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Reduce Her LMR by Teasing Her with Sex Earlier On

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By: Skilled Seducer

TEXTRather than pull a girl home as soon as she’s ready, you can delay the pull and tease her a bit. Why do this? Simple: to face less (or no) LMR at your place.

This post by Bboy100 originally appeared on our forum here.

One good way to reduce the chances of running into LMR is to make a girl really want it. Tease her. And I don't just mean once you already have her isolated. I mean throughout the date(s) in general.

Take your time; enjoy her company.

Take your mind off fucking her, and just worry about having a good time.

If you adopt this mindset, what you'll notice if you're at least somewhat decent at reading her signals is that she'll eventually seem receptive to you making a move on her. That is, she'll want you to kiss her, isolate her or more.

Don't do this yet.

Just casually keep going on with the date.

Roses of Romantic Attraction Progress Report: Writing Rose IX, Logistics

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By: Chase Amante

rose ix: logisticsNearly finished with Rose IX, Chase updates on the nearly-complete writing of this Rose, and what comes next in the writing of this next book.

It’s been a little while since my last update. So here’s the latest on my upcoming book, the Roses of Romantic Attraction. You can find the previous updates here.

One new update: we have a new cover design, courtesy our designer Pravin. You can see it in the header image for this update article.

If this is your first time reading about the book, I’m writing RoRA to be the ultimate compilation of the facts of attraction for both men and women. In terms of attraction books, we have Ovid’s works, Casanova’s memoirs, and modern pickup manuals. We also have a few ultra-dry text book compilations of the scientific research on attraction. Nowhere is there a popular science book that compiles all the science on attraction, organizes it through a lens of clarity and simplicity, and gives both men and women an actionable process for attracting the opposite sex.

That’s the aim for Roses: to serve as the attraction Bible. The one book you can hand anyone who wants to learn how to better attract the opposite sex, and he or she will immediately find loads of takeaways useful to him or her.

I’ve broken the book down into a dozen chapters I’m calling ‘roses’. Each rose focuses on a different essential element of attraction.

Right now I’m finishing up Rose IX on logistics. Here’s the latest update.

Why Are Women So Ambiguous? 3 Feminine Reasons

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By: Alek Rolstad

the riddle of womenWomen can be pretty vague and confusing. Why are they so ambiguous in word and deeds? Three words: safety, flexibility, and POWER.

Hey guys. Welcome back. I hope you are all doing great.

Today, I’ll share a theory on female communication to clarify a question many men have: Why are women often ambiguous?

Why do they rarely give clear-cut answers? Why do they act so ambiguous about their interests? Why is it always a “maybe”?

“Get to the point!” is a line I hear frustrated men say to women. Yes, I have also been guilty of saying something along these lines to women, or I think it to myself.

Women convey “maybe” for many reasons. You hear her say: “Maybe we can meet on Monday,” “Maybe I love you,” or “Maybe we should do X.”

Aside from the “maybe,” which is a word that conveys ambiguity, sometimes, women’s behavior is ambiguous. They may show mixed signals or seem not to make up their minds. It gets frustrating. You want an answer, either “YES” or “NO.”

So, why do many women do that

For starters, women DO make up their minds and ARE decisive—in non-social settings. In professional settings, I rarely encounter this.

You may be asking: Is this indecisiveness due to biology? Perhaps. Biological factors are likely to be indirectly causing this. A nurturing nature, societal treatment, and how women are socialized have conditioned women to act like this, especially toward men.

I do not think it is due to irrationality. A fallacy you may have heard is that this behavior is due to women only being driven by emotions and that they are incapable of logically making up their minds. It’s a flawed (and honestly, sexist) stereotype about women being irrational.

Why does this fallacy exist? It’s a projection of male logic.

Seductive Archetype: Being the "Prosocial Playboy"

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By: Chase Amante

being the prosocial playboyIf you can’t avoid a playboy reputation, do this: be the PROSOCIAL playboy. This archetype is deeply intriguing to women – it lets you move FAST with them, too.

One of the early snags a lot of guys will run into once they start self-improving with girls is the “playboy problem.”

You get a little too slick, a little too easy with the conversation, and suddenly girls you’re talking to start telling you things like:

  • “You’re pretty good at this, aren’t you?”
  • “I’ll bet you get a lot of girls.”
  • “I’d better be careful around you.”

At first this is going to feel good. Girls are acknowledging how slick you are! But you soon realize it’s actually a sign of low attainability. The fact that she is commenting on your slickness means you are so slick it’s noticeable, and it’s making her feel like you are insincere.

To her, you’re just saying the same thing you’ve told dozens of other girls. She’s nothing special to you, she thinks, which makes her not feel good. While you do want girls to know you have options, you also want girls to feel they are special to you; sacrificing either one of these drubs attraction.

The typical advice here is to do things that defuse the playboy reputation and make you come across more sincere. Basically, to not seem like you are a player at all.

But there’s another route you can go, that you sometimes may be FORCED to go, if circumstances force you to accept that playboy reputation.

That is to accept, own it, and wrap yourself up as the PROSOCIAL playboy instead.

Tactics Tuesdays: Commandeering Girls' Frames

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By: Chase Amante

commandeering her framesWhen girls try to set frames on you, rather than bust them or resist them, just commandeer them. Take her frame over and make it YOURS!

Now for a particularly devious tactic:

The frame commandeer.

This little bit of attitudinal jujitsu allows you to take control of a frame a girl attempts to set. It then puts the frame at your disposal to use to turn the pressure she attempted to use on you right back against her.

You will use this tactic with girls who are already hooked on you and attracted to you. It is NOT for girls you haven’t hooked yet (it doesn’t work then).

The more into you a girl is, the stronger this tactic works.

Let me start with an example for you.

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By: Chase Amante

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Everything Is Sex or Sexual

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By: Skilled Seducer

it's all sexNature is infused with sex and reproduction. Female behavior regarding men is too. Here’s how you can use that to enhance your sexual rapport with women.

This post by Cody Lyans originally appeared on our forum here.

Talking is sex, the pause between words is sex, touching her hand is sex.

Her interest in your eyes is sex.

This mindset used at the right time can get you ready and prepared to make your moves in slow incremental but potent ways. Just adding the perception of “this is sex or sexual” can turn a simple “hi” into something more intense.

Fending Off Guys Who Want Your Girl (WITHOUT Looking Possessive!)

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By: Alek Rolstad

outshine rivals effortlesslyWhen you’re out with girls, other men may try to steal them away. Your mission: to fend such men off without giving up power by looking jealous or needy.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

I intended to conclude my series of posts on giving a girl space and allowing her the opportunity to opt out last week, delving deeper into this concept. However, after finishing the article, I realized there is still more to discuss.

The overall idea is to refrain from acting possessive and locking the woman to you, leaving her few escape routes (through positioning or overt physical moves). It’s better to ensure that she has a way out. This is not because you want her to leave, quite the opposite. When a woman realizes she has a possible escape route, it generates comfort, which makes her more willing to stick around. It makes the interaction less risky for her due to her risk-averse nature (women tend to be more risk-averse than men). The bonus is that she will be more willing to jump into less certain and riskier situations, such as going home with you. This technique conveys attractiveness, non-neediness, and abundance: all attractive and desirable traits.

Last week, I discussed how this fits as a typical rule of pickup and seduction. If you look rationally at it, you intuitively feel the interaction is off and should favor following the rules. What if there is plenty of male competition, and she has attractive guys hitting on her, trying to snatch her out of your arms? Should you still act aloof? Should you make it easy for her to opt out, escape, and go to other men? You do not want that to happen. So, your instinctive urge is to become protective and possessive. You want to block those other men to keep them away. Yet, by doing so, you push her farther away from you by eliciting a desire for her to jump ship. She feels smothered, and you appear less attractive due to your neediness. So, you inadvertently give those men an edge.

So, you follow the rule, giving her space to leave. Often, she will stay. Perhaps it was a test, and you easily passed it, or you appear more attractive to her by acting less needy and especially less so than other guys.

Yet, there is no denying that there will be cases when this is insufficient to keep other men at a distance. Then, what do you do?

This is what I want to cover today.

When a Girl Says She Feels "No Chemistry" (+ How to Fix)

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By: Chase Amante

why she doesn't feel a spark (plus what to do)If a girl feels there’s no chemistry with you, if she says there’s no spark, is it fate? Not at all; it’s SKILL, because “spark creation” can be learned.

Tactics Tuesdays: How to Turn Your Conversations Playful

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By: Chase Amante

make your conversations playfulWomen will talk to you in polite or inquisitive but often boring ways. To make it flirtation, you must inject playfulness into your chat with a girl.

Commenting on my article about dumbing yourself down to sleep with smart girls quicker, Jason H asks:

Hi Chase,
Any advice on transitioning conversation to more teasing/flirting in certain scenario's to make the dynamic more fun/seductive
- When she is focused on connection, but you want to inject some more teasing/flirting
- When she is focused on catching up/factual information such as how is this going, how are things at Y etc or other impersonal topics
- In group scenario's where it's more difficult to do this and you want to tease or flirt with a certain girl

Basically asking about identifying cues and opportunities to inject a little more teasing & fun into conversations, or strategies to direct the conversation towards more fun in a socially skilled way.

Thanks!

Sure, let’s talk about this: how do you turn your conversations playful?

Essentially, when you’re dealing with girls who are trying to connect or extract facts out of you, meanwhile you are trying to make it a playful, flirtatious conversation, what you are dealing with is a frame battle. She wants to frame the conversation one way while you want to frame it another.

I want to touch on whether it’s necessary to seize control of the conversation this way – and what can happen if you do vs. if you don’t. Then we’ll talk making your conversations playful.