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Deleting Girls' Numbers Because They Don't Text Back Is Bad Game

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should you delete girls' numbers?Guys will tell you “if she flakes or doesn’t reply, delete her number.” Yet girls’ availability always shifts; the veteran playboy knows not to delete her.

A lot of guys, for their own peace of mind, and to head off any needy-chasing behavior in themselves, delete girls’ numbers if they judge a girl too flakey, unresponsive, or rude.

I did it myself as a dating newbie. It can give you a jolt of pride, as if you ‘rejected’ this girl who wasn’t showing sufficient interest in you. It can also stop you wasting time obsessing over girls you’re unlikely to convert.

There is merit to it, to a degree. It does have its place.

Nevertheless, there is no denying that experienced playboys who get laid a lot don’t do this, and that, in the grand scheme of things, it is the result of bad game.

Women's Pre-Sex Approval Is Irrelevant to Getting Sex

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her approval means nothing for getting her into bedWomen will say they approve of all kinds of things. But if you twist yourself to what women ‘approve’ of, you will never get the girl!

Women approve of a great many things:

  • They approve of nice, kind, self-sacrificial ‘doormat’ men

  • They applaud empowered, career-focused, celibate women

  • They celebrate loose, promiscuous women who leave their families behind

  • They praise obese, ostentatious, fabulously unhealthy women

  • They champion impoverished, uneducated third world migrants

  • They laud men who continue to parent a child they discover is not their own

  • They commend men who accept open relationships at the woman’s behest

The credulous man takes this approval of women’s at face value. He assumes women approve of the things they do because they, themselves, want those kinds of men and experiences in their own lives.

But when the credulous man accepts all these things women show their approval of at face value, and works to bring himself in line with the things women claim to approve of, he discovers something else:

Despite bending to women’s whims, women just do not want him!

There’s another kind of man out there, however; different from the credulous man.

This man never takes the things women say at face value.

This man considers women’s approval irrelevant; he laughs at women’s disapproval; and in the end, he gets the girl, again and again and again.

How to Not Give a Fuck What People Think About You

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how to not give a fuckThere’s nobody cooler than the guy who just does not give a fuck what anyone thinks. Yet to become Mr. IDGAF, the road is long, and the journey arduous.

Responding to my article about girls giving dirty looks, Omar, a Middle Eastern man living in a Nordic country struggling with self-consciousness when he goes out to meet girls, asks this:

am a foregienr in a nordic country and i like going out [solo] without a wing besides am not like a buff dude am a bit skinny. Anyways without going on paychopath i want to not give a fuck or atleast not too much fucks about what others think

Well, the first thing to say is nobody actually doesn’t give a fuck what others think. Everybody cares. The people who seem to care the least typically care the MOST. Since junior high I have sought to cultivate an aura of ‘coolness’, and I’ve had many, many people from high school on proclaim that “Chase is so cool; he doesn’t give a fuck what ANYONE thinks of him!”

The truth is that in cultivating that IDGAF aura I have been probably more intensely focused on how other people reacted to me than anyone else I know.

I have had a number of extremely cool people in my life, who seemed most of the time to not give a fuck what anyone thought of them. But I have seen them all in moments of vulnerability, when that IDGAF veneer fell off, and I witnessed just how deeply they cared about what some person or the other thought about them. There is no one who actually DGAF.

But beyond that: you can indeed ‘thicken your skin’.

You can get to the point where it becomes much, much harder to hurt you or intimidate you.

Yet the road is long and arduous, it is filled with trials, and it is not for the faint of heart.

I’m going to use nightlife as the basis of my examples of ‘not giving a fuck’ here, but the general takeaways apply to everything. Nightlife is just a more extreme environment, and it’s what our commenter Omar asks about; I think it works here, and I’ll use it.

Tactics Tuesdays: Prefacing Your Ask Out with a Soft Close

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using the soft closeRaise your rate of girls saying “yes” to dates with you by asking them out with a soft close. Be smoother, get more dates, & experience fewer rejections!

If you listened to my lengthy interview with legendary playboy Skills, you may recall a section of the interview (near the end) where we spent time discussing the use of a soft close.

(the gist of what we discussed was Skills’s approach to texting soft closes girls after he takes their numbers, while my approach to texting soft closes girls before taking their numbers; either one, by the way, works – it’s more a matter of stylistic/game preference)

A soft close is a way to create a short yes-ladder that eases girls into a date with you.

Rather than smack her in the face with a high pressure date request out of the blue, you baby step her into agreeing to a date – raising her comfort, your smoothness, and the odds you turn this girl you’re having a conversation with into, first, your date, and then, your lover.

Today we’ll look at how to use soft closes.

How to Stop Missing Girls' (Obvious!) Signs of Interest

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stop missing women's subtle signsWomen constantly signal the desire to meet (or not meet) men. But what do you do if you don’t see girls’ signals? Follow this guide & that’ll soon change…

We’ve been talking about guys missing women’s signals for ages on Girls Chase.

Time to finally get a guide up on learning how to read these.

Whether you believe it or not, women all around you are signaling their interest (as well as their lack thereof) constantly.

Most men are somewhat aware of these signals. The majority of men however miss a lot of the nuances. Some men struggle to notice women’s signals at all.

This article will teach you a process for learning to recognize subtle feminine signals – that way you can then respond to them… both to stop missing out on girls who are highly interested in you, and to better avoid the girls who just want to be left alone.

How to Get Dates as a Guy (WITHOUT Using Apps): 9 Steps

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how to get dates as a guy (without using an app)We’re all sick of dating apps. But how are you supposed to get a date WITHOUT one? By re-entering the world and following these nine (9) simple steps.

If you’re a man who wants more dates, there’s a good chance you’re tired of dating apps.

You have good reason to be:

  • Apps heavily down-rank average guys’ profiles

  • They force you to compete solely on pictures

  • And let’s not forget: they’re 75% men! (sausage fest)

Just one problem though: without dating apps, how are you supposed to get dates as a guy?

How to get dates is something every guy knew pre-dating apps, but has become increasingly ‘forgotten knowledge’.

Well, let’s bring it back into the light.

This guide takes you through nine (9) date-getting steps that will fill your calendar with winsome dames.

Let’s begin.

How to Pick Up Single Moms

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how to pick up single momsWomen’s standards are getting higher and higher. But you know whose standards aren’t? Single moms. Follow this guide to pick up a single mom today.

One of the biggest complaints I hear from guys nowadays is that women’s standards have gone out of control. Every woman says she wants a man who’s 6’8”, with male model looks, a jacked physique, who owns 10 houses, famous on Instagram, making $3 million a year. It’s crazy.

Guys don’t believe me when I tell them women’s standards are an opening bid, that these so-called ‘standards’ women profess to have really have nothing to do whatsoever with the guys they actually go for and are instead designed to try to make the woman seem more valuable to prospective mates.

Guys keep asking me where all these low standards-having women are.

Well, I’ll tell you:

If you want the easiest women you can imagine – women with rock bottom standards, willing to take just about anybody – women so burned out, exhausted, and hungry for male attention they’ll gobble down whatever guy finally manages to make them feel like women again – there’s one kind of woman in particular you ought to go for:

That’s single moms.

Today we’re going to look at just how to pick them up.

Dealing with Social Friction, Part 2: Reevaluation w/ the 3 Rs

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reevaluating in the face of frictionWhen you encounter heavy friction socially, don’t just keep plowing. Instead, stop and reevaluate with the 3 Rs so you’ll know just what to do next.

In Part One of this series, I introduced the concept of social friction; that is, anything and everything that emerges to impede or block your social objectives (such as, for instance, bedding down some cute new girl).

To recap, social friction includes:

In an ideal world, we’d be able to construct seductions (and other social endeavors) free from friction. But friction-less seductions only occur on paper and in the imagination. The real world is messy, imperfect, unpredictable, and filled with often unexpected sources of friction.

Thus, rather than hope for perfection and count on Lady Luck (who sadly will not always be on our side) to see us through, it’s prudent to allow for friction.

While we can’t always know precisely what forms friction will take, what we can do is fall back on an approach to dealing with friction that gives us the best odds of ending up in a situation where success lies within reach.

Women Who Give You Dirty Looks

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why girls give discouraging looksSometimes you’ll lock eyes with a girl and she’ll flash you a dirty look. What’s it mean when girls do this? Is it ‘preemptive rejection’?

Walking back from dinner tonight, I passed in front of a restaurant and locked eyes with a girl eating with a group of people. She looked at me; I looked at her; and in an instant, a look of discouragement – perhaps we might say a wave of mild disgust – swept across her face. This girl was not attractive. I laughed when I saw this ugly girl flashing me this dirty look. Her being ugly made it funnier; but I get a chuckle from these even when the girl is hot.

Women will give you dirty looks sometimes, you see. It’s impossible to totally avoid; these looks just happen.

I’m a guy who has no problem with women. I’ve had enough beautiful women that I do not take these looks personally. Even if the girl flashing me a look like this is very hot… well, I’ve had girls as hot as her before. Or hotter. It doesn’t matter to me that she’s giving me that look.

The thing is:

  • It doesn’t matter how cool, attractive, or charming you are; you’ll still get dirty looks from girls from time to time anyway.

  • It doesn’t matter how successful or not you are with girls; you’ll still get dirty looks from girls from time to time.

  • In fact, the more women you make eye contact with, the more dirty looks you’ll receive.

You can’t take these looks personal (as I don’t); they don’t mean what a lot of guys assume they mean (i.e., that the girl is personally rejecting you). Rather, girls’ looks of discouragement mean something a little different from what most men normally presume.

Will Your Mission Get You Girls?

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can your mission get you girlsGuys keep saying “my mission will get me girls.” Will your mission get you girls? What kind of girls can a mission bring you, and does a good mission preclude ‘game’?

I keep hearing this line about how men should “focus on their mission and the women will come.”

Obviously this is one of these Blue Pill 2.0 mantras I was referring to when I talked about how the modern red pill has become a new blue pill. This is some straight up Field of Dreams stuff.

Nevertheless, the idea is very seductive to men. We all have dreams we want to build.

We all feel, intuitively, that if we build those dreams up, it’ll get us what we’re after – women included. We feel in our bones that if we just do this, we won’t need to sweat the small stuff; all those other minor details (such as everything relating to women) will take care of themselves.

I am fortunate to have had a broad series of friends and acquaintances across a large array of fields, many of them quite successful, and have very clear pictures about what the woman situation looks like for men who have focused their energies on ‘building their dreams’ across a cornucopia of areas.

I will give you some specifics about how the woman situation plays out for men who wholly focus on building up certain missions or dreams.

First though, let’s have a look at why the ‘exclusively focus on the mission approach’ only uncommonly results in women tossing their panties at you.