Insights from the Mind of a Seducer

Do you need to sleep with every girl on the first date? The answer: no, but it helps. Sometimes a lot.

Often enough we’ll get someone on the Girls Chase forums who, after following the GC model of “move faster,” will begin to question the validity of said model.

Usually it’s because he finds the majority of chicks he meets up with won’t sleep with him on the first date... or, when he does go for the first-date lay, he crashes, burns, and never hears from her again, no matter how much he persists. Usually his inquiries are focused on women of higher quality (more beautiful or popular) and he suspects they aren’t prone to sleeping with men quickly.

Well, that’s actually true – beautiful girls with high self-esteem are much less likely to sleep around, as they’ve learned from a young age just how in-demand they are and how easily they can rope men in to relationships without having to give up sex.

However, this doesn’t change the fact that these women will have sex with you on a first date/meeting. Not only is it possible, it’s better, because the quicker you sleep with her, the more likely she is to date you, and not those other dudes. We will answer why in this article.

Now, this is important: to most naturals (like myself), it isn’t really about strategy – it’s about desire. When you ask us why it’s important to sleep with a girl on the first date, the answer is “because I want to sleep with her.” To understand this mindset, divorce yourself from strategic, categorical thinking for a moment.

You see a girl with a nice ass, busty tits, or a beautiful face – you want to have sex with her, without a doubt. Why would you NOT want to have sex with her as quickly as possible? This thought is in fact a much higher order of frame and masculine thinking than the “how do I keep her or seem most dominant?” mindset, even if it seems simpler or more primal. It’s rooted firmly in the man’s desire (i.e., your frame).

On a slightly more academic level, I addressed this question of lay speed in my article on moving fast without rushing. My thesis was simple – because time is irrelevant to women, why not move fast?

If a woman feels sexually or emotionally connected (or both), she will have sex with you quickly.

Thirty minutes after meeting you, an hour into the first date, or without even a first date and straight to your house, etc. (also, for clarification, a first date can also include the first time you meet her out. Basically, the first time you have any significant chance of sleeping with her, be it at a bar, coffee shop, or a predetermined meeting)

The only higher-tier counterargument to this mindset that I can surmise, and one I’ve seen a few times, is if it takes you longer to sleep with a girl, that ensures her chances of cheating are lessened, because if it was hard for YOU to get her, then imagine how hard it will be for those OTHER guys. Well, we’ll cover that one, too.

However, many guys still wonder why it’s important that you sleep with her on the first date or meeting.

But first we need to address the primary question.

The women of the 1910s and 1920s had a lot more in common with the women of the 1990s, 2000s, and 2010s than you might suspect.

I’m usually anathema to making predictions, since these so often turn out wrong. However, the pendulum seems to be swinging in earnest, so at this point I think I am more pointing out a shift that’s already started and probably isn’t able to be derailed. So let’s get to it.

From 2015 into 2016, we in the West experienced what a lot of writers on the Internet have dubbed ‘peak SJW’. Victim mentality hit its shrillest levels, the concept of certain groups as ‘privileged’ and thus ‘the enemy’ reached boiling point, and efforts to censor, outlaw, or subjugate target groups hit their apogee.

This phenomenon, of ‘peak SJW’ (Social Justice Warrior), followed the trend all movements follow in the ‘boiling point’ period. That is, they rise to a fevered pitch, then one of two things happen:

1. They use this momentum to topple over and completely crush their enemies, or

2. They spin themselves out against an indomitable foe, run out of gas, and enter decline

Movements work the same as tests or challenges in this regard. So long as the movement is able to gain concessions from its adversaries, it becomes more and more powerful. But as the movement begins to run into walls, or see its efforts backfire, it begins to lose steam. It loses, and the negative momentum of being on the losing side piles up. A reverse winner effect takes hold within the movement.

Why the Social Justice movement was ultimately unsuccessful in crushing its opponents in the West is beyond the scope of this article. However, I will note that successful Social Justice movements at other points in history that eventually achieved more or less full suppression of their enemies have been more careful to incorporate majority groups in their ranks, rather than target said majority groups as the object of their offense.

That aside, the point of this article is to give you a few predictions about how to expect women’s behavior to shift over the next couple of years.