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What to Focus on When You Meet Girls Clubbing

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By: Cody Lyans

I've talked a lot on Girls Chase about having foundations, thinking things through, and addressing your ego, and now that I have done that it is time to talk about the real issues men face when trying to learn how to meet girls clubbing.

In my experience, most guys that are going out to clubs trying to figure girls out are en masse coming at the whole issue from the wrong angle. I can't pinpoint or classify the error of the approach precisely, but it always ends the same way - guys taking everything very seriously and getting very stern and upset about the wrong things.

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I get why guys going out at night end up frustrated and saddened by the experience, and I would completely feel the same way if I was back in that grind again myself.

However, the big problem here is that guys are aiming for "big wins", and not being patient and accepting enough about "a good process" and improvements coming from within.

3 Ways to Train Up Social Aptitude

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By: Chase Amante

social aptitudeYou’re at a night school class you share with a pretty girl you’ve had your eye on. The semester’s only halfway through, yet you have a feeling this girl likes you, and you like her too. You’ve chatted a few times, and sometimes you sit near her or next to her, but not always.

One evening, your class lets out and she takes a long time to gather her belongings. Coincidentally (or not), two of you head out at the same time. You strike up a conversation with her on the way out, and she’s responsive, but the conversation quickly stalls out. She seems happy but nervous. You feel like she’s waiting for something. Then you think how awkward it would be if you asked her out and she said no, and now you’ve got to keep coming back to this class and it’d really suck if there was an awkward vibe between you and this girl you like.

So, you tell her well, anyway, you guess you’d better get going, and you peel off and head to your car. On the way home, you kick yourself for not asking her out.

There are some men out there this kind of thing never happens to – if they get a shot with a girl, they take it. They can’t even understand why this would even be a problem for guys.

For most guys though, this is something they’ve had happen once or twice (or thrice... or four times... or more times).

The difference between the man this doesn’t happen to, and the man it does, quite often, comes down to a difference in their general and specific social aptitudes.

Why ‘Walking Around’ is Great for Game (and More)

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By: Ethan Fierre

Some of the most beneficial things you can do for yourself are the most simple and basic:

  • Drink lots of water

  • Get plenty of sleep

  • Be physically active

  • Spend time with friends and family

Yet of these activities, one stands out above the rest as particularly valuable for picking up women: going for walks.

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If They Won’t Lead… Will You?

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By: William Gupta

When looking back at all my experience with girls, there are a couple of events that still haunt me. Not because I got rejected, not because I bombed out, but because I was so close and failed.

The failure wasn’t due to there being poor logistics, nor was it a rogue friend that pulled her away. These failures were the result of me not standing up at the right moment and being a dominant man. I either pushed off the responsibility on one of my wingmen or the girl. Well, in life and in game, no one is going to do the work for you. This is why I have adopted the mantra “If they won’t, I will.”

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This post is going to be set up a little different from my other posts. I am going to bring up two instances where I failed to stand up and take responsibility. I hope the lessons from my nightmares can help your dreams come true.

Picking Up Women When You’re Feeling Low Energy

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By: Alek Rolstad

Hey everyone. Having finished up my long and detailed picking up women on the dance floor guide, I've decided to write about something else.

I recently finished my degree, giving me a lot more time to head out. Lately, I've been going out every weekend. I also travelled to Spain and Bulgaria.

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In Bulgaria I met Chase. It has been a while since I have seen him. Chase hasn't changed much, apart from growing his hair - which looked great on him. We had a blast in Bulgaria - Chase is still an interesting character and it's always a pleasure to hang out with him. The discussions we had in Bulgaria were as interesting as when I met him years ago in China.

My idea is to write a series of posts inspired by my recent nights out; covering my observations and the lessons I have learned on the way. I will not cover every event - some are less interesting - for example the nights where I accidently bumped into a super horny girl who ended up back at my place within minutes are not that interesting.

I will also share some detailed reports as well (next week!) where you will see what I do step-by-step in-field, with my own personal notes. This way you will:

  • Get a feel on how things work together - most posts here at GC covers a narrow topic, but putting it all together is an art in itself.

  • Get an idea of how things are applied in real life.

  • Understand how I think in-field - my mindsets, beliefs, and reasoning.

  • Steal some cool lines - I will share some nuggets.

  • Learn a few cool tricks and tactics.

  • See how I handle different REAL life situations that occur.

Each post will have one main topic, but we will also discuss some other smaller observations that are of interest.

What It Means When She Says She Has a Boyfriend

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By: Chase Amante

I had an interesting conversation with one of our senior members on the discussion boards recently. He’d approached a girl, really hit it off with her, until at some point she told him she had a boyfriend and started resisting him more.

It wasn’t a question of value or attraction. This girl clearly liked him.

Instead, in this case, it was attainability that triggered her bringing up the boyfriend.

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Now, I know there are a lot of folks reading who are going to say, “Well, hold the phone – maybe it was just that the girl has a boyfriend and she isn’t going to cheat on him!”

We’ll talk about that below. However, odds are, taking things at face value with women is usually a sign there’s something you’re not getting... not a sign she’s among the 2½% of women who says what she means and means what she says.

How to Decipher Female Subcommunication, Part 2

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By: Joseph W. South

In the last segment of the Practical Female Psychology series, we discussed how and why females developed the language of Subcommunication and how it gets used by women today.

We learned how women are often Ambivalent; that is, a woman will communicate in such a way so as to cause confusion in the male mind, make sure she keeps her options open, and attract resources and romantic affection from as many avenues as possible without crossing the line into social ostracism, where she risks getting labeled a “slut”.

We also learned how the men who best succeed with women understand this secret female language, and in turn have learned the art of Discretion, which is basically a conspiracy to allow females to operate in that certain way without any hindrance.

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Today we’ll discuss Subcommunication as it relates to the dangers and opportunities surrounding dating in the workplace; why no matter how much you learn about females, you still want to talk like a man does; and some more practical tips for mastering the fine art of interacting with females.

The Truth About Big Muscles and Getting Laid

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By: William Gupta

When I was seventeen I overdosed on cocaine. I weighed 107 pounds and was 5'9" - needless to say, I was skinny. It's been eight years since that event and I now weigh 165 pounds and am around 7-8% body fat. I have been asked to be a fitness model and to competitively powerlift. My journey from being a skinny kid to a muscular bro was motivated almost entirely by my goal of bedding more women.

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And although putting on a lot of muscle didn't give me the results I had fantasized about, the journey helped transform my character and turned me into a guy who does in fact bed a lot of women. I'm writing this post because there are a lot of misconceptions about how being muscular helps you with women, so here is the truth about how being muscular will help you get laid.

Girls Chase Podcast Interviews Ep. 4: Joseph W. South

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By: Chase Amante

Today we’re serving up our fourth fantastic podcast interview, this time with Varoon Raja interviewing Girls Chase author Joseph W. South.

In today’s podcast, Joseph and Varoon discuss:

Developing Your Own True Independence

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By: Cody Lyans

Among men studying the social arts, women’s ultimate goal is often misinterpreted as the pursuit of sex.

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In this article I will describe their real goal and how it is often distorted by those in some form of a scarcity mindset. We will also go much deeper than this, as we will be looking at your real goal as well as women’s.

To begin this subject, I can’t really delay introducing you to the ultimate goal, so, in the spirit of openness, here it is. But before you make your judgement upon it, read the rest of the article and see how your view of it changes.

The ultimate goal (of women AND men) is to free oneself from becoming frozen in fear of judgement… and to do this without hurting or taking advantage of others for one’s own comfort and ease.