Dealing with Social Friction, Part 2: Reevaluation w/ the 3 Rs

When you encounter heavy friction socially, don’t just keep plowing. Instead, stop and reevaluate with the 3 Rs so you’ll know just what to do next.

In Part One of this series, I introduced the concept of social friction; that is, anything and everything that emerges to impede or block your social objectives (such as, for instance, bedding down some cute new girl).

To recap, social friction includes:

• Women’s tests and resistance

• Interruptions, disruptions, and cockblocks from others

• Logistical issues and obstacles (such as no place to isolate a girl to)

• Unanticipated wildcards, like a girl drinking too much or discovering she’s lost her phone

In an ideal world, we’d be able to construct seductions (and other social endeavors) free from friction. But friction-less seductions only occur on paper and in the imagination. The real world is messy, imperfect, unpredictable, and filled with often unexpected sources of friction.

Thus, rather than hope for perfection and count on Lady Luck (who sadly will not always be on our side) to see us through, it’s prudent to allow for friction.

While we can’t always know precisely what forms friction will take, what we can do is fall back on an approach to dealing with friction that gives us the best odds of ending up in a situation where success lies within reach.