Articles by Author: Chase Amante

You might be short, poor, bald, ugly, dumb, or out-of-step; we’ve all got drawbacks. Yet how do you deal with these when women bring them up?

It’s pretty common for men to feel insecure about whatever drawbacks they may have:

• Too short
• Too ugly
• Too bald
• Too broke
• Too young
• Too old
• Too much of a nobody
• Too unaccomplished
• Too awkward
• Too dumb
• Too out-of-step with the culture

Guys will put off approaching girls, skip approaching altogether, and otherwise remain stuck in safe spaces out of fear of rejection over their drawbacks.

When they do make an approach on a girl, they often look for ways to self-deprecate, which only highlights their weakness and makes them look insecure; or else they act defensive if it gets brought up, which again makes them seem insecure.

How, then, do you defuse your disadvantages when you approach new girls – or even when you go on a date, or are inside a relationship?

In this Tactics Tuesdays installment, I’ll provide you with three (3) separate (but each one of them useful) ways.

If you’d prefer a relationship where you and your woman are not at one another’s throats (or walking out the door), build one with where life goals align.

Something few people discuss, because few people think long-term anymore, is the utter vitality of aligned life goals in selecting a long-term relationship partner.

(17th Century lovers were actually much better at this; you can find copious letters written by lovers discussing their hopes, dreams, and plans for their future together in detail)

Men online will talk about the importance of finding a ‘submissive’ woman. The implication superficially seems to be that you should look for a woman who will just go along with whatever you want. Of course, the question there is if she will go along with whatever YOU want, who’s to say she won’t go along with whatever anyone else wants too (including, for instance, the deliveryman or handyman who stops by while you’re at work and who’d very much like to cuckold you with her)?

The unspecified part of this whole “find a girl who’s submissive” advice – the part the men saying this intend but don’t usually know how to say – is that you want a woman who wants what YOU want, who finds your vision compelling, who is willing to submit to your leadership because she believes you will lead her where she wants to go.

The alternative to this – the uppity, rebellious woman whose life goals are in full opposition to yours – will provide you endless headaches, a far less stable relationship, and a greater chance of the relationship falling apart – or of you even getting pulled off your life goals.

Of course, if you do what a lot of folks do, and enter a relationship with whoever you like based on your initial compatibilities, it’s a roll of the dice whether you’ve chanced upon a woman with aligned life goals – or one with very, very DIFFERENT ones.

If you don’t want to be a gambler, and instead want to maximize the odds of a harmonious relationship without needless wars on life direction, then read on to know what to screen for – and how.