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Articles by Author: Chase Amante

On the "Women Insult & Shame Men Who Approach Them" Mass Hysteria

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anti-approaching mass hysteriaMany men in the 2020s are terrified to approach women. They’re paralyzed with fear a girl might shame or insult them. These fears are a male mass hysteria.

Mass hysteria has gripped the minds of millions of Western men as of the mid-2020s. These men are not just hesitant to approach women – they’re terrified of it.

And while approach anxiety has always had at its root overblown fears and paranoia, the latest variant is so wildly inflamed it can’t be called anything other than a mass hysteria.

This modern anti-approaching hysteria goes something like this:

“You’d have to be a fool to approach a woman in the modern age! Women have become so hostile to men approaching them that it’s not worth the risk of being shamed online or charged with harassment. Anyone trying to get men to approach women in this environment is an enemy of men.”

Like other moral panics, those caught up in the hysteria live in self-reinforcing bubbles. Inside these bubbles they repeat their claims and egg on one another’s panic. They seize upon the slimmest proof to reinforce their hysterias, and dismiss all evidence to the contrary.

Feeling threatened and cornered, a purity spiral has taken hold of these men. Anyone who argues against their belief in the vast, lurking, insidious dangers of approaching a woman is cast out as “not with us but against us”, an agent of evil who seeks only to do harm to these pathetic hysterics.

Interacting with them online, I’ve found myself a frequent target of their hostility. It’s obvious they live in a different reality. I and all the other playboys I know, as well as all the beginner playboys in our community and our forum, can walk outside right now and approach as many women as we want without encountering a shred of the hostility or shaming the hysterical men claim lurks just behind every deceptively cute girl.

Average, ordinary, non-super-good-looking-or-rich-or-high-status men all across the United States, Europe, and the rest of the world are approaching multiples of women every day and do not run into any of this behavior the hysterics claim ubiquitous.

What’s caused this hysteria to grip the minds of so many millions of self-isolating modern men?

Why, despite the free online availability of materials on how to approach girls, have men become ever more inward-looking, more fearful of an approach than ever?

And might there be something to these men’s beliefs?

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Different Girls' Different Reactions to Being Cold Approached

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why women respond how they do to cold approachDifferent women respond differently to cold approach. Some are nice, some are haughty – and the reasons for the differences vary from girl to girl.

Different Girls' Different Reactions to Being Cold Approached

Different women respond differently to cold approach. Some are nice, some are haughty – and the reasons for the differences vary from girl to girl.

I shared a video on X the other day of a girl talking about how grateful she is to guys who still cold approach, plus how surprised she was at a woman she complimented being closed and aloof to her.

It raises an interesting point we don’t talk about quite enough in my opinion: why are women’s reactions to cold approach so vastly different?

Any guy who’s in the field knows how variable cold approach reactions can be.

Unless you’re doing something very wrong (or very right), most women won’t be openly hostile or wildly exuberant. But within that range in the middle between the poles, there’s a great deal of variation.

You’re the same guy, approaching the same way… but some girls just react very differently to you than others do. Wherefore should this be so?

9 Signs a Girl Is a Boy Crazy Trollop

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signs she's a boy-crazy girlWhen a girl is boy crazy, she can’t get her mind off men. She needs a man – & almost any man might do! Here’s how to spot these girls easily (+ what to do).

How do you tell if a girl you’re talking to is just a regular chick trying to get by in the world… or a love-drunk, boy-crazy trollop? How do you know if she’s with you because you’re great, or because she’s got a hole in her life (or her cooch) to fill and you seem like you could be a fit?

Boy crazy girls are a mixed bag for relationships; they’re also a mixed bag for seduction. At least in terms of pickups and quick flings, these gals can have their pluses; though they also come with downsides. These girls are worth understanding, however, because you will meet a lot of them.

I came across a wonderful article written by a woman who’s had enough with these types of women as friends – these strumpets perpetually in pursuit of men. I’ll quote a few choice bits:

One of my biggest peeves about female friendships are women whose entire lives are centered around men, relationships, crazy situationships, Tinder, and their never ending thirst for low quality males who mistreat, reject, ghost and emotionally abandon them.

There is nothing more unattractive than women whose entire existence revolves around chasing men. Every conversation, every night out, every interaction involves exhausting scenarios of who she is talking to now, what he said to her, who ghosted her, how many males she is seeing this week, and all the emotional disappointments that come with texting with 50 different candidates a month. It is absolutely exhausting to have to listen to women who only have one subject to talk about, men. And then, there are women who disappear the moment they get into a relationship. She takes this male so seriously, that she practically disappears to concentrate on her connection to him. She prioritizes some goon who offered her a getaway, and she acts like she’s already in a serious relationship, when he just needs someone to screw for the weekend. When he stops answering her texts, she’s back acting like my best friend needing some advice, for the 101st time.

Men ghost them, therefore the man is bad. A girlfriend no longer picks up the phone, therefore the friendship was bad. They extract every ounce of a friend’s energy, and they keep coming back expecting me to listen to the latest dating drama, as if this one is different from the last. Nothing ever changes for man crazy women. When they should be getting professional help, they spend that money on a new hairstyle- maybe that will make her more attractive for the next guy.

The full blog article is worth reading (the writer is a very self-aware woman with some delightful perspectives), but these bits give you some idea about what we’ll discuss here.

How do you tell whether the girl you’re chatting up is boy crazy… versus just a regular girl?

And if she is boy crazy, is she worth seducing or dating – or not?

Deleting Girls' Numbers Because They Don't Text Back Is Bad Game

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should you delete girls' numbers?Guys will tell you “if she flakes or doesn’t reply, delete her number.” Yet girls’ availability always shifts; the veteran playboy knows not to delete her.

A lot of guys, for their own peace of mind, and to head off any needy-chasing behavior in themselves, delete girls’ numbers if they judge a girl too flakey, unresponsive, or rude.

I did it myself as a dating newbie. It can give you a jolt of pride, as if you ‘rejected’ this girl who wasn’t showing sufficient interest in you. It can also stop you wasting time obsessing over girls you’re unlikely to convert.

There is merit to it, to a degree. It does have its place.

Nevertheless, there is no denying that experienced playboys who get laid a lot don’t do this, and that, in the grand scheme of things, it is the result of bad game.

Women's Pre-Sex Approval Is Irrelevant to Getting Sex

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her approval means nothing for getting her into bedWomen will say they approve of all kinds of things. But if you twist yourself to what women ‘approve’ of, you will never get the girl!

Women approve of a great many things:

  • They approve of nice, kind, self-sacrificial ‘doormat’ men

  • They applaud empowered, career-focused, celibate women

  • They celebrate loose, promiscuous women who leave their families behind

  • They praise obese, ostentatious, fabulously unhealthy women

  • They champion impoverished, uneducated third world migrants

  • They laud men who continue to parent a child they discover is not their own

  • They commend men who accept open relationships at the woman’s behest

The credulous man takes this approval of women’s at face value. He assumes women approve of the things they do because they, themselves, want those kinds of men and experiences in their own lives.

But when the credulous man accepts all these things women show their approval of at face value, and works to bring himself in line with the things women claim to approve of, he discovers something else:

Despite bending to women’s whims, women just do not want him!

There’s another kind of man out there, however; different from the credulous man.

This man never takes the things women say at face value.

This man considers women’s approval irrelevant; he laughs at women’s disapproval; and in the end, he gets the girl, again and again and again.

How to Not Give a Fuck What People Think About You

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how to not give a fuckThere’s nobody cooler than the guy who just does not give a fuck what anyone thinks. Yet to become Mr. IDGAF, the road is long, and the journey arduous.

Responding to my article about girls giving dirty looks, Omar, a Middle Eastern man living in a Nordic country struggling with self-consciousness when he goes out to meet girls, asks this:

am a foregienr in a nordic country and i like going out [solo] without a wing besides am not like a buff dude am a bit skinny. Anyways without going on paychopath i want to not give a fuck or atleast not too much fucks about what others think

Well, the first thing to say is nobody actually doesn’t give a fuck what others think. Everybody cares. The people who seem to care the least typically care the MOST. Since junior high I have sought to cultivate an aura of ‘coolness’, and I’ve had many, many people from high school on proclaim that “Chase is so cool; he doesn’t give a fuck what ANYONE thinks of him!”

The truth is that in cultivating that IDGAF aura I have been probably more intensely focused on how other people reacted to me than anyone else I know.

I have had a number of extremely cool people in my life, who seemed most of the time to not give a fuck what anyone thought of them. But I have seen them all in moments of vulnerability, when that IDGAF veneer fell off, and I witnessed just how deeply they cared about what some person or the other thought about them. There is no one who actually DGAF.

But beyond that: you can indeed ‘thicken your skin’.

You can get to the point where it becomes much, much harder to hurt you or intimidate you.

Yet the road is long and arduous, it is filled with trials, and it is not for the faint of heart.

I’m going to use nightlife as the basis of my examples of ‘not giving a fuck’ here, but the general takeaways apply to everything. Nightlife is just a more extreme environment, and it’s what our commenter Omar asks about; I think it works here, and I’ll use it.

Tactics Tuesdays: Prefacing Your Ask Out with a Soft Close

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using the soft closeRaise your rate of girls saying “yes” to dates with you by asking them out with a soft close. Be smoother, get more dates, & experience fewer rejections!

If you listened to my lengthy interview with legendary playboy Skills, you may recall a section of the interview (near the end) where we spent time discussing the use of a soft close.

(the gist of what we discussed was Skills’s approach to texting soft closes girls after he takes their numbers, while my approach to texting soft closes girls before taking their numbers; either one, by the way, works – it’s more a matter of stylistic/game preference)

A soft close is a way to create a short yes-ladder that eases girls into a date with you.

Rather than smack her in the face with a high pressure date request out of the blue, you baby step her into agreeing to a date – raising her comfort, your smoothness, and the odds you turn this girl you’re having a conversation with into, first, your date, and then, your lover.

Today we’ll look at how to use soft closes.

How to Stop Missing Girls' (Obvious!) Signs of Interest

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stop missing women's subtle signsWomen constantly signal the desire to meet (or not meet) men. But what do you do if you don’t see girls’ signals? Follow this guide & that’ll soon change…

We’ve been talking about guys missing women’s signals for ages on Girls Chase.

Time to finally get a guide up on learning how to read these.

Whether you believe it or not, women all around you are signaling their interest (as well as their lack thereof) constantly.

Most men are somewhat aware of these signals. The majority of men however miss a lot of the nuances. Some men struggle to notice women’s signals at all.

This article will teach you a process for learning to recognize subtle feminine signals – that way you can then respond to them… both to stop missing out on girls who are highly interested in you, and to better avoid the girls who just want to be left alone.

How to Get Dates as a Guy (WITHOUT Using Apps): 9 Steps

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how to get dates as a guy (without using an app)We’re all sick of dating apps. But how are you supposed to get a date WITHOUT one? By re-entering the world and following these nine (9) simple steps.

If you’re a man who wants more dates, there’s a good chance you’re tired of dating apps.

You have good reason to be:

  • Apps heavily down-rank average guys’ profiles

  • They force you to compete solely on pictures

  • And let’s not forget: they’re 75% men! (sausage fest)

Just one problem though: without dating apps, how are you supposed to get dates as a guy?

How to get dates is something every guy knew pre-dating apps, but has become increasingly ‘forgotten knowledge’.

Well, let’s bring it back into the light.

This guide takes you through nine (9) date-getting steps that will fill your calendar with winsome dames.

Let’s begin.

How to Pick Up Single Moms

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how to pick up single momsWomen’s standards are getting higher and higher. But you know whose standards aren’t? Single moms. Follow this guide to pick up a single mom today.

One of the biggest complaints I hear from guys nowadays is that women’s standards have gone out of control. Every woman says she wants a man who’s 6’8”, with male model looks, a jacked physique, who owns 10 houses, famous on Instagram, making $3 million a year. It’s crazy.

Guys don’t believe me when I tell them women’s standards are an opening bid, that these so-called ‘standards’ women profess to have really have nothing to do whatsoever with the guys they actually go for and are instead designed to try to make the woman seem more valuable to prospective mates.

Guys keep asking me where all these low standards-having women are.

Well, I’ll tell you:

If you want the easiest women you can imagine – women with rock bottom standards, willing to take just about anybody – women so burned out, exhausted, and hungry for male attention they’ll gobble down whatever guy finally manages to make them feel like women again – there’s one kind of woman in particular you ought to go for:

That’s single moms.

Today we’re going to look at just how to pick them up.