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Insights from the Mind of a Seducer
Summer Fashion For Men: Your A to Z Guide to Looking Sexy in Summertime
Note from Chase: this is a guest post from Darius B. over
on Sexy Style for Joe. Darius has really overdelivered here putting
together a comprehensive and classy post on getting your summer style
tightened up exceedingly well to make you look stylish, attractive, and
put-together. This our second post devoted exclusively to men’s
fashion, after our 2013 piece, “Fashion for Men: The Primer on Looking
Amazing.” If you’re ready
to get suited up for summer and get yourself looking crisp and sexy,
this article from Darius will leave you in excellent shape. Here’s
Darius.
Can you feel it? Summer is getting closer and the weather is getting warmer every day. Well, even if you can’t feel it yet, I’m sure you’ve noticed how sexy women look on those beautiful days when they drop layers upon layers of unnecessary clothing and swap their sweaters and jeans for light, almost see-through sundresses. Ah… just writing about it makes my imagination go wild.
But what about us, men? The signature tight dress shirt and blazer or coat with a scarf to accessorize that used to get the job done in making us look sexy as hell is not exactly a comfortable option on warmer days, as we’d be sweating like a shy teenager on his first date.
We also don’t really have a clothing equivalent to what sundresses and cut off shorts are to women. The best the fashion industry has managed to come up with are shorts that either look very unflattering on most physiques or that are straight up lame and make even male models look asexual.
And so, is it possible for us to dress on the hot summer days in a way that make women go “Wow, who’s that guy?”?
Yes. Though summer brings a set of challenges to dressing sexy as a man, it also enables us to go for a bit more of a raw, sexual look, without appearing try-hard.
This article in turn is about giving you some ideas on great styles of clothing for summer and helping you build outfits that will not only look very sexy on you, but will also feel comfortable. We’ll start off with some core concepts, followed by some tips on picking (or not picking) specific items, then sum it all up with some practical examples you could model.
Should You Be Lovers… or Friends?
While
growing up, women always meant one thing to me: girlfriend material. Women were
always potential lovers; never once did it slip into my mind that I
could be friends with them.
It wasn’t until I started racking up lovers that I felt the need to slot women into particular roles in my life. I couldn’t (and didn’t) want to sleep with every woman that came into my life, because some women ended up becoming a bigger headache than they were worth as lovers.
However, I began to realize the importance and utility that a mutual friendship could produce. High status women are excellent for social fulfillment, preselection, and they can help you get a closer look at how women act on a daily basis.
Unfortunately, I ran into quite the conundrum. I would harmlessly flirt with women, only to find myself sleeping with them and having our friendships break down. Women would seek sex from me, and I would give it to them, thinking we could still be friends afterwards.
After all, it was just sex.
As I quickly began to realize, I was ruining potential friendships and potential lovers by flipping in between definite roles. The relationships were in some weird middle of the road status, and things would become awkward in a hurry when neither of us knew how to proceed.
What was the underlying problem for me?
I wasn’t defining our relationships roles from the outset. The perpetual chaos that ensues in this situation works against producing stable relationships and causes them to break down. I lost plenty of women because of my indecisiveness, and you could too if you don’t know where each woman belongs in your life.
Coming Out on Top: Power Struggles in Your Relationships
In the piece on Dale Carnegie’s advice, a commenter asked about dealing with power struggles:
“Hey Chase this is a great article. Could you do an article about how to handle power struggles in friendships? I find it really has to do with investment. For example, my friend wants me to meet him somewhere, but I want him to meet me. Its like five minutes away, but its a power struggle thing. I get really annoyed when people do this because I’d like to have friends who don’t try to make things a competition like this. But I also have learned from this site that everyone is like this. Can you help me out?”
In the end, power struggles are always about the same thing, whether they’re in your romantic or sexual relationships, or your platonic ones – and I’ll cover all of these and everything else in the scope of this article.
There’s little more frustrating than having to deal with the relationship equivalent of guerilla warfare, but this is exactly what power struggles are – someone using frame control attempts, passive aggression, moral superiority and other forms of social subterfuge to undermine your position and climb the social ladder to a position above you in the hierarchy.
Not fun at all... and frequently quite draining.
So let’s talk about how power struggles come about, and what you can do once you realize you’re in one.
How to Know When Women Like You
You
meet a really cute girl at an event or out on the street. You
know right off the bat that she’s the kind of girl who gives you
butterflies in your stomach. She smiles at you. You exchange
pleasantries. You vaguely reference how the two of you should get
together sometime. She giggles and agrees. She gives you her number and
says to contact her sometime. The two of you part ways.
You walk away with a foolish grin on your face. You feel great about the interaction. Then suddenly… the feeling starts to wear away. Doubt starts to creep into your mind.
“Wait… did she actually like me or was she just being nice. Does she know that I want to go out with her or does she just expect to meet up to talk about business stuff?”
And then you let those doubts seep into the next interaction you have with her. Maybe you come off a bit too needy when you text her. Maybe you’re too friendly and not sexy enough the next time you see her in person.
And you lose a girl who you could’ve had a great connection with… just because you didn’t know that the girl liked you. You couldn’t be sure of your ability to read the signs and you couldn’t be certain that the girl was attracted.
Has this ever happened to you before? I bet it has.
Sometimes, even when you’re pretty sure that a girl likes you, the lack of certainty can actually prevent you from making something happen. And then you end up frustrated or regretful. Maybe months or years later the girl even tells you that she liked you and was waiting for you to make the right move.
Well, I’m going to show you how to put yourself in the position to make the right move. I’m going to show you all of the things to look for so that you’ll never have to wonder whether or not she actually likes you again.
A reader
asks:
One of the things you realize when you first start