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Peacocking with a Wingman, Friends, or Girls

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By: Alek Rolstad

flock together strongerIt looks funny to go out peacocked when your crew’s not dressed accordingly. Just how peacocked do your wingmen, friends, and wingwomen need to be, though?

Hey guys and welcome.

Over the past three weeks, I have been discussing the art of peacocking. This night game strategy involves dressing in a bold and flashy manner to catch women’s attention. The goal is to make yourself noticeable, even getting women to approach and initiate conversation with you.

Peacocking offers many benefits when executed properly. However, if done incorrectly, it can backfire, making you appear foolish and clown-like. For more details, see my post from two weeks ago.

Getting all this attention, although beneficial, is not without its cons, and we should also consider the drawbacks. In my previous post, I covered how peacocking affects your game and how you should strategize accordingly.

Today, I want to expand on last week’s post, which primarily discussed solo outings, which experienced night gamers often prefer. While many guys enjoy going out with wingmen (a topic I covered in a series last year), others prefer going out with friends.

Who you are out with and how they dress will determine your peacocking success or failure. So, it is crucial to strategize.

I will begin by discussing the effects peacocking has when going out with a wing, the implications of going out with several friends, and what to expect when going out with only girls.

Boyfriend Disqualifiers: Must They Fully Disqualify You?

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By: Chase Amante

the right way to use boyfriend disqualificationA boyfriend disqualifier gets a girl to think of you as just a lover, not a boyfriend. When you use these, must you ‘go all the way’ in having her disqualify you – or not?

Lately there’s been a fair bit of discussion on the Skilled Seducer Forum about how far you need to go in disqualifying yourself as a boyfriend. Guys report various problems when disqualifying themselves for the boyfriend role, and other guys are telling them not to go so far in doing so.

I have mixed thoughts about boyfriend disqualification. Obviously it's a core part of seduction that enables rapid escalation. Without it, it's an uphill battle getting out of the "potential boyfriend" category and putting yourself in the "lover" category.

At the same time, I feel like there are girls of this generation who will lose interest if you completely disqualify yourself - at least in my recent experience with young Gen Z girls. As we've discussed, hook-up culture is rapidly changing, social skills are deteriorating, and mainstream values are trending towards conservative.

I’m one of a few guys in seduction who still regularly talks about boyfriend disqualification. That is to say, who still regularly talks about communicating to a girl that you are ineligible for a boyfriend/husband/long-term role.

I think we’re due for some clarification though, because I see a lot of guys using this tactic wrong. So let’s talk boyfriend disqualifiers: just how hardcore do your boyfriend disqualifiers need to be?

FINAL CHANCE To Grab FREE Café & Stargaze Date Flows (+ One Date at 30% Off!)

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By: Chase Amante

doors closingUnder 24 hours remain to snap up Chase Amante’s One Date System at a 30% savings… and grab two new, free, and almost-gone Date Flows as your own.

Under 24 hours remains for you to purchase my One Date System at 30% off – plus snag two soon-to-vanish Limited Edition Date Flows™ for free.

You’ll likely never have another chance to grab these two Date Flows – my complete guides to the Café Date and Stargazing Date – ever again.

Make sure to grab them NOW!

Romantic Dates Can Still Pull

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By: Chase Amante

romantic dates that pullRomantic dates can be utterly magical. But doesn’t escalating on them break the magic? Won’t girls slow-game you to not lose a magic love? Not if you do things right!

In the vein of our ongoing One Date promotion (you can grab One Date at 30% off PLUS my two very Limited Edition Date Flows™ on the Café Date and Stargazing Date BEFORE midnight this Tuesday, January 21st, 2025; current One Date owners can pick both up free here), I want to talk about a topic that dovetails very nicely: dates that are romantic yet still pull.

When I was a young seducer, I was sometimes torn between making a date too romantic or not. “If I make it too romantic, won’t that make her want to make sure she doesn’t lose me – and thus make her hit the brakes on us getting together too soon?” I worried.

(if you aren’t sure why you want to get together with girls sooner rather than later, read this)

There was another problem, too: when I made dates very romantic, sometimes it felt like making moves to get a girl into bed popped that romance bubble. The two of you had this romantic seduction where both of you were so synced up… then all of a sudden you’re trying to make moves while she tries to resist. Back out of sync. How do you keep that romantic, synced up feeling while still making moves?

As you know from the title, I’m going to tell you that romantic dates can still pull – and can do so very well. Further: the ‘secret’ to both problems I posed above is one and the same.

Peacocking Strategy: Right Mood, Right Frame, & Social Proof

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By: Alek Rolstad

TEXTPeacocking can offer a boon to your attraction meeting women. Yet your mood, frame, and social proof play a major role in the effectiveness of your peacocking too — or its liability.

Hey guys, and welcome back.

Lately, I have been discussing the concept of “peacocking.” Peacocking refers to dressing in a way that captures women’s attention, often wearing flashy clothing and eye-catching accessories. While this approach gained popularity in the 2000s when pickup and seduction entered the mainstream, it has faced criticism recently. Many have commented on odd-looking, uncalibrated men roaming the clubs, leading to the perception that it appears silly and meme-worthy. This backlash stems from the observation that those who attempt peacocking lack solid fundamentals and struggle to pull it off effectively.

Last week, we discussed how to peacock, providing examples of items you can wear. We covered the different dimensions that ensure you do not come off as clown-like and tacky but instead appear cool and edgy.

The “how to peacock” was covered last week. The history of peacocking, what it is, how it works, and why was covered two weeks ago.

In this article, the focus is on how peacock influences your game. It will affect your presence, people’s reactions, and the overall dynamic of your interaction to affect your overall strategy.

Let’s dive in.

New Year Special: Café + Stargazing Dates (& One Date 30% Off)

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By: Chase Amante

I’m a few weeks late with this (was hoping to premiere it on New Year’s Day) but I’ve got a 2025 New Year Special for you I think you’re going to like:

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The two new One Date add-on “Date Flows” empower you to expertly engineer (or ‘flow’) two awesome date plans:

  • The Café Date: bland and boring no more, your Café Dates become a cauldron of deep connection and irresistible romantic intimacy when you use my Café Date Flow.

  • The Stargazing Date: shatter her expectations for what a ‘date’ feels like by bringing her out on the most magical experience of her life, talking, touching, and peering up at the cosmos with you – as she becomes more and more seduced along the way…

These two Limited Editions Date Flows and the 30% discount on One Date are only in place for a handful of days though – so you must grab them now.

The Rise of Blue Pill 2.0: Money, Muscles, & Rizz

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By: Chase Amante

the blue pill 2.0The male space today tells men to build muscle, stack money, & deprioritize women, or rely on ‘rizz’, while PROMISING women as the eventual reward. This is BLUE PILL.

“You’ve been living in a dream world, Neo.”

“It is the world that has been pulled over your eyes to blind you from the truth: that you are a slave, Neo.”

A few decades ago, men started waking up from the Matrix that was the nice guy friend zone. They rejected the blue pill that would’ve kept them in platonic orbiter land, and took the red pill to start becoming ALPHA MALES.

But what if I told you the red pill most of them thought they were taking was really just another blue pill – one that simply moved them from one enslaving Matrix over into another?

Don’t worry. This article is not one claiming men should not be dominant men (they should) or that being a nice guy or hanging around in the friend zone are good things (they aren’t).

Instead, in it, I’m going to show you how along the way to enlightenment men en masse got Shanghaied, hoodwinked, and bamboozled right from one blue pill ideology straight into another – albeit one that dressed itself up all the while as ‘red pill’.

Why You Very, Very, Very Much Want a PROFESSIONAL Coach/Advisor (in Dating and Elsewhere!)

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By: Chase Amante

why pay when advice is free?If he charges you money, isn’t it a scam? While scammers do exist, all the best advisors, instructors, & coaches in seduction or any field are PAID!

I’ve been coaching, writing, and selling programs in the ‘get girls’ / ‘have relationships’ space for the better part of two decades now. Every now and again we get guys who appear with the FULL CYNIC glasses on who accuse me of being motivated solely by acquisitive greed:

It's actually an easy charge for an outsider to make:

  1. We often don’t think of ‘advice’ as a job or service.

  1. You can get FREE advice, EVERYWHERE! From friends, random people online, etc. So why would you want to get advice from someone who does it for work?

  1. There’s a seeming conflict of interest with a paid instructor: if he’s paid to do it, can he really be disinterested? Someone who gives instruction totally unpaid seems more trustworthy!

This article is about why this mindset is aggressively stupid and traps the idiots who subscribe to it in valleys of ineffectuality and lackluster returns.

Remember: with advice, as with anything else, you get what you pay for.

Tactics Tuesdays: 3 Ways to Disarm Your Drawbacks

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By: Chase Amante

disarm your drawbacksYou might be short, poor, bald, ugly, dumb, or out-of-step; we’ve all got drawbacks. Yet how do you deal with these when women bring them up?

It’s pretty common for men to feel insecure about whatever drawbacks they may have:

  • Too short
  • Too ugly
  • Too bald
  • Too broke
  • Too young
  • Too old
  • Too much of a nobody
  • Too unaccomplished
  • Too awkward
  • Too dumb
  • Too out-of-step with the culture

Guys will put off approaching girls, skip approaching altogether, and otherwise remain stuck in safe spaces out of fear of rejection over their drawbacks.

When they do make an approach on a girl, they often look for ways to self-deprecate, which only highlights their weakness and makes them look insecure; or else they act defensive if it gets brought up, which again makes them seem insecure.

How, then, do you defuse your disadvantages when you approach new girls – or even when you go on a date, or are inside a relationship?

In this Tactics Tuesdays installment, I’ll provide you with three (3) separate (but each one of them useful) ways.