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Articles by Author: Chase Amante

See the Room

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Last night as I walked back from a social event, dressed in a well-tailored gray suit jacket and a dark red silk button-down shirt and jeans, I passed by a new nightclub that had been open for a couple of months but that I hadn't yet visited. I'd heard from most people that it was big, and nice, but was only "good" for the first month or so. But I figured I'd check it out anyway.

I paid the entrance fee, walked around the ground floor, and saw some stairs leading up into a roped-off VIP section that encircled the downstairs from above. I liked to survey a new environment the first time I walk in, so I know all the nooks and crannies from the very beginning and have the lay of the land down before I settle in. I walked authoritatively up to the bouncers standing guard, smiled slightly at them and nodded, and they gestured for me to go up, so I did. Upstairs I found that the VIP section was effectively closed - no one had rented anything out up here, or maybe up here was not open for renting on a weeknight.

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Most of the staff cleaning up up there ignored me, but I spotted one of them locked onto me with his eyes, clearly realizing I was not supposed to be there, so I ducked into one of the bathrooms to use the facilities. When I came back out, I went to do down a flight of stairs to head back, only to find a large metal sliding door shut in the way at the bottom of them. I went back upstairs and ran into a tall, stern-looking bouncer, and he gestured in another direction. I made a graceful thank you gesture, and headed down the stairs he pointed to, back to the main floor.

Downstairs, I found a spot at the back end of a bar, in a prominent position overlooking the crowded dance floor, but not crowded itself. I took that as my spot, and leaned against the bar, ordered a drink, and looked out over the crowd.

Check Out the New Girls Chase Team Page!

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girls chase team As of today, we've got a new team page up so you can get a little more background on the people who are bringing you these fabulous programs and articles. You can view the new page here:

Our Folks

If you've been wondering who that scoundrel Ricardus really is who's been writing all those posts, or who the heck that guy Genaro is that writes back to you when you send us a message, well, now you've got your answer. Head on over and check the new page out, and let me know what you think below.

Cheers,
Chase

Recommended Reading

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recommended readingHere's another diversion from the ordinary (we're getting a lot of that this week - the "Do You Like Someone?" infographic yesterday, and now a book post), but we had a few requests over the past few days for a recommended reading list... and since those are fun to do and I haven't done one on here before... well, here you go.

I've broken these down into sections via category. Some are books everyone's going to love... some are books only certain folks will. I'll note which books will appeal to which people in the descriptions.

Anyway, who's this post good for? This is good for anyone who wants to read on a wider selection of topics - or anyone who's curious to explore some of the literary background of a lot my own personal thinking.

Note: yes, the links to books on Amazon below are affiliate links. No, you don't have to buy the books via the links included. But they're there if you need them.

Do You Like Someone? Here's How... and Why (Infographic)

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Do you like someone? If so... ever wonder why?

Paging through some research, I came across a study performed in 2002 by Helen E. Fisher et al., entitled "Defining the Brain Systems of Lust, Romantic Attraction, and Attachment," published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior that introduced a 3-emotion system for attraction and mating I hadn't heard of before.

Rather than breaking this down and explaining it in a blog post though, I wanted to try a somewhat different tack than usual. So, today's post is an infographic post - something you can scan, rather than immerse yourself in.

Here's hoping you enjoy. Infographic below the jump...

Carnival of Dating Advice, 5th Edition

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carnival of dating advice

It's that time again, so introducing the fifth edition of the Carnival of Dating Advice! As usual, we've got some interesting (and eccentric) articles from all over the Internet for your reading enjoyment, ranging from cohabitation to co-dependence. Let's have a look.

Topics this week include Self-Improvement, Relationships, one for the ladies, and another on friendship. We've got some pretty engaging articles this week, so I'm excited to present them to you and hope you enjoy.

On with the carnival...

Carnival of Dating Advice, 4th Edition

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carnival of dating advice

Welcome to the fourth edition of the Carnival of Dating Advice! We're rounding out almost two months since launching the carnival, and once again we've got a healthy dose of some of the best recent posts on dating, relationships, sex, self-improvement, and more from all over the Internet. Ready your clicking finger and let's dive in.

The range this week has expanded again, and we've got articles going everywhere from what not to do on a blind date to why not to involve your live-in nanny in a relationship issue (random, I know, but the underlying principle of the advice is a good one!). There's some fun and interesting stuff to page through here this week.

On with the carnival...

How to Prevent Cheating by Your Girlfriend

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how to prevent cheatingYesterday I made a post on the infamous scenario of when a girl has a boyfriend and you want to date her or get together with her anyway.

As you might expect (though I admittedly hadn't really thought about before making the post), some guys got upset and one of them responded with, and I paraphrase, "How could you?" (another one responded with a comment that wasn't as eloquently put and didn't merit posting)

How could I what, you might ask? Why... how could I share with men this forbidden knowledge on how to get girls who are already attached! Now, I get a lot of people asking myself to censor myself on this website - human sexuality is the single most controlled and censored thing in recorded (and doubtless before recorded) history, after all... we're all biological organisms, and the ultimate aim of all biological organisms is reproduction. Everyone and their brothers wants to be able to control the system, maximize their own abilities to mate, and prevent others from becoming or remaining threats to them.

But as luck would have it, I prepared a companion piece for yesterday's post on how to get a girl with a boyfriend: namely, one on how to prevent cheating; or, how to make your girlfriend not want to stray... and how to make her so crazy about YOU that no other guy will be much of a threat.

Do please note: we're going to take a walk down evolutionary psychology road, so if you have any reservations about wanting to open up the hood on relationships and see what's really underneath, this ain't the post for you. You have been warned...!

Girl Has a Boyfriend? 3 Things to Do, and 7 Things NOT to

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girl has a boyfriendI've been with my fair share of "attached" women before - that's girls with boyfriends and girls with husbands. As I've mentioned before, the way I see it, there's always some guy, SOMEWHERE who's going to be angry you're sleeping with a girl - whether he's her boyfriend, her ex-boyfriend, her husband, or just some guy who's already "called dibs" on her and you moved faster, it doesn't matter - somebody somewhere is upset that you're with "his" girl. So you can either spend time worrying if some man you don't know will have his feelings hurt if you sleep with a woman who wants you, or you can sleep with a woman who wants you and figure that if someone is upset about her for sleeping with someone else, well, that's between that person and her.

And if she was REALLY his, there's not a thing you could've done to get her... trust me.

By the same coin, it doesn't bother me a lick when men are trying to get a girl *I'm* seeing. If you're dating a beautiful girl, men will want her, and men will try to get her. More power to them for trying. And hey, if she DOES give you the slip for some other cat, you can take that as strong evidence that either you weren't doing things right with her, or she wasn't the kind of girl who believes much in loyalty and fidelity, or you're dealing with some combination thereof (usually it's some combination thereof).

Lately though, I've been seeing some pretty lame attempts by men trying to get my girlfriend. And it's made me (and my girlfriend) realize: most men have no idea what to do when a girl has a boyfriend and they like her.

In an effort to stem the tide of lame attempts men make to get girls with boyfriends, I've put together a list here of the top 3 things TO do, and the top 7 things NOT to do when you're trying to get a girl who's got a guy. After reading this list you will, I hope, be in a much better position to avoid making these mistakes - and avoid ending up in time-wasting or worse situations with attached women, too.

Carnival of Dating Advice, 3rd Edition

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carnival of dating advice

Welcome to the third edition of the Carnival of Dating Advice! Per usual, we've got some of the best recent posts on dating, relationships, sex, self-improvement, and more from all over the Internet. Grab some good eats and let's sit down for some good reads.

We’ve got a slimmer range of submissions this week – things that came in and got thrown out included posts on Christian dating, gay dating, a top 10 list that only went on for a few paragraphs and didn't include the top 10, and even one article from an escort service that was actually pretty good and I probably would've posted had it been from anything other than an escort service – but we've still got a solid group of a few good articles here. Take a gander through the links below and see what you can find.

On with the carnival...