Stop stressing over perfect game! Attraction isn’t about flawless moves—master the 4% that matters most & boost your confidence with women.This post by Warped Mindless originally appeared on our forum here.
Sex doesn’t begin in the bedroom. It starts long before. That’s what you’ll tell girls in the Diachronic Sex Gambit — and get them imagining themselves in bed with you soon after.Hey guys. Welcome back.
I have been sharing some gambits about the concept of listing. It is a powerful tool for setting and controlling the frame of a conversation. When talking to a woman, you can use listing by providing several reasons for a particular point, which can help her accept the frame. This technique is straightforward. Advertisements frequently employ listing techniques both online and in television commercials.
The examples I provided in my two latest posts demonstrate how listing works in the field, and I hope the examples in this post will do the same.
Even though listing is intuitive, the hard part is to pull it off correctly, ensuring that each dimension you list seems persuasive and desirable to her.
It’s not really about convincing and being correct, as in political debate. It is about making the girl think, “Damn, he gets it; I like this.” If you use a defensive tone and get into an argumentative state, you have lost the seduction, and the conversation will turn into a debate. If you ever get there, pace and lead her elsewhere and change the subject by fractionating out.
Today, we will go through a gambit using the same template. It has a similar theme to last week, but instead of focusing on sexual comfort, we will focus on arousal and sexual prizing by conveying that you are a good lover with great skills, experience, and knowledge.
Inner game truth: men seriously arrest their progress with women because of sticky limiting beliefs. Want to achieve the impossible (or unlikely) with girls? You need to let all that go.In 2001, I, a somewhat taller than average, somewhat more attractive than average, slim American white guy with a deep voice who’d been called “the man” and “bad ass” by the coolest kids in high school and had been chased for dates by the prettiest and most popular girls (and cheerleaders) in high school went to work in a tire store.
There I met Jim, a short, fat, swarthy Puerto Rican tire salesman with a higher-pitched voice who lived in a ramshackle rented single-family home that was really only good for throwing parties.
Jim was the first guy I ever met who was an out-and-out player. He was constantly sleeping with good-looking white girls, such as our boss’s over 6’ modelesque cousin when she visited from England (she had a good 7 inches on him at least). That girl messaged him furiously after returning to England that she couldn’t sleep with her boyfriend anymore because she wanted only Jim now.
Meanwhile, of course, Jim was happily sleeping with more, new girls… not to mention his sweet blonde girlfriend, who went out of her way to bring him sandwiches for lunch at the tire shop.
I’d never been on a date in my life at this point, and despite the attention I got in high school had no idea what to say to girls. I didn’t watch Jim with envy… more like perplexed wonder.
How did he do it? What exactly was he doing to score all these girls?
I never asked him, because I was too proud to ask. Plus if I admitted that I couldn’t get girls I’d look weak. (even though he clearly knew right away anyway)
But I can tell you now, the #1 factor that differentiated 18-year-old Chase from 25-year-old Jim:
I had a ton of limiting beliefs, but Jim had none.
Cold approach is a numbers game. But rejection is exhausting. How do you put the approach numbers in WITHOUT burning out? These 3 steps are the way.Commenting on my article about dating for autistic men (where I remarked how autistic guys often become ‘approach machines’ who chew through hundreds/thousands of approaches with little to show for it), Sub-Zero asks
I’m just wondering if it takes hundreds to thousands of approaches to get a lay or a few, how are guys still going after getting rejected so much?
If I approached 20 women during day game and couldn’t get a lay, I’d be discouraged. If I did get a lay, but I had to approach 20 more to get another, I’d probably get lazy and take what I can get. So, how are guys getting a lot of lays with all these approaches it seems like you have to focus a lot on doing this, when are you free to do other things?
I think I’ve been misunderstanding cold approaching numbers.
All right, so first off, most men are not autistic. Most guys are not going to need to do hundreds (or God forbid thousands) of approaches to get a single lay off of cold approach.
That said, cold approach is not social circle game. It is going up to talk to strangers to find out who’s available, attracted, and receptive to your game. Many girls you approach won’t be any of those, or maybe some but not all of those.
For this reason, it is and always will be a numbers game.
Like anything that is a numbers game, most guys will try it out, try grinding for a bit, not get much back for their results, and burn out on it.
Getting good at cold approach requires a man to make it past that initial ‘heavy grinding burnout phase’ that serves as a major filter to cold approach success.
Let’s talk about how to do that and avoid taking a walk down cold approach’s ‘wash out lane’.
Sometimes when you approach women, they react poorly. These are VIBE BOMBS – bombs that decrease the vibe. Defuse these bombs, and you can get the girl.This post by Cody Lyans originally appeared on our forum here.
Totally random title but it is the way I pre-approach girls if I intend to go in HOT.
So what is a vibe bomb?
You need trust to get new women into bed. Many men try to build trust once, quickly, and move on. With this gambit, you’ll build deeper trust – over time.Hey guys. Welcome back. I hope you are all doing well.
Today, I want to share a comfort gambit that utilizes listing, a technique we discussed over the past two weeks (see the rest of my series on using listing during sex talk). We talked about how to use listing as a tool for frame control and addressing potential tests you may receive from women when discussing sex. Last week, I provided examples of how to use this technique to build comfort.
I will continue with what we did last week. I will use listing as the main concept to set the frames of trust and comfort throughout the gambit.
This gambit is called the diachronic sex gambit. Do not be intimidated by the word diachronic. It simply means “through time,” and knowledge of the word is not necessary for using it.
It is an easy gambit to understand and use.
I have many versions, but today, we will focus on one that focuses on building sexual trust and comfort.
Before delving into the gambit, I’d like to expand on the analysis from last week regarding the importance of sexual trust and comfort.
I try to create hybrid gambit posts by covering theory while sharing techniques. This provides a “two in one package” so that you have both theory and tools. However, sex talk is the verbalization of a theory about male-to-female interactions, sexology, and sexual sociology. Thus, my theoretical analysis is not unwarranted. It is essential to understand what goes on behind the technique.
Relationships sometimes end, sometimes don’t. But if you want the best odds for yours, learn to love like it’s temporary – because it just might be.Every single day, 6,600 people around the world divorce.
Tens of thousands more unmarried couples break up.
Many of those split-apart people never planned to end their relationships. Some thought they’d never leave their partners. But things ended, and they did.
When things end, people turn bitter – and spread that bitterness around.
Online, red pill men burned by breakup and divorce claim “marriage is a game rigged against men.” They call marriage a way to “lose half your money, your kids, and your freedom.” They console each other that “she was never yours; it was just your turn.”
Meanwhile, female dating strategy women burned by breakup and divorce claim “marriage is a financial risk for women.” They say “divorce rape is a myth – women usually end up poorer.” They console each other that “men use women until something better comes along.”
The shock, pain, and disruption of the end of an in-love relationship is enough to turn many people from hopeful naïfs to hardened curmudgeons.
Yet once someone grows bitter, life takes a sharp southward turn.
READ MORE: Most Important Thing to Becoming a Lover of Women? Don't Be Bitter.
Don’t let bitterness blacken your heart.How do you manage to love, bond, and have relationships in the full knowledge that things might well end? Is it possible for a realist to avoid the bitter cynicism of the burned?
How do you hold two equally opposite ideas in mind: “I love someone very much” and “Someday this might end”?
The only way to mix reality with trust and hope is through enlightened romantic philosophy. Such a philosophy removes the stress and suspicion the jaded feel, without putting on the blinders the naïve wear. That philosophy is this:
Love like it’s temporary – because it just might be.
A girl gets the wrong impression about you, and her mood toward you changes. How do you fix it? Simple enough: with Ignore, Exhibit, Re-Attract.Imagine you’re in this scenario:
You’re being your regular cool self, but for whatever reason you slip up and say something rude.
You thought you were being funny but you ended up telling a girl she looks like a dork in that getup she has on, and she takes it personally and auto-rejects you, turning cold and offended.
You could try to use the auto-rejection turnaround technique, and that might work. But maybe she’s so offended she won’t even give you the chance to.
There’s another approach you can take. It’s more indirect, and it requires a consistent social environment (so it’s not usually going to work in, say, daytime cold approach, or nighttime street game) – but if you pull it off, it can bring back girls who’d decided they didn’t want anything to do with you at all.
Note: this is a firefighting tactic that is mostly only practical for intermediate seducers and higher. Due to the nature of the tactic, the higher your seduction skill level, the more effective this tactic will be; the less skilled you are, the less likely it is to succeed. We’ll look at why toward the end of the article, but for now, let’s talk tactics.
What should you send a girl you match with online? These 7 key messages make all the difference — turning matches into dates & lovers.Just like cold approach, texting is a skill you can refine over time. With practice, you can become so proficient that you won’t even need to go on dates—girls will come straight to your place for sex. (If you want more details on that, check out this example of how an average guy got laid.)
Similar to cold approach, I’m not a fan of being overly scripted. That’s why, despite receiving numerous requests, I never put together a rigid texting sequence. That said, I’ve found a few messages that work really well. Use these in your texting game, and you’ll be way ahead of the competition.
Women today aren’t worried about being “sluts” — they’re worried about being COMFORTABLE. So how do you get girls sexually comfortable with you? One way is via LISTING.Hey guys. Welcome back.
Last week, I discussed the concept of frame control and how to use listing as a strategy to tackle tests that may arise when discussing sexual topics. Common questions include: “Why are you telling me this?”, “Why are you talking about sex?” or “Do you always talk about sex?” I explained that providing a list of reasons for why you are saying or doing something can be very effective. Outlining the benefits and explaining why it is generally well-received can help make your perspective (and frame) one she should agree with. This technique is a classic form of persuasion commonly used in sales.
Today, I will expand on this, demonstrating how to apply it in sexual comfort gambits. For an example, see the narrative gambit at Pickup and Seduction Gambit: Narratives and to some extent, the diachronic sex gambit that I will share next week.
Because this concept is intuitive, easy to execute, and, most importantly, highly efficient, I took time to reflect on it and developed some new gambits. These will help better illustrate this technique.
The primary purpose of a gambit has always been to provide an example of how to apply specific techniques via a theme to set frames and elicit emotions. This gambit is no different: you can phrase it however you like, tweak it, and experiment to make it your own.
