9 Ways to Avoid "Last Minute Resistance" Before Sex with New Girls

Last minute resistance is the name we give to resistance women give in the bedroom as you begin to escalate to intimacy. i.e., resistance you encounter “at the last minute.”

Sometimes you’ll run a perfect seduction, with great vibes, an incredible connection, touch, the whole nine yards… only to get a girl back, and JUST when you’re about to seal the deal with her, she throws up a resistance wall!

She’s just not sure; it’s too soon; she doesn’t know you that well; she doesn’t do that anymore. She might move away from you physically or push your hands off.

You might be able to move her past this last minute resistance and get the girl in bed. Or you might not. Her resistance may end up being insurmountable for you. Perhaps you can get together with her another time… but most of the time if you begin escalating to intimacy, then fail to get there, you’ll never get another real chance with her again (no matter what she might say to you in the moment!).

To give yourself a surer shot at bedding the girl, there are steps you can take to avoid ever triggering LMR at all. Will you want to take them all? Do they all qualify with the girls you like?

I’m going to run through them here, in order of effectiveness:

Nine (9) different ways to avoid triggering last minute resistance from girls you hope to sleep with.

 

Prerequisite: Smooth Game + Calibrated Escalation Is Always Key

Regardless how well you stick to the nine ways we’ll talk about to cut down on LMR, two things will always impact how much and how strong the LMR is:

1. How smooth your game is, and
2. How calibrated your escalation to intimacy is.

For an example of unsmooth game, a seducer with unsmooth game may make accidentally rude jokes that harm his attainability, fail to escalate compliance properly (making the girl not very invested), and fail to take logistics properly into account, leading to an uncomfortable pull to his place. By the time he gets the girl to the seduction location, she’s not feeling that great about things. LMR is much more likely (and more likely to be stronger) than had he not made these mistakes.

An example of uncalibrated escalation might include trying to kiss the girl before she’s ready for it or from too far away, grabbing all over her without smoothly escalating to that point yet, ripping your clothes off before she’s fully warmed up, trying to rip her clothes off before she’s warmed up yet, making unsmooth comments about her body, or failing to sufficiently handle her objections. A guy doing any of these during the escalation to sex makes LMR more likely, and likely to be stronger.

What can you do if you’re inexperienced though?

Try your best, with the understanding that you are going to make mistakes, but you will get better with time and experience.

As your game smooths out and your escalations become more calibrated, you will start to see less last minute resistance in all cases – and what LMR you do see won’t be nearly as severe.

Now let’s talk about our nine (9) ways to reduce or avoid LMR in the first place.

 

#1: Choose DTF Girls

Seems simple, right?

If you don’t want resistance to fucking, choose girls who are down to fuck.

How can you tell if a girl is DTF? Here are a few guides that will help:

• How to Tell if a Girl is Horny Without Her Having to Tell You: indicators of a woman who’s randy for sex.

• What's the Best Way to Pick Up Girls? Get the Ones Looking for You: signs of a girl who’s looking for someone to take her home.

• Which Women Want Sex? Here's How to Tell: more signs of a girl who’s out looking for a good time.

Of course, you may not always have DTF girls at your disposal. You’re most likely to encounter them via parties, nightclubs, and dating apps. You may still meet them other places, but their concentration won’t be as high.

What if you don’t want DTF girls? What if, for instance, you’re searching for a long-term relationship?

Then you’ll have to skip this one.

However, if “not dealing with LMR” is the mission, “choose girls who are down to fuck” is the #1 way to achieve that mission.

 

#2: Disqualify Yourself as a Boyfriend

Assuming you are desirable as a lover, one of the big obstacles you face in getting a woman to go to bed with you is any desires she also has to vet you as a boyfriend candidate… or (if she doesn’t want a relationship), to avoid you being clingy in the event she sleeps with you but you want more.

The easiest way around these concerns is to make the decision to go with you dead simple… by removing yourself altogether from boyfriend consideration.

There are various ways to disqualify yourself as a boyfriend:

• You might be leaving town for good.
• You might already have a girlfriend.
• You might be married.
• You might be broke.

Of course, if you’re a newer seducer and just not that sexy yet, this may even backfire – if you don’t have boyfriend value, but you also lack lover value, removing boyfriend value just makes girls not really want you at all (if that’s the case for you, read this article).

However, if your lover appeal is solid, this is one of the surest paths to less or no LMR: disqualify yourself as a boyfriend, and make the decision to hook up with you simple.

 

#3: Be a Sexy nUt: Low Need and Threat, High Utility

Non-needy, unthreatening men who are also sexy and high utility rank among the most desirable, least objectionable men for sex. Why? Because they’re attractive for sex (sexiness), without also being trustworthy and not offering anything that might make a woman wish to resist sex (their NUT score).

You can understand sexiness better by reading this article: “Sexiness: What It Is & How to Have It.” You can understand the NUT model (being non-needy and unthreatening, alongside high utility) by reading this article: “Creep/Trust Spectrum and the NUT Model.”

The simple way to think of it is this way: if a man

• Is sexually attractive,
• Trustworthy, and
• Non-scary / non-creepy,

… women are going to tend to want to go to bed with you, often without much reason to deliberate or resist at all.

 

#4: Pick Girls Whose Friends Are Hooking Up

Due to a phenomenon I dub ‘copycat hookups’, women whose girlfriends are hooking up with men tend to want to hook up too.

READ MORE: Girls, Social Proof, Herding, and Copycat Hookups

The most common places to run into this include:

• Nightlife venues, especially toward the end of the night as her friends pair off.

• Parties, from middle night to late night, as her friends pair off and hook up.

• Vacation spots, as her friends pair off with guys.

• Vacation tours, as her friends pair off with guys.

The cool thing about this is it goes both ways… if you manage to pair off with a girl from a group of girls, and her friends think she’s likely to hook up with you, it makes them more likely to look for guys for themselves, too. If the friends then find guys, and your girl sees her friends pairing off with guys, guess what? She assumes they’re hooking up and becomes more open to going all the way with you also.

You can’t always totally control for this. However, if you’re one of these places and see a group of girls who all look to be on the prowl, isolate a girl from that group but stay in eyeshot and point it out to her when her friends pair off with men. Or, if you’re keeping an eye on things and see girls pairing off with guys from a group, it might just be time to leap in and grab one of the remaining girls from that group!

 

#5: Ramp the Compliance Up

Compliance serves a dual purpose: as you escalate it, you get girls more invested, and thus more willing to follow you around and accept your moves… and you also screen out girls who simply aren’t willing to go any farther with you.

Compliance testing is the single most reliable way of testing a girl’s interest levels for that reason. You won’t get her in bed with you if she won’t comply with you… so, test for compliance, and find out what level her interest is at.

The most reliable way to ramp up compliance is to start by requesting small bits of compliance, and escalate up to increasingly heavier compliance demands. For instance, asking her to see her bracelet or to tell you about something she’s just mentioned are both fairly light compliance demands. Asking her to leave her friends to go sit somewhere more private with you, or having her come sit on your lap, is more demanding. Having her leave the venue altogether with you and go back to your place more demanding still.

Even once back at your place, you can continue to ramp up compliance, having her do one thing, then another, then another. In fact, the California Pimp escalation method is a straight up “escalate to sex via incremental compliance” ladder.

 

#6: Preempt Objections to Sex

Think back on the girls you’ve faced LMR from and what sorts of resistance you typically hear. What do girls say? They say things like:

• “It’s too soon.”
• “But I barely know you!”
• “You don’t really know me!”
• “I don’t want you to think I’m easy.”
• “Everyone’s going to think I’m a slut!”
• “But my boyfriend will find out.”
• “I’m afraid you won’t respect me.”
• “I’m not that kind of girl.”
• “I don’t have sex on the first date.”
• “I’m on my period right now.”

Etc.

Can you preempt these objections? You absolutely can!

If you build an emotional connection with her (no more “we don’t know each other” objections), act discreet and communicate discretion (no fears about others thinking she’s easy… after all, they never need to know), communicate a nonjudgmental and sexually liberal attitude (no fears about you judging her a slut or too easy), and set frames for spontaneity, adventurousness, and going for what one wants (no more “too soon”, “not that kind of girl”, etc.), these objections don’t even come up.

That’s not to say you won’t face last minute resistance. If you preempt all her objections but you still don’t do a great job escalating in other ways, you may still face LMR. That’s why this is #6 on the list, not #1.

However, preempting objections she might have gives her fewer things to worry about, and provides you a straighter shot to bedroom bliss with your lovely new paramour.

 

#7: Get Lots of Touch In

It’s possible to seduce with little or no touch (at least before the bedroom).

However, in general, you are going to want to touch lots… and the more you touch, and the more you escalate that touch, the readier she will be for intimacy.

READ MORE: 7 Ways to Touch a Girl + 3 Ways to Have HER Touch YOU

It should make sense to you: if she’s been sitting with you for 90 minutes or two hours, and is used to your hands being all over her, her pulled right up into you, and the two of you touching like boyfriend and girlfriend, then assuming she’s attracted to you and is into you, she’ll be pretty well along the path to sexual arousal already.

Touch enough and the escalation to sexual intimacy can even feel like something of a formality. You’ve already touched so much – it’s already more or less apparent the two of you will be getting it on!

Of course, touch alone won’t save things if you’re dropping the ball in other ways in the seduction. It also won’t usually be enough if she is very closed to being seduced, for one reason or other. If you’re touching her, but she’s always leaning/squirming away, not good.

Yet if you touch lots, and she leans into the touch, and clearly enjoys it, and wants more, and especially if she touches you back (see the guide to mutual touch), you’re going to be in pretty good shape for the escalation back home – and you may not face LMR at all.

 

#8: Verbally Sexualize the Seduction

That is to say, set sexual frames.

READ MORE: Sexual Frame Setting

There’s a whole host of ways to do this, from chase frames to raunchy sex jokes to sex talk and sex stories. You can read the sexual frame setting article I just linked for a full set of ways to verbally sexualize things.

Good verbal sexualization injects sex into the conversation without provoking resistance from the girl. It may sexually prize you. It may exhibit sexual confidence (which preselects you). Either way, it gets girls thinking about sex, and anchoring those sexual thoughts along with good, positive feelings to you.

Sexual frames, like compliance, help to screen in receptive women – and can also be used to screen out those who aren’t receptive. If you try a bunch of sexual frames and she doesn’t respond to any of them, you may wish to keep on moving if your goal is an LMR-less escalation.

In addition to their role screening, however, sexual frames also help to set the mood… that way a girl knows what is coming with you and has no illusions about you being anything other than a randy, raunchy, sexual man.

By the time she makes it to the bedroom with you, she fully knows what to expect.

Odds are, she’s there because she wants what you want too. Which means little or no LMR.

 

#9: Future Project an Intimate Relationship

Future projection is a fun old seduction tactic that doesn’t get as much play today, but it’s as useful as ever. All you do when you future project is paint a picture for a girl of you and her doing things in the future. At some point in this picture you paint, you should be including sexual things.

READ MORE: How to Future Project

What you do with future projection is to get a girl to imagine a realistic scenario where you and her are together in the future, and also already comfortable being intimate together.

This skirts around some of her objections (obviously you didn’t judge her, since the two of you are still spending time together; obviously she must like being with you, since she still is). At the same time, do a good job future projecting, and she will actually visualize what you describe. When you get someone to visualize something, to some degree it feels as if it’s already happened to her… like you and her are already an item (and intimate together).

It might sound silly, but this little exercise helps you alleviate some of the concerns women have around sex, while making them feel a little bit as if they’re already used to sleeping with you. You can continue to return to your future projection throughout a seduction as well, reinforcing the frame… and during escalation, you can bring it up again, to the effect of sometimes letting you skip past last minute resistance entirely.

 

What DOESN’T Work: Lengthy Dating

One thing we should address before we wrap this article is an actual common misconception:

That a great way to avoid resistance to sex and take women to bed is to stretch things out across a number of dates. It absolutely is not!

I can’t tell you how many guys I’ve heard complain about having taken girls on four dates… or seven dates… or ten dates… only to not be able to move past so much as kissing the girl.

Your first thought might be, “Well, these are just conservative girls. It’s to be expected.” And yeah, some of them might be…

But I’ll also tell you: I have slept with girls who have confessed to me that they have men chasing after them who’ve been on all these dates with them, and often get frustrated at trying to take the girl home only for her to refuse to let the guy do it… the guy gets upset, but apologizes for his outburst the next day and keeps courting the girl.

Meanwhile, I’ll have slept with the girl the night I met her, or on our first date.

READ MORE: How to Get Girls: The Last Post You'll Ever Need

One such girl told me about a magical date she had with a suitor of hers. He took her to a bar (it was her first time ever going to one), bought her a beer, and she drank it and looked out across the snow falling outside. She felt it was so romantic. He touched her hair, and her heart was beating like crazy for this guy. He ended up dropping her off at her building, then leaving, and this passionate feeling she had for him had totally subsided by the next day. He went on to take her on many more dates over a course of months, but never so much as got her alone in an apartment with her. I slept with this girl the day after I met her, and she never mentioned any magical moments with me.

When was this guy’s best chance at getting together with her, free from LMR? Was it on Date #10? Date #5? Date #2 even?

Nope… it was on that first magical date, when she felt all those emotions. But he took it slow… doubtless to “play it safe.”

Perhaps if I hadn’t entered the picture, he might have gotten together with her eventually (perhaps on Date #20?). Yet I GUARANTEE he would’ve faced a mountain of LMR if he ever reached that point with her then. Why? Because she was full-on vetting this guy as a boyfriend by that point. That means lots of scrutiny, lots of hesitation, lots of not trying to screw things up by looking too slutty/easy/fast.

I bet he could’ve laid her without LMR that first date he had with her when things felt so magic, had he gone for it.

But he didn’t.

Why do you think my flagship course on getting girls revolves around doing it in One Date? Your best chance with a girl often comes much sooner than you expect.

(it’s certainly possible to sleep with girls after multiple dates without LMR, too. You just need to handle the dating process right… and not have anything “too magical” happen too soon)

 

Conclusion: Avoiding Last Minute Resistance

Last minute resistance is avoidable – though some of the easiest ways to avoid it include screening out the girls who are most likely to give it (e.g., girls who aren’t DTF; girls who aren’t highly compliant; girls who resist sexual frames; etc.).

Other means to reduce or avoid LMR are more transformative: they allow you to overcome obstacles and help a woman arrive at a place where she’s ready for intimacy when intimacy arrives. They are seductive.

Our ways to avoid last minute resistance, just to recap:

1. Choose DTF girls
2. Disqualify yourself as a boyfriend
3. Be a sexy nUt
4. Pick girls whose friends are hooking up
5. Ramp the compliance up
6. Preempt objections to sex
7. Get lots of touch in
8. Verbally sexualize the seduction
9. Future project an intimate relationship

As a reminder, smoother game and a calibrated escalation are key, no matter how many of these measures you have going for you. They’re how you steer clear of mistakes that can trigger second thoughts in women and cost you lays.

So – feel ready to start closing some girls out, LMR-free?

Put these into practice in your next seduction, and watch that resistance melt away.

Chase

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