How to Set Aside Time to Learn Game and Master Seduction

To accelerate the process of developing your game and skills with women, momentum is key. You get that by dedicating time and staying focused on the right things.

To get good at the seduction game requires time, and a lot of it. The results of your efforts are well worth it in the long run, but the journey can be a struggle for most men. Take my word for it.

Seven years into learning game, and just a few weeks away from being in the triple digits of partners, I still feel like an intermediate when it comes to game and women. There’s so much to learn to become really good. A great way to streamline your journey with women is to set aside the appropriate amount of time to learn and practice game.

Guys sometimes only focus on learning game from a textbook before applying dedicated time to go out. Or they might practice in a piecemeal fashion, sporadically going out and approaching women when it’s super convenient. I’ve used both methods in my journey. I attest that there is a third, far superior means of hustling to learn how to game. The best method is to dedicate specific, regular, and frequent blocks of time to the art.

As with learning or building anything of value, developing skills requires dedication. For women and game, you’ll realize the benefits after dedicating chunks of time to learning and practice. Think of it like going to the gym. While you might feel good (and sore) for a day or two after your first workout, you’ll feel significant results after four days in a row. Then, if you go to the gym four days in a row for eight weeks, you’ll visually see and physically feel the results of your actions.

 

Benefits of Dedicating Blocks of Time

While the gym is a good example, the game of women has asymmetric returns. Gym workouts bring consistent improvement to your body the more you commit to your routine. The game of women, on the other hand, is anything but linear. Often, I’ve seen guys struggle and struggle on a single point for weeks or months before finally breaking through and achieving a series of wins. I’ve sometimes been at the same sticking point for years. Once you get those quick wins, suddenly the journey will seem boring. Guys often tend to lose interest temporarily before moving on to the next big challenge.

Since the return on women and dating is so asymmetric, your wins will happen quickly and unexpectedly. All the women in your sphere of influence will want you at the same time when you stumble upon the winning vibe. Momentum is your best friend to attain that.

There are distinct benefits to chunking your journey with women:

• Increasing momentum as you continue to approach women with each chunk of time

• Increasing the rate of return, maximizing your results

• Achieving consistency

• Making full use of your practice time by having a singular goal and focus

Let’s look at each in more detail.

 

Increase Your Momentum

The best benefit of consistently setting aside time to go out is to achieve momentum. This shows up in both micro momentum and macro momentum.

We call micro momentum the shift that happens within a single outing. When you start talking to women, you’ll be rusty with getting into a social state. After four or five interactions, especially if one is particularly good or powerful, you should be feeling quite happy. You’ll be in the mood and in the zone when you interact with more women that day or night.

The more in the zone you are and the more micro momentum you have, the more you can drive each interaction forward effectively and efficiently.

Macro momentum is the shift over the long term between different outings, over several days. So if you have a good outing for two days, plus dates for the next three, and two turn into closes with sex, by the sixth day, you should feel as if you’re the king of your own mountain. Your demeanor will unconsciously reflect onto the women around you. They will read this energy intuitively and their reactions will be more positive toward you.

The combination of micro and macro momentum catapult guys into unstoppable streaks. Mistakes seem minor because of how many wins guys acquire in the bigger picture.

 

Increase Your Results

As you increase your momentum, you’ll see patterns emerge, and by trying different strategies, you’ll increase your intuitive response to challenges in the field. Through wins, you’ll ultimately increase your winner’s mentality and create even more wins! Success breeds more success, especially with women.

As mentioned, your results typically all come at once, especially when you can’t move past a sticking point. I’ve seen this happen in my journey, too. You’ll be grinding on one issue for weeks or months, and nothing feels like it’s working. Suddenly, one week, you get two to seven wins all in quick succession. After this happens, guys tend to slack off and lose interest in the game because they feel fulfilled in their challenge until they find something new to work on.

Ironically, those winning moments are often the most challenging for men. Girls have a sixth sense for guys who are mentally on top of their game and show a winning vibe. Often, several girls who have slept with you on your winning streak will try their damnedest to pin you down as into exclusivity and take you out of the game when you’re on your best run.

The biggest challenges to high-momentum runs are guys losing interest and girls pinning them down, both of which don’t help you become a consistent seducer in the long term.

 

Achieve Consistency

You achieve consistency by observing lots of data in quick succession and assessing the outcomes based on the decisions made. After a while, you’ll notice similar data points that arise over and over again. You’ll eventually learn to predict these points well in advance.

To predict a girl’s moves before she makes them is one of the most powerful skills you can achieve as a man. It means you’ve understood exactly what she’s going to do before she even tries to do it.

I believe consistency is one of the toughest things in game because it truly takes a will to resist settling (into a relationship) in order to get sex regularly. You must have the mindset that it’s not a single success that matters; it’s a focus on finding a system that works that you can replicate — one that will serve you the rest of your life. It’s one of the most important talents a man can have.

Often, you’ll also have various systems for different kinds of women to achieve consistency. For instance, I use a certain method for tourists and another for locals, because the two life situations call for different mindsets and game styles.

 

Have a Singular Focus for Each Practice Area

When you go out, it helps to focus on one particular area in your process to apply in the field. It’s best to get good at practicing and refining a single variable each time. Most guys inevitably find intense sticking points in their game with women, so it’s crucial to break through these by having a singular focus in the field. Keep working on one area each time you go out.

Today, he's focusing on getting instant dates. It just so happens this cute tourist would love nothing more. She gets to sample the best local brews, and he gets some much-needed momentum.

Examples of areas to focus on each outing:

• Testing an approach style

• Working on your voice

• Inviting girls on instant dates instead of going for numbers

• Moving women – on the street, within a venue, or to a different venue

This concept can apply to any of the four parts of a seduction. Daniel and I have broken down seductions into four stages:

1. The approach

2. Setting up the meet (can include text game)

3. The meet or date after moving a girl (when she’s invested in you)

4. The pull, escalation, and close

Each of these stages can and should be the focus of applying and testing and working through a method, every time you go out to practice. I’ve noticed most guys get stuck on the early stages but intuitively move through the latter stages. In my experience, I excel in the early stages and get stuck at the end. Either way, practice allows the ability to break through, as does visualization.

 

Visualize the Outing Before You Start

Perhaps the best thing you can do before you go out is to visualize your outing. This gets you in the right mood and state of mind to execute the outing properly. Visualize your interactions with women succeeding, see yourself having fun with women, and imagine approaching women with the encounters going smoothly.

To frame this, imagine yourself meeting a girl that is super hot and exactly your type, versus an average girl. For which girl will you go out of your way to apply more effort in the seduction? My guess is the first one. You’re already mentally invested in her and have visualized her as your girl.

Visualization is essential because it’s part of a winner’s mentality. In a game where men lead and women follow, you can set the frame well in advance. By foreseeing all her moves, resistance, and excuses, you’ll work through the problems before they even happen. You also invest yourself in seeing the encounter go how you want it to go.

 

Strategies to Set Aside Time

The best way to become good with women is to set aside time for it. Every guy needs a good strategy for time investment so that it pays off with the most returns.

Four steps for setting aside time for game:

1. Commit to approaching at a minimum of four to five days in a row. This helps build macro momentum.

2. Set aside blocks of time to go out so that you can build micro momentum between different approaches.

3. Once you get a good lead, focus on that lead.

4. Make sure to prioritize writing field reports after each outing. It’s extremely helpful for learning from your misses and successes.

Now let’s look at how to apply strategies in day game and night game.

 

Day Game Strategies

A great time to go out and approach women in day game is after work, weekdays between 5–7 pm. By concentrating your effort at this time, you’re sure to hit women as they’re just getting off work and either heading home, out running errands, or meeting with friends. As they are out of work mode, you may be lucky and find a woman who has no plans going on that evening. It could be the perfect recipe to set up an instant date with her!

If you have a corporate job and cannot approach during the daytime, you can make some quick approaches in the morning before work. While not ideal for setting up instant dates, you can get women’s numbers on the way to work (provided you live in a walking city of course) and ask her if she’s free that evening or another evening for drinks. I’ve had dates where I met women in the morning, then set up a meet for that same evening, and took her home later that night.

All posted up for the morning rush hour.

Alternatively, you can approach during lunch hours. Spend an hour between roughly noon and 1 pm, approach as many women as you can, and set up a quick lunch, coffee date, or grab her number to get together later.

On weekends, I’ve found Sundays from the early afternoon until the early evening to be a great time to meet women. Many women are out running errands and getting ready for the work week.

On the flipside, Saturdays don’t seem to be as good for strictly approaching, at least in my city. Girls tend to be out in groups, or are in a rush somewhere to meet friends for events and drinks. So, Saturdays are not as ideal for day game but better for social circle game or “day time” night game. It’s a good time to go to bars, day drinking with the locals, and using social circle to make leeway with different women. 

All that said, those are just the ideal times. If you can't hit those, go out whenever you can. Circumstances don't have to be perfect! Just realize that it may be more difficult to achieve momentum in less-than-ideal situations. If you can stack the odds in your favor, by all means, do so; if you can't, do the best with what you got.

 

Night Game Strategies

Like with day game, it’s best to set aside at least four to five days in a row to go out to learn the game and become better. You’ll build consistency by reviewing lots of data in quick succession and identify patterns unique to the environment quickly and consistently.

Often guys do better in night game during the weeknights than on weekend nights. The right venues have more locals and less competition from men, and women also have fewer (and lower) walls up to the men around them. On weekend nights, I’ve seen advanced guys do really well. For learning, it’s best to truly commit to going out four to five nights a week in a row to truly understand the game and all the different situations you can experience.

 

As You Get Better, You Can Relax

Generally, as guys become better with women and achieve their desired results, they can also relax their focus a bit. They’ve gained a level of abundance. Once you’ve seen some success, especially if you learn quickly, you’ll be more attuned to seeing the same patterns in the future, and you’ll know what to do if you see them. If you’re the mechanical or analytical type, like I am, your journey will likely drag out longer and be more twisted. At the same time, you’ll be able to point to past successes to steer your compass correctly moving forward.

Either way, the more time you set aside to learn game and get better, the happier you’ll be with your results in the future.

Recently, I was in the subway and ran into the very first girlfriend I got after I discovered Girls Chase. It had been seven years since I’d been with her. Back then, I almost considered marrying her. Now I heard that she was married and with a husband, but it was hard for me to believe how much I’d accomplished on my own since then. She was incredible and amazing, but the quality of women I’ve been with has drastically improved since that time.

It’s all because I’ve always focused on setting aside time to game to get good. It has paid off big time for me, and it will for you, too!

Varoon