Mighty Inner Game | 82 Minute Podcast with Dr. David Tian
In this episode of Dating Mechanics, I talk with Dr. David Tian, PhD holder, founder of Aura Dating Academy, and good friend of our own Chase Amante for over 10 years.
Insights from the Mind of a Seducer
Tactics Tuesdays: How to Give Her Orgasmic Phone Sex (10 Steps)
Phone sex isn’t just a great deal of fun, it makes getting actual
sex with her easier, too. These 10 steps let you give her the best
phone sex of her life.
Do you ever use phone sex?
Don’t laugh if it sounds cheesy at first. “It’s not real sex”, I know.
But here’s the thing: phone sex has a lot of uses. And one of them is to make dates fly by with girls you haven’t had sex with yet, and make that actual penis-in-vagina sex happen a whole lot faster with far fewer roadblocks.
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In this article, I’m going to tell you exactly how to pull phone sex off. And I’ll tell you the many uses of it, too.
Aside from that though, I’m also going to give you some real cautionary notes… Because just as phone sex can speed up her path into your bed, it can speed up her path into ANOTHER man’s bed instead, if you use it in the wrong way and at the wrong time.
Due to some of the trickiness of the technique, I recommend this one only for intermediates on up.
Preface aside, let’s dive into phone sex, see how to use it, what it’s used for, and some of the things you can do with it.
A Perceptive Man, a Responsive Man, a... Sensitive Man?
The word ‘sensitive’ has lost it’s old meaning. It now means
something weak or womanly. But what it used to be was something so much
more.
I think we need to reclaim the word ‘sensitive’.
The word no longer means what it’s supposed to mean.
Somewhere along the line, it grew warped, twisted. Perverted. Now, if you call a man ‘sensitive’, it’s a backhanded compliment, at best. You’re calling him a motherly nurturer. At worst, you’re saying he overreacts, is too emotional, and too womanly.
But it hasn’t always meant this. And in fact, the concept it used
to describe – a concept we no longer have a perfect word for in English
anymore, if we yield ‘sensitive’ completely to too-soft men and guys
who think the friend zone
is the surest path to sexy times – is one every man who wants to do
well socially, romantically, or sexually must ultimately strive to make
use of, or perpetually struggle.
Book Review: The Enlightened Sex Manual by David Deida
Ejaculation needn’t be the end of sex. It’s possible to control
your
ejaculation, to make sex far more pleasurable… For you AND her.
Human sexuality can be as simple or as complex as we desire. In our media and popular culture the parameters of sexuality are often dumbed down. One night stands are promoted as we grow up in the “get drunk, party, fuck” environment portrayed throughout media, artificial pleasures like porn and toys endure, and the purpose of sex becomes either short-lived hedonistic gratification or family rearing procreation.
Lost is a spiritual element informing how our sexual organs are wired straight to our brain and how our whole body is linked sexually... how our mental state can be affected through sexuality... and how our sexuality can be influenced by our mind.
Cultures of long ago had stumbled upon this knowledge, creating foundations for healthy human sexuality – the Kama Sutra, Tantra, Karezza to name a few – but all are commonly misunderstood in today’s society (e.g., the Kama Sutra is not just a book of sex positions). Today we settle for short, five-minute shags where the man ejaculates hard and fast, and the girl doesn’t cum HARD in a way that opens her psyche – it’s over, and we move on.
By connecting the realm of the brain – spirituality and emotions – with those of our physiology and sexuality – our genitals and how we use them with a partner – we can create a new level of awareness that ties pleasure with raising our level of awareness and purpose. We can create and deliver earth-shattering orgasms that transform our psyche and leave us with replenishing instead of wasted energy.
Today’s book review of The Enlightened Sex Manual by David Deida begins with this powerful statement:
“Good artists are skilled, but great artists convey an immense depth of feeling through their expertise. The same goes for the art of sex. A good lover knows how to make the body sing, But a great lover, a superior lover, evokes a vast choir of bliss…The Enlightened Sex Manual shows how to transform the often willy-nilly flow of stimulated genital energy into a profound depth of feeling, openness, and embodied ecstasy.”
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What to Do When She Giggles or Jokes (Hint: Don't Break Tension!)
When a girl giggles or jokes in response to sexual tension, it
doesn’t mean she isn’t interested. Instead, it usually means she IS.
In my last post, which was the second part of this series on sexual tension, we discussed how one can create sexual tension by focusing on these elements (simultaneously):
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Presence:
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Using a poker face that doesn’t reveal much – which also creates intrigue and mystery
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Having a neutral body language
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Sexualization (using physical escalation tools and following a ladder):
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Escalating till we reach the so-called “sweet spot” and stay there in order to allow the tension to unfold and grow bigger and bigger
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However, the golden rules of calibration still apply
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Additionally:
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Make things mutual
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Slow the pace down
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If you want more details, go ahead and reread part two.
In the comment section beneath part one of this series (where I lay down the “theoretical groundwork”), a reader named Jimbo shared a few concerns:
“The thing is that when I turn the tension sexual, whether from silence or not, and the girl breaks the tension by making a joke or something, I just figure she doesn't see me as a potential mate and move on. That mostly happens with acquaintances or girls I've known for a while. But I never thought of reengaging it later on.”
Contents
1. Three Levels of Sexual Tension
2. Amplifying the Sexual Tension
Jimbo’s concern is a common one. When he attempts to create sexual tension with a girl, she reacts by making silly remarks, giggling, cracking jokes. This is because she is a bit uncomfortable with the tension. This is a normal thing – most girls you encounter will react this way, some more than others. Occasionally you will be lucky and deal with girls who do not show signs of discomfort whatsoever when building up the tension.
Before I move on, I would like to make it clear that her reaction is not some indirect way of communicating that she doesn’t see Jimbo as a lover. Oftentimes it is quite the opposite… she reacts that way exactly because Jimbo triggers butterflies in her stomach. I hope this post will give clarification to this statement.
I will dedicate this entire post to this subject – maintaining the tension and dealing with discomfort related to sexual tension. I will illustrate this process by covering 3 levels of sexual tension. You will see how going from one level to the next affects the interaction. I will also dedicate a big portion of this post to how one navigates through these levels. The idea is that the “levels” that I am about to cover will help you make sense of what is going on, and the rest of the post will be practical solutions to the issue at hand.
