too: the ones I dislike are the ones where the woman attempts to dictate the terms of the relationship, whereas the ones I like are the ones where she leaves it more up to you.

I thought it might be fun to have a little look at these differences, between women attempting to dictate the frame, versus when they declare themselves more open to you setting it.

Sex Ratios, Human Dynamics, and Picking Up Girls

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By: Alek Rolstad

sex ratio & picking up girlsThe male-to-female sex ratio has a big impact on how people behave in nightlife. A favorable ratio can help you pick up girls… but a bad one can block you.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Today I want to talk about social dynamics and sex ratios.

There’s no doubt that social dynamics play a crucial role in night game while at clubs, bars, and parties, and this post also applies to social circle game, including social gatherings and private parties. Seduction occurs in social settings, so they both have that in common.

Anyone active in pickup and seduction needs social skills and a good understanding of social settings because women like socially savvy men. In my last article, I made the case that even day gamers should go to social gatherings to focus on social dynamics, so check out that post. (And if you are a beginner, you should.)

Let’s discuss a factor in both night game and social settings that determine the difficulty level so much that this simple factor can break or make your night.

That factor is the ratio, to be more precise, the male-to-female ratio in your pickup setting. You may already have a good idea about what we are about to discuss, and you likely have some knowledge about how the male-to-female ratio can affect your outing.

Nevertheless, it’s an overlooked factor that we have not discussed much. And if you are a seasoned reader, you know how we operate: we will go in-depth on how the male-to-female ratio affects social dynamics. So, this will be a theoretical but important post. Next week we will get more practical and cover different solutions to unfavorable ratios.

Is Success in Life Incompatible with Success with Women?

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By: Chase Amante

success and women: incompatible?In contrast to what many will tell you, successful men often struggle with women… while prolific Casanovas lead messy, unsuccessful lives. Why is this so?

If you’ve spent any time in the manosphere, you’d be forgiven for thinking success in all the ways a Disney Prince must succeed at will bring you all the women you could ever want.

Just become financially successful, respected by your peers, and a man of upstanding quality, and your princess shall appear! The Disney castle will rise before you; songbirds will twitter beautiful melodies; and you will Live Happily Ever After.

But is this correct?

Is male success the key to limitless bounty with the fairer sex?

My experience and that of thousands of men I have talked to, myriad public figures, scientific papers, and the histories of dozens of cultures all seems to point to the same one answer:

“Not really, no.”

The far more troubling question – and the one we’ll examine today – is this:

Is too much success as a man actually counterproductive to romantic and sexual success?

Girls Flirt When It Feels Safe to Flirt

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By: Chase Amante

girls flirt when safeWhy do girls flirt in some places but not others? Why will they flirt with some men but not others? It has as much to do with safety as it does attraction.

How do you get a girl to flirt with you?

For starters, make it feel safe for her to.

There are various ways women may feel like flirting with you is safe – ranging from because they believe there’s nothing that “can happen” to because they believe that anything that could happen would be positive.

Let’s take a quick look at what this means – how and why girls judge it “safe to flirt” – and how to use this to create meaningful flirtations that lead your seductions forward toward consummation.