When a girl giggles or jokes in response to sexual tension, it
doesn’t mean she isn’t interested. Instead, it usually means she IS.
In my last post, which was the second part of this series on sexual
tension, we discussed how one can create sexual tension by focusing on
these elements (simultaneously):
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Presence:
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Sexualization (using physical escalation tools and following a
ladder):
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Escalating till we reach the so-called “sweet spot” and stay
there in order to allow the tension to unfold and grow bigger and bigger
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However, the golden rules of calibration still apply
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Additionally:
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Make things mutual
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Slow the pace down
If you want more details, go ahead and reread part two.
In the comment
section beneath part one of this series (where I lay down
the “theoretical groundwork”), a reader named Jimbo shared a few
concerns:
“The
thing is that when I turn the tension sexual, whether from
silence or not, and the girl breaks the tension by making a joke or
something, I just figure she doesn't see me as a potential mate and
move on. That mostly happens with acquaintances or girls I've known for
a while. But I never thought of reengaging it later on.”
Jimbo’s concern is a common one. When he attempts to create
sexual tension with a girl, she reacts by making silly remarks,
giggling, cracking jokes. This is because she is a bit uncomfortable
with the tension. This is a normal thing – most girls you encounter
will react this way, some more than others. Occasionally
you will be lucky and deal with girls who do not show signs of
discomfort whatsoever when building up the tension.
Before I move on, I would like to make it clear that her reaction is
not some indirect way of communicating that she doesn’t see Jimbo as a
lover. Oftentimes it is quite the
opposite… she reacts that way exactly
because Jimbo triggers butterflies in
her stomach. I hope this post
will give clarification to this statement.
I will dedicate this entire post to this subject – maintaining the
tension and dealing with discomfort related to sexual tension. I will
illustrate this process by covering 3 levels of sexual tension. You
will see how going from one level to the next affects the interaction.
I will also dedicate a big portion of this post to how one navigates
through these levels. The idea is that the “levels” that I am about to
cover will help you make sense of what is going on, and the rest of the
post will be practical solutions to the issue at hand.
