Don't Compete with Guys on What They're Good At (Instead, Beat Them on What They're Not)

beat them at what they're good at
When you’re head-to-head against another guy over a girl, the last thing you want to do is try to best him at what he’s good at. Beat him on your terms, instead.

Contents

1. The Two Key Battle Strategies

Beat Him at His Game
Change the Terms
Other Strategies

2. Set the Rules, Get the Pulls

How to Redefine the Terms
When It Doesn’t Work

3. Recap

Commenting under my article “If a Girl Has Sex with You Fast, is She a Slut?”, Mike asked:

“Hey chase, please I have a question to ask. I want to know how to compete with guys more handsome than me. Thanks.”

It’s a good question. It echoes similar questions I’ve answered in articles and in the comments before, such as:

How do you compete with men who are famous?
How do you compete with guys she already knows?
How do you compete with bad boys when you’re not a bad boy?

I don’t want to spoil the whole article, but the way you win, of course, is by not trying to beat that guy at what he’s good at.

Instead, what you must do to win is change the rules of engagement.

With the right tweaks, you can put a guy on the defensive and emerge victorious for the girl, despite almost any number of on-paper advantages he might seem to have over you.

Chase Amante

Author

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.

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