Seduction

There are few better feelings in the world than seeing a girl lustily looking up at you while on her knees or in your lap and seeing and feeling your member in her mouth; and then grabbing her hair and moving her head around your lap as you sit back and enjoy the oh-so-wonderful ride.

That’s the amazing feeling of getting a blow job. And even though sex is amazingly enjoyable, there’s something particularly and uniquely satisfying about blow jobs. But the question is: what’s involved in learning how to get a blow job – and isn’t it hard to get a blow job? The short answer is: no, it’s not hard to get a blow job. And today, I’m going to talk about how to put yourself in a position to get exactly that. Here we go.

After a while, most men learn how to approach and get into conversations with girls.

In many cases they even learn how to attract women and escalate properly – yet many men, even when they are able to do those things, still fail to get laid.

Of course, there are a lot of reasons why that could be the case, however, most of the time it is either because the guy hasn’t escalated enough or because he failed to even try to extract his lady and take her home back to his place.

Every man on this site – readers, writers, designers, dabblers, and characters of all kind – endeavors to bring at least one woman into his life. That is the whole point of improving your skills with women.

And as you keep improving yourself, every once in a while, believe it or not, you will actually succeed in getting a woman. Not only will you succeed in asking her out on a date and in bringing her back to your place just to run off at the last second, you will actually be in the position to have penetrative sex with her.

And sometimes, when you are in such a position, you start getting into your own head about whether or not you will be able to please her. You start thinking about the positions you know, your penis size, how horny you are in that particular moment, how attractive she is, and how long you generally last during a session of sex.

And, in some cases, you will have some great sex, she will be really satisfied, and you will both move on with your lives. But what about the other cases? One of two scenarios happen:

1. You let your worries and concerns infiltrate your mind and affect your performance. And as these thoughts continue to insidiously seep in to your performance, you prematurely ejaculate

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2. You go all in. You give her a sexual experience that she is not likely to forget anytime soon. You expend all of your energy and pull everything out of your bag of tricks. And, after plopping down on the bed/couch/floor after all is said and done, she says: “That was amazing! Let’s do it again!” and the prospect of even having to get hard again daunts and exhausts you.

In either scenario, you are in a position where you still need to please her. So the question is: how do you please a woman in the first place? And if you succeed at that, how do you do it again?

That is what this post is dedicated to today. I can only hope that by the end of it you will find its contents to be... pleasing.

Hi, how is everybody doing?

Today I will cover some simple stuff – things that I see even experienced seducers mess up on. We will talk about some basic logistical issues in this post, and we will cover 6 crucial steps that will minimize your chances of messing up.

These steps are simple to pull off. This post is therefore well suited for beginners. But more experienced players might learn a few things from it too. Fact is, a friend of mine who has been practicing seduction for a very long time messed up this weekend because he did not have any booze food, or cigarettes at home. Most likely he was just being sloppy, but still, if he just had followed the advice in this post he wouldn’t have messed up.

Note from Chase: this article from J.J. is focused on a direct “how to sext” method that is different from and complementary to the more playful method Colt talked about in “Sext Like a Pro: Is Sexting Girls Worth Your Time?”

Before we get started I’d like to just point out that this article is geared primarily toward teaching how to sext your way to racy, naughty photos from girls for intermediate to advanced guys. It’s not so much that I think someone who isn’t on that level yet with women cannot pull this off, but rather that it’s easy to blow girls out if you don’t do it correctly.

If you’re at the beginner stage, or even just a hair past it, I’d caution against using this for the mere fact that you need to be making it as far as you can in each interaction so that you are able to rack up reference points and experience so you can improve with women faster.

Additionally (if you mess up while doing this), creeping girls out isn’t ever a good thing, and, if you’re trying to pull this off with women who live near you, there’s a good chance she probably knows some of your friends or colleagues. Don’t let what happened to Brett Favre be your fate.

Those caveats out of the way, let’s get right to this, shall we?

If you’ve overheard women talk about men who ask them for sexy pictures of themselves, I’ll bet the reactions they claim to have had weren’t very positive, were they? However, don’t be fooled by this chicanery; if I had to wager on it, I’d guess that about eighty percent of women (and a greater percentage than that the more attractive and mature she is!) possess at least a small-to-medium sized smut gallery stored away on their cell phones for this very purpose.

And, some would surprise you, as I’ve dated quite a few women who would send me nude photos all of the time.

If there’s a whole lot going on in your head right now about this... good. I’m going to answer all those swirling questions you have along with many more that you haven’t even conjured up yet.

If only a woman just saw you better and gave you that chance to say your piece you would have the time and motivation to do your best, right?

We all like to think we are pretty handy, when push comes to shove. We think that if we throw ourselves into something head first or are given the opportunity we will knock it out of the park. Sadly, the reality is that often we choke or let the opportunity pass us by out of a fear of failure. We don’t capitalize on opportunities, and we often even discourage them, treating them like annoyances to be purged instead of chances to grow.

We enjoy thinking of ourselves as champions who will come out on top at the moment of truth, but the reality is usually much more awkward, and the solutions are somewhat unavailable to ordinary perception at first glance, so we try to bury those opportunities instead of trying to grasp them.

No one likes feeling awkward or blind, so we try to suppress our fears of failure through negotiation. It gives an illusion of sophistication or thoughtfulness that is socially accepted. In certain cultures and time periods it is extremely prevalent; arranged marriages, cultural dress, duties, etc. And it is all arranged in a way that takes certain social status away from the woman to limit her options in order to make her more pliable. We forget that it is affecting her life in a negative way to unsuccessfully enhance our own.

Many men who learn seduction get to the level where they get laid, but very few reach their full potential. Why is that so and what can we do about it?

This article is only directly relevant for intermediates and up, but I would still recommend everyone read it. Knowledge about potential future traps enables people to avoid them in advance and do fewer stupid things to themselves and others in the future.