Last weekend I spoke at a gathering of the San Diego pickup community. One of the things I skirted over briefly, due to time constraints, but that guys asked me to spend a little more time on and seemed very interested in hearing about, was on disqualifying yourself as a boyfriend.
Ask a guy what his LEAST favorite thing in socializing and seduction is, and it's usually going to come down to a few common issues. Here are a handful of those that we're going to focus on addressing today:
“I hate it when things are going really well with a girl, and she leaves to go to the bathroom and when she comes back it's like everything's changed and she's more serious and there's this weird awkward vibe there now.”
It's an age old question – one that most men spend their lives trying, unsuccessfully, to figure out. What do women want? Books and films have been made about it; men have spent fortunes in pursuit of it; reputations have been staked upon and lost in the timeless search for the answer. Even the venerable (now largely-discredited) Sigmund Freud, who claimed to have spent thirty years peering into the “feminine soul”, ultimately found himself asking, close to his death, “What does a woman want?”
Texting can be a super fun way to stay in contact with a girl, and to build up rapport and interest with her prior to a date, or even to a conversation – sometimes your first conversation.
But where do you start? It can be a bit overwhelming, especially for the guys out there who traditionally have stumbled on their words around women or never know exactly what to say. That's why, in this article, I'm providing you a how-to on text messaging girls.
Getting investment from the women you meet is key to succeeding with them. As you get increasing amounts of compliance from girls, they become more and more comfortable having you take the lead and doing what you ask of them. They respond more positively to you in every way.
You want to get compliance early and often; the more you get, the more quickly things progress, and the more smoothly. Get a woman contributing from the start, and you improve your chances of success with her.
Now... want a way to do all that faster, better, and more efficiently, with stronger results?
Because our previous article on how to move faster with women (read the original here) proved so popular, we’ve put together a follow up with more tips on moving faster with women – and everything from getting phone numbers faster to getting kisses faster to getting the girl you like intimate in bed with you faster.
Even before I dove into actively learning how to improve myself with women, I knew that nice guys finished last. I mean, it’s basically a cliché at this point, right? Everyone knows it. Poor nice guys.
Just wrote this in response to an interesting conversation elsewhere on the Internet, and want to share here. Hope you enjoy.
Most women, like most men, think about what the other person "owes" them more than what they owe the other person. The women I've hooked up with who were straying from their husbands seemed to come in one of two flavors:
I've never slept with a married woman who was excited about / crazy in love with her husband. Here are some comments from the women who've spoken them:
Just watched the new Iron Man 2 trailer that came out today. See it here:
I just read a fascinating article today that brings scientific research to bear on the topic of an old post I made that went on to be featured on some popular dating and seduction websites. The content still resonates and is still relevant today, and so I've reposted again here for you to see and read -- hope you enjoy.
19 December 2007
