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How to Open a Girl Who's Moving

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By: Chase Amante

how to open a girl who's movingMoving girls are everywhere. Most men will never try approaching them. Yet there are numerous ways to meet these girls – and open them successfully.

You’re walking down the street and you see a beautiful girl. Her hair, her clothes, her walk, her body – it’s all just amazing. However, she’s walking. You cannot think of a good way to meet her… and so, you let her walk by.

How many beautiful girls have you simply WALKED BY over the course of your life? How many of them could have become your lovers… girlfriends… the future mother of your children… if only you’d just said “Hello”?

In this article, I’ll lay out the dos, don’ts, and strategies to use when opening girls who are moving. First we’ll talk about some of the girls you’ll meet when you start opening girls who’re on the move – then after that, I’ll give you the nitty gritty on how to open a girl who’ve moving.

Let’s go.

Girls Who Are DTF Don't Stay DTF Forever

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girls who are DTF don't stay DTF foreverIf a girl is DTF, can you put her off for now and sleep with her later? No, sorry… because when a girl’s DTF, it doesn’t last; she won’t stay DTF forever.

Bit of a public service announcement here, because I see a looot of new guys make this rookie mistake:

When a girl is DTF (down to fuck), she is only that way on a temporary basis. DTF is a fleeting emotion – once it’s gone, it’s gone, and often it will not come back.

Even if you’re a pro with girls today, I have no doubt you have memories of girls who were hot, horny, and ready to go, only for you to put off bedding them because, “I’ll just lay her later.” Except later never came… for when you tried to bed her the NEXT time, she wasn’t in the mood and you couldn’t get her back in it.

The fleeting nature of women’s DTF state is something guys need some time to fully comprehend. That’s because as men, we don’t work that way. If I’d be down to fuck a girl today, I’m still going to be down to fuck the same girl tomorrow, and probably next week (and next month… heck, maybe even next year!) as well.

Not so with women.

Understanding this difference between males and females is essential if you don’t want to bypass opportunities to sleep with sexy girls that you will miss if you fail to grasp it.

The Purity Gambit: Open Up Sexual Topics in a Surprising Way

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By: Alek Rolstad

TEXTThe Purity Gambit introduces sexual topics in a way few women expect: by discussing purity. But we don’t mean chastity! We mean purity of another kind…

Hey guys. I hope you are doing well.

You may remember a recent post of mine about social observations and how the sexual market has changed. Everything changes, although rarely drastically; it changes enough that we can tweak our game while maintaining our framework. We usually don't need to make extreme changes, which is good.

I pointed to gambits focusing on lowering anti-slut defense (ASD), women's defense mechanism that allows them to reject or resist sexual advances to preserve their reputation, so others don't label them as sluts. These gambits often have fewer effects in more sexually liberated Western societies.

Those gambits still work, although less powerfully. Women still fear the slut label subconsciously, and society still has a somewhat sex-negative attitude toward sex, at least deep down. Today, it has a different form (radical feminism).

That said, the idea of being a sexually free woman correlates with more modern ideals of liberal feminism and being a strong, independent woman. Whether or not we agree with these ideals is up to each of us, but as discussed in my previous posts, we can use this to our advantage to create great gambits.

And this is true with today's gambit.

I wrote this gambit quickly as a forum post a while ago, but since it works remarkably well today, I decided to rewrite it, adding more details and tweaks to make it more powerful. I discuss more of the mechanisms below. You are welcome to read my forum post, which contains a discussion between me and several posters: Sex Talk: The Purity Gambit.

How to Minimize Nagging from Your Girlfriend or Wife

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minimize nagging from your girlfriend or wifeGirls nag guys. As soon as a girl sees a guy relaxing or otherwise ‘unoccupied’, the female restlessness and nagging begins. What can you do to minimize it?

If you have a woman, she’s going to nag you. No two ways about it.

Men, in general, agree. Like in this forum post:

It seems like women are hard coded to be restless and turn restless the man that has the misfortune of being in her proximity for too long.

I kid you not, I never had a woman at my house that allowed me to sit my ass on the sofa for more than a hour without demanding actions, time or assigning tasks.

The same moment your ass cheecks hit the pillow surely and quickly comes a "can you help me with..." or "let's go to ....", "are you really just gonna sit there and do nothing"?

Just like kids their brain cannot understand the concept of beind idle to rest and recover, they either sleep or they need non stop entertainment.

But what really makes them unbearable to me are the tasks they feel the need to assign wheter is to get an object in the room they can get themselves, close the curtain, throw away the trash on demand, check for something and so on.

Or this Reddit thread:

Reddit thread about nagging women

This behavior is annoying. It is annoying when men do it to women – I have done it deliberately to women, just to see how they react, and, yep, without exception, they also hate being nagged to do stuff. It is also annoying when women do it to men. Nevertheless, it is primarily women doing the nagging – and often it seems like they just cannot help themselves.

The poster in that first forum comment remarked that

the need for peace is probably the biggest drive not to engange in a serious relationship at least for my taste.

But must a man choose either a peaceful life OR a woman? Is “one or the other” the only way?

Study: More Powerful Romantic Partners Sacrifice Less

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powerful romantic partners sacrifice lessWho holds more power in a romantic relationship? The one who’s still pursuing goals and dreams outside of it, scientific studies show.

In another study that surprises absolutely no one, researchers have found that those with more relative power within a relationship sacrifice less for the sake of the relationship:

Romantic partners often have to sacrifice their interests to benefit their partner or to maintain the relationship. In the present work, we investigated whether relative power within the relationship plays an important role in determining the extent to which partners are likely to sacrifice. Drawing from both classic theories and recent research on power, we tested two competing predictions on the relationship between power and sacrifice in romantic relationships. We tested whether (a) power is negatively related to sacrifice and (b) power is positively related to sacrifice. Furthermore, we also explored whether the association between power and sacrifice is moderated by commitment and inclusion of the other in the self. To test our hypotheses, we used different methodologies, including questionnaires, diary studies, and videotaped interactions. Results across the five studies (N = 1,088) consistently supported the hypothesis that power is negatively related to tendencies to sacrifice in close relationships.

While this seems obvious – i.e., that the person who’s the “one-down” in the relationship ends up doing more of the sacrificing than the person who’s the “one-up” – I think it’s worth discussing a bit in-depth to understand just what’s going on here… and why.

[WATCH] Value, Pickup, & Mentalities

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We’ve seen five new videos on GirlsChase.TV over the past couple weeks. In case you haven’t kept up on the content there, here’s what you may have missed – and may want to check out.

 

Seduction as Offense vs. Resistance as Defense

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offense vs. defense in seductionIn many ways, seduction is analogous to warfare. Yet men’s seduction – offense here – need not be ‘hostile’ towards women’s defensive ‘resistance’!

I’ve dived back into reading On War, Carl von Clausewitz’s masterful treatise on military action. I’d taken a break to read some fiction (such as Edgar Rice Burroughs’s peak masculinity adventure stories) and a few other non-fiction books on various subjects, but now, like a band of pillagers that struck off temporarily to replenish its supplies before returning to the siege, I’ve wandered back.

Clausewitz speaks often about friction, his term for difficulties doing just about anything in war – a force that bogs down what should be simple maneuvers and plays spoiler to otherwise sound strategies. I’d like to write about how this relates to seduction too… but for today the topic is something else.

Because as Clausewitz talks about offense and defense, I see many parallels there to our topic of discussion here. In many ways, within a romance, the ‘offense’ is the efforts to seduce – while the ‘defense’ is the efforts to resist that seduction.

What I’d like to do is highlight some takeaways from Clausewitz that apply every bit to the romantic battlefield as they do the martial one.

After all, as they say, all’s fair in love and war, and the two fields have their similarities.

Talk About Pansexualism with Girls (and Hook Them In!)

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the pansexuality gambitPansexualism has become a trendy sexuality… and it makes for great sex talk fuel with girls. Use this gambit in your chats to get the juice flowing.

Hey guys, and welcome back.

In last week's post, I discussed socio-cultural changes in the West that affect the efficiency of sex talk. All my gambits still work, but sexual openness, non-judgementalism, and low-keyness gambits previously had a more significant effect than they do today. We still get positive results, but they are less impactful now. Women back then opened up and loved you for uttering those words. Why the change? Well, slut-shaming is less prevalent, and the culture of female empowerment allows women to be more social about their sexuality. This is not to say that women won't like you for using those gambits; they still have a potent affect-but it is not the magic trick it once was.

However, in some conservative countries with more conservative girls, gambits about sexual openness, lowkey-ness, and reframing sex as positive still work like a charm! So, those gambits have not hit their expiration date yet!

But some subjects simply work better now, like sexual avant-gardism and sexual comfort. The gambit that I am to go through covers the former. It's about having an edge, pushing the norms that help some women become immersed in what you have to say. This allows you to build rapport and get easy hooks. Even better, it opens the gate to juicier, more explicit subjects.

Sleeping with Girls Who Are 'Done with Casual Sex'

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girl is done with casual sexMany girls will tell you they are ‘done with causal sex’… then resist your escalation to sex. What does this mean – and HOW do you sleep with such girls?

Tactics Tuesdays: Cool Guy Emulation

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cool guy emulationCool guys behave in subtly different ways than guys who just ‘do what cool guys do’ without BEING cool. How can you emulate this and actually BECOME cool?

What are you focused on when you’re talking to girls? Is it:

  • Looking out for cues and responding to signals?

  • Active listening to understand what she’s saying and feed it back to her?

  • Using good tactics and making the right moves to progress things forward?

  • Worrying about what she thinks of you and whether you are doing it right?

These are all useful things to focus on when you are learning them.

They are also things you will be aware of in the back of your head even once you have learned them.

However, guys who are good don’t have any of these things as primary foci with girls. Instead, these are background processes occurring in their heads, keeping an eye on their interactions for them, calibrating on the fly.

What do skilled, cool guys focus on when they talk to girls?

That’s what we’ll talk about today.

That, and how to emulate such guys, so you can get similar results to them too.