Insights from the Mind of a Seducer
Important Variables of Post-Field Diagnostics
Hey guys and welcome back.
Last week, I discussed post-field diagnostics, the assessment you conduct after an outing to pinpoint mistakes and highlight positive moves that help your interaction.
Why should you invest your time in post-field diagnostics? The answer is simple-it's a surefire way to maximize learning from each outing and boost your success rate. As you become better at post-field diagnostics, your progress will soar. You'll develop a profound understanding of pickup and seduction, women, and social dynamics over time. This knowledge will empower you to calibrate, leading to better performance in-field: you intuitively know what to do and when. You'll become adept at strategic calibration, macro-calibration, meso-calibration, and micro-calibration.
In a nutshell, you will become a better seducer.
Last time, we went through the purposes and perspectives of post-field assessment. We ended with a checklist:
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What happened? Re-visualize the outing and specific interactions.
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What did you do? Think about each interaction phase and what you did.
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How did she react? Good or bad? Did it work or not?
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What worked? And what didn't? What caused her to react poorly? What made her respond well?
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Why did it work, or why not? Why did she react positively or negatively to what you did?
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How could you have damage-controlled a poor reaction? How could you have made a good reaction better? Are there other moves you should have made?
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Is there anything you could have done differently?
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Were there external factors that may have affected the outcome? (More on this next week).
Today, I will expand this list. I will provide three dimensions to consider when using this assessment.
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Brought 8 girls home.
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Why Men Are MORE Romantic (Than Women Are!)
Commenting on a recent article, a reader asks:
Why are men the romantic sex Chase?
I wasn’t going to ask this, but sometimes I actually think of a few girls that I used to like, then have to snap myself out of it and tell myself that they aren't even thinking about you and we didn’t even get together.
Pathetic.
Anyway, why are men like that, and better yet, how do you become unromantic?
I’ve noticed that girls that I liked a lot I could never get for some reason.
I would get all these stupid fantasies in my head and it never worked out.
So, I’d really like to not do that ever again and control my mind and emotions at all times.
Thanks
Scientific research has shown that men are more romantic. In particular, men are more likely to subscribe more strongly and more universally to the following beliefs than women are:
- One chooses a partner based on love.
- Love conquers all.
- True love lasts forever.
Men are also more likely to idealize their female partners than their female partners are them. How big is the difference? Well, it’s actually not massive. On average, the study found men to be 6% more romantic than women are.
Before you think we’re making mountains out of molehills though, there’s more research that finds discrepancies between male and female romanticism. A 2013 survey of 100,000 individuals found men were 71% more likely than women were to report having experienced love at first sight. A 2010 study found that men are more prone to falling in love “if they tended to overestimate women’s sexual interest and highly valued physical attractiveness in potential partners.” Translation: horny guys who prioritize women’s looks and assume attraction tend to be more likely to fall in love.
Finally, anyone who’s gone through a rough breakup can tell you how common it is for women to seemingly shut off their emotions toward a man at breakup time. If she truly loved you, how could she do that to you – to the connection you had, you wonder?
This article examines why men tend toward being more romantic, falling in love faster, pining away unrequitedly, and hanging onto women long after they’ve moved on. We’ll ask whether this is a good or a bad thing – and whether (if bad) there’s anything you can do about it.
Dealing with Aggressive Cockblocks (What NOT to Do!)
Commenting on my article about girls saying you’re too old for them, reader Aiming Higher asks:
Hey Chase,
Appreciate a little advice on adroitly navigating cold approach scenarios where she's out with a friend or group and she or her mates remarks on the age discrepancy.
I'm guessing respond in the same way you outlined according to objection type, but address the person remarking as well as the woman and reversing the frame, if possible.
In particular, I'm wondering about this line: "You seem like a great friend and you also look incredible btw (not sure about a compliment here but maybe to defuse any tension?) though are you also her agent(s) who police who she can date or something? What next...you instruct her on what time she has to be home by and if she's done her homework (obviously appropriate facial expressions required and if she's clearly not school age).
Cheers,
Aiming Higher
What do we do here? Is it wise to compliment, then set the friend straight?
Or… is there a better strategy?