Men don’t build attraction in women gradually. Raised attraction comes in spurts – and when lost, it’s lost in disappointing spurts (or collapses), too.How do some men take a woman who’s barely interested in them and make her fall in love?
How do so many other men manage to turn women who were attracted to them into women who no longer are?
In one week, I open the doors for IMPULSE TEXTING… my innovative new text-the-girl course that teaches you to use the psychology of natural conversations to get girls texting you back on impulse.
Today I have a second free video on creating natural conversations with women over text.
In it, we talk about why most guys’ text message convos DON’T feel natural… plus I give you a couple of tips you can start using today to help remedy this.
The regular nightlife’s over, but the after-hours venues are still on. How do you pick up women from these places – and not risk late-night rejections?Hey guys and welcome back.
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In my last article, I gave an overview of after-hours venues.
These venues remain open after the general nightlife closes. They are the clubs that people go to if they want to party more. They usually attract more of the power-going crowd, like ravers and clubbers. Those may make up half the crowd. The rest will be regular people who have no idea how they got there.
I recommended opting for gay-friendly after-hours places or straight-friendly gay places. They tend to have the most girls with less male competition (most men there are gay).
Gay-friendly after-hours places are not unusual because those places are known as party scenes, and nobody parties harder, longer, and more seriously than gay people. They will readily go to the after-hours venues. Most after-hours venues that are good have a gay clientele.
Those that don’t tend to be sausage fests with primarily straight men.
You may see more men, but most don’t “count” because they are gay. This is even more so in gay venues open to straight people. Even more interesting is that gay and gay-friendly venues often have more girls than those that do not attract the gay crowd.
And no, they are not lesbians.
In today’s modern, egalitarian world, why do women still want long-term providers? Isn’t that redundant? Shouldn’t women just take care of themselves?We have a romantically inexperienced member on the forum right now struggling to understand why women want men capable of provision in long-term relationships. Why can’t he just be his “really really cute” and “adorable” (his words) self and let women provide for him?
It might seem to make sense, after all. Women get more college degrees than men these days and, at least before age 30, in many cities (like New York and Washington, D.C.) out-earn men. The sex roles have flipped. It’s time for women to take on the provider role. Isn’t it?
This member in the thread above later argued that because women have slept with different men and are not virgins, they don’t bring enough to the table and do not deserve his resources. Therefore, they should be willing to do the work and bring home the bacon while he kicks around at home, presumably tidying up the house and working in the shed, or maybe the flower garden (after a hard day of “looking really, really cute,” I guess).
It’s obviously an absurd position to hold, but… why?
WHY is it ridiculous that a man could be the really, really cute & adorable, dependent, lovely house husband and a woman the hard-working, doting breadwinner – even in our modern, feministic, egalitarian society?
In just a week and a half, on Saturday, July 15th, I’ll be opening the doors to my never-before-released texting system, Impulse Texting.
As we gear up for that, I’ve put together a series of videos for you on a set of pressing texting issues and questions men run into with women.
In today’s video, we examine one key question: why aren’t girls texting you back?
Go here to watch the video:
What does it mean if a girl doesn’t text you first? There are 5 different reasons why she never texts first. All YOU can do is follow your texting process.I see a lot of stuff online claiming that, “If a girl doesn’t text you first, it means she’s not that interested.”
In articles and videos with this conclusion, the advice to men tends to be something like if she never texts you first, you should move on, and find a girl who’s more interested.
Find a girl who will actually text you first, instead.
Is this actually good advice?
Or is this advice all washed up?
Ovid’s Ars Amatoria is filled with tips on seducing women. While many are timeless, others give a unique look into how pickup worked in ancient Rome. 
What makes an after-hours venue good to pick up women is not just that it’s open after hours. Some after-hour clubs are awful. Yet some can be gold mines.Hi all. I hope you are all doing great.
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Today I want to discuss a topic that hasn’t been discussed yet on the site—how to pick up in after-hour venues.
The truth is, picking up girls in these venues is not the same as picking up girls in “normal hours” venues. You should consider many factors and calibrate depending on the venue type.
After-hour venues are unique with their own vibe, rules, and universe, whereas regular clubs are open during hours when people usually party. But after-hours venues are open when people typically leave for home or start heading to work around 8 am. I know of a place that closes at around 11 am! When you exit the club at closing time, it is daytime, and you may see families out and about, and you are dressed flashy and all looking like a mess. Good times.
And yes, it is possible to pull even at that hour! I will get into why shortly. I have taken girls home at 10 or 11 am! I cannot guarantee they will always be the best regarding looks or personality. At that later hour, these women are usually “damaged goods.” Be warned.
We have a lot to discuss. First, let’s look at social dynamics to understand each venue type. Next week, we break down a potential game plan.
People must feel secure in their relationships to stay in them. As relationship trust crumbles, security erodes, and people take steps to guard themselves.In my four-part relationship model, GISS, the first ‘S’ stands for ‘security.’ Security, as I use it for relationships, means a few things:
Trust that you are who you seem to be.
Trust that you can be relied upon for what’s required.
Trust that no outside forces or events can upend the relationship.
The reason I don’t simply call it ‘trust’ is because all these kinds of trust together create a feeling that the relationship is secure. Yet in the absence of this trust, or as the trust erodes, a sense of insecurity prevails.
How secure should you aim to make your relationships? Many men strive to give their women a sense of total security – greater security, in truth, than they can realistically deliver.
It’s a chaotic world out there, full of uncertainty and unknowns. Just as your woman seeks security in her relationship with you, you bear the responsibility of deciding how strong a sense of security you will give her… and whether you can live up to the impression you allow her to have.
When you talk to girls, talk about other girls. It lets you set sexual frames, communicate popularity with women, and inspire girls to chase you.Here’s a “golden oldie” of seduction community wisdom:
When talking with girls, talk about other girls.
I first encountered this advice in the first seduction manual I ever read, Swinggcat’s book Real World Seduction. In it, Swinggcat recommended telling girls stories that had other girls in them.
It didn’t take long before I heard this same tactic from other seduction community legends. One advocated talking about “my friend blah blah” and then referring to your friend as “she” and “her” – and if a girl asks, “Is she your girlfriend?” you know you have her hooked.
Another talked about how telling stories about other girls you know or knew allowed women to feel more comfortable around you, showing them you’re not some guy women avoid, while allowing you to show the girls you’re talking to that you have girls just like them in your life already (excellent for attainability).
I don’t see this advice so much anymore, so I figured I’d do a little write up on it specifically, just to get it out there again.
