The Group Approach Spill-Over Effect

When you talk to one group, others take note of you. This is the “spill over effect”: a way to meet more people by meeting other people first.

Hey guys, and welcome back!

Last time I shared insights on building social micro momentum or “warming up” socially before going for the girl you really want.

Why is it a good idea to warm up?

• To eliminate approach anxiety

• To feel warmed-up socially so you approach girls confidently and smoothly, increasing your chances of success

• To acquire benefits like social proof and familiarity with girls so that you can re-engage later if needed

How do you build social momentum?

• Start early

• Select a warm venue if you feel like you are at risk of getting rejected

• Approach in the most indirect and risk-averse way possible. The goal is to keep a few conversations going here and there

• Interactions shouldn’t last less than five minutes or more than 20 minutes. Ideally, strive for 10 – 15 minutes

• Don’t approach the girl you want yet, since you do not want to waste the opportunity when warming up

Once you feel ready to play seriously, you will be warmed up. Now you can approach those hot girls. You don’t need warm-ups because hotter girls are harder to approach (but not necessarily). You are probably feeling more anxious about approaching them because you find them attractive.

After all, isn’t it better to approach a girl you like when you are warmed up and have higher chances of succeeding with your approach, rather than doing so when your social muscle is still cold, and your approach may be unsmooth?