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Articles by Author: Alek Rolstad

15 Years of Approaching, Pt. 2: Risk-Free vs. High-Risk Approaches

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high-risk approaches vs. risk-free approachesWhen you approach a woman, should you opt for a risk-free approach that lets you avoid rejection? Or is it better to go for the bold, high-risk, high reward approach instead?

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Last week, I shared my thoughts on opening and hooking in the early game phase. I compared scripted openings to natural ones and examined whether it’s better to dive in immediately, following the classic three-second rule, or take some time to plan your approach. I discussed when to choose each method and explained why it’s crucial to consider factors likeapproach anxiety, low state, and no social momentum.

Today, I will continue this discussion by sharing details about safer and riskier openers and how to benefit from riskier openers, including direct and sexualized openers, without incurring all the associated risks. We will also consider approach anxiety and calibration with these techniques. Let's get started.

Opening Girls & Hooking Them In: Lessons from 15 Years of Approaching

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15 years of approachingAfter approaching women for 15 years (and succeeding with many of them), Alek Rolstad shares his biggest takeaways on opening girls & hooking them in.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

In today’s post, I want to freestyle and share my thoughts on opening and hooking. These reflections come from 15 years of night gaming, so they are well-founded.

I will discuss opening, hooking, the three-second rule (whether you should wait before opening or jump into it), and if you should use canned (scripted) openers.

So, keep reading. You will likely learn a few techniques you haven’t thought about.

Mindsets of a Nightlife Seducer: Late Night Game

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navigating the final stepsHow does a highly skilled playboy mentally navigate the later stages of a night on the town? Come along with Alek Rolstad and see the mindsets of a talented seducer late into the night.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

This post will continue my exploration of strategic decision-making and cognitive process in-field. Like last week, I will present a hypothetical scenario that reveals my mental approach to various situations. I am choosing a hypothetical scenario because it allows me to discuss different outcomes, which I cannot do in a real-life report. It also allows me to create the most challenging setting, providing the best examples. The scenarios I present are inspired by actual events and are snippets of different circumstances I have experienced.

Today, I will discuss taking a girl to my place after extracting her from a club.

This phase is often a tense moment for many. You’ve put in much work and are close to the goal! Things can screw up at the last minute, and that can seem scary. You may become needy, or you may be overly careful. Needy because you really want this to work, or overly careful because you do not want to mess things up. Both stressors are not ideal.

Neediness will kill your chance of success and may upset her or make her feel uncomfortable. If you are too risk-averse, you may miss your window of opportunity and set the wrong frame—now, she views you as a non-sexual male. If the wrong frame continues, she will feel tired and not in the mood. You waited too long.

Next, I will share how I mentally manage these situations.

Mindsets of a Nightlife Seducer: In the Middle of the Night

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seducer's mindset in the middle of the nightHow does a skilled seducer think about ‘the game’ as his night out progresses? Take a tour through the inner workings of master seducer Alek Rolstad on an example night on the town.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

I am working on a series that explores my inner thoughts, particularly my mindset while in the field and my strategic decision-making. Using examples from a hypothetical scenario, I can discuss both potential and real-life situations. I deliberately create non-ideal scenarios filled with unfortunate circumstances and challenges. This approach lets me provide more effective examples.

Your night out will likely be more enjoyable than this hypothetical outing. That’s why I didn’t include a real outing or typical field report. The focus here is more on my techniques and what occurred, and the circumstances would probably be more favorable in a real situation. However, these hypothetical scenarios are inspired by actual events.

Last week, I discussed the earlier portions of the night, including opening and finding a lead. In last week’s hypothetical scenario, I decided to change venues as my leads in my first venue had dried out. When entering the new venue, I meet a new girl right away. This post covers the hypothetical scenario of mid- to late-game and my strategic decisions. I will also cover the hoops I may face and how I navigate them.

Mindsets of a Nightlife Seducer: Beginning the Night

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mindsets of a seducer: early nightAlek Rolstad walks you through the mindsets of a seducer as he prepares for a night out on the town – plus what goes through his mind early on in his night.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Today’s post has a different focus. While it may seem like a report, it is not. I will present a hypothetical scenario to illustrate my thought process in the field. Instead of analyzing the interactions, I want to discuss the various mental states I experience that guide my decision-making during an outing. My goal is to create an introspective reflection that reveals what occurs when facing different situations and challenges.

I have historically tried to incorporate this aspect in my field reports. However, most reports focus on events, such as the conversations, techniques I use, reasons behind their effectiveness, the girl’s responses, and my reactions to those responses. As a result, there is little room to explore what goes on inside my head.

I initially wanted this to focus on a specific outing. However, upon reflection, I realized that the outing I chose was similar to many others I’ve experienced, and my thought process is the same. Using a hypothetical scenario based on actual events gives me more flexibility. This approach allows me to create more hoops and settings, and I can better describe how I react to them. I am not confining myself to the narrative of what actually happened.

Before I begin, note that I am making these scenarios more negative than usual. This lets you see my mindset and strategic decision-making skills in handling challenging situations. They may seem more difficult than your typical outing. So, do not let this demotivate you. Most outings will be more favorable. The key is that despite unfavorable situations, you can still use your skills to turn the tide.

What to Do After Unprotected Sex

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risky sex: what now?Things got a little too frisky and in a moment of passion you left protection aside. What steps should you take after the act to ensure you stay clean?

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Note: This post addresses the aftermath of unprotected sex, which is a scary experience for some individuals. If you are in this situation, please read this post; it is for you. The sooner you read it, the better off you will be.

In my two most recent posts, I covered the important and often uncomfortable subject of sexually transmitted infections (STIs), discussing what they are and how to prevent them. These posts contain valuable information beyond what is typically found on standard sex education websites. I cover methods such as PrEP, a medication that helps prevent HIV, as well as one that helps reduce contracting gonorrhea. Additionally, I highlight some lesser-known facts about various STIs. I encourage you to check out these posts for more insights.

In my opinion, a playboy must educate himself about STIs. It is important to understand them and learn how to prevent their transmission; condoms are just one of many tools at your disposal. Prevention methods not only safeguard your own health but also protect others. As a playboy, you increase your risk of exposure, putting others at risk as well. It is essential to master this knowledge for everyone’s safety.

Please remember that although I have written these posts, I am not a health care professional—just someone who has done considerable research. The purpose of these posts is to provide an overview of available information and help you understand your options. With this knowledge, you can consult your doctor or health care professional to discuss your best choices. Their expertise takes precedence over mine.

In this post, I will discuss the aftermath of unprotected sex. Say an accident happened; perhaps the condom broke, or you were swept up in the moment and forgot to protect yourself. Now, it’s the next day, and paranoia has set in. Regardless of how you’re feeling—anxious or indifferent—this guide will help you understand what steps to take next.

Getting Tested for STIs: The Active Dater's Guide

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test now, worry lessIf you’re actively taking on new bedfellows, you should be testing for STIs. How should you test these? Where to do it? When? It’s all in this guide.

Hey guys. I hope you are doing well.

Today, I’ll continue my discussion about sexually transmitted infections (STIs). In this article, I will cover STI testing and share the information I have gathered over the years through clinic visits, conversations with specialists, and readings from scientific papers. I encourage you to visit a clinic to learn more from healthcare professionals, and while you’re there, consider getting tested. Please remember that this post is not a substitute for professional advice from certified healthcare providers.

How to Prevent STIs: A Guide for Active Daters

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how to prevent STIsSTIs are a scourge to the active dater – but they’re preventable. Follow the steps in this guide, and you’ll keep healthy no matter how active you are.

Hey guys and welcome back.

This post continues my series on STIs. Last week, I covered various STIs with links to medical resources and notes on each.

Today, we get into the real juice: how to prevent STIs. And it is"text" much more than condoms! You have many options, including some you may not have heard of. I am not talking about questionable tricks like washing your penis in coconut oil after sex to dodge STIs. I doubt that works!

You can discuss the medical solutions listed below with your doctor or a specialist. They should be familiar with these options. Sometimes, doctors may not mention STI remedies unless they recognize their patient being in an at-risk group. It’s important to communicate openly with your healthcare provider about your concerns.

Today, I’ll provide this knowledge so you are aware of your options, and in turn, you can bring it up with your doctor. This allows you to be more in control of your health.

Over the years, I have gathered much information about STIs, which inspired me to write this series. Initially, I was motivated by paranoia, leading me to read about STIs and consult with specialists. However, as time passed, my interest in this subject deepened, and I made it a point to stay current on the latest research.

Reading the forums over the years, I realized most guys in this community are rather clueless—shockingly so. I hope that this series remedies that.

Last week, I discussed various STIs. Today, I will cover how to prevent them. I hope readers will see this post before exposing themselves to an STI. This post will help you dodge these issues. Other readers may read this retrospectively and, out of paranoia, read my last post. The details below and last week’s post will benefit you nevertheless. Next week’s post will detail what to do if you have had unprotected sex and you feel that you may be at risk.

What Daters Need to Know About Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs)

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STIs: Separating Fact from FictionThere’s plenty of misinformation around STIs in the dating scene. How serious are they truly? What really are the risks? In this guide, we get to the facts.

Disclaimer: This post is about a medical subject, and the information presented is from the author’s knowledge and experience. The author is NOT a medical doctor or a health care professional. It is important to verify this information with a health care provider, preferably a specialist in dermatology and infectious diseases. This information is meant to help you understand the subject better, but it does not replace professional medical advice.

This post is from late 2024. Research may have advanced with the knowledge shared here. To stay current, consult specialists in infectious diseases.

Hey guys. I hope you are doing well.

In this article and the next, I will discuss the not-so-pleasant topic of sexually transmitted infections (STIs), formerly known as sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).

But it is a crucial topic concerning sexual health. I have been discussing this frequently on forums, and it baffles me how little even some of the more experienced guys understand about STIs.

Today, I will share basic information and tips regarding STIs. I want to acknowledge that fears about STIs are valid and should not be taken lightly. My goal is to provide details to help you stay safe while offering a nuanced perspective.

I will present information from discussions with health care professionals and specialists, and personal research. Please remember that I am not a doctor, so it is always important to consult with a medical professional for expert advice.

This post is likely to be read by guys who may have engaged in activities that resulted in an infection. While this post will provide valuable details for prevention, it can still be helpful, even if it is too late. There are still steps you can take to address the situation.

In our society, we usually face two extremes: those who exaggerate the implications of STIs (it’s a death sentence) and other who trivialize it (just take antibiotics; the odds of getting something are low). Both are wrong, in my opinion.

Here is the truth

scaleWe must weigh fact against both dismissal and hyperbole.
  • STIs are less dangerous than we might believe if one tests, treats, or cures themselves.

  • STIs are far more dangerous than we might believe if one does not test, treat, or cure themselves.

What is my line of reasoning? Take chlamydia, for example, a bacterial STI that is frequent and relatively transmissible. In theory, all you have to do to test is to pee in a cup. What are the symptoms? They are usually benign if, any. Treatment? It used to be two pills of azithromycin, an antibiotic; however, most doctors now prescribe 7-10 days of doxycycline, another antibiotic. And it is over.

Is getting chlamydia no big deal? Well, not so fast. In some cases (although rare), untreated chlamydia can lead to complications and spread to the kidneys. What is the hassle, then?

Chlamydia and other minor infections can open the floodgate to more serious diseases such as HIV and hepatitis B and C. These infections can increase the transmission rate sevenfold! While HIV is not easily transmitted, several factors can contribute to its spread. When you consider the increased risk, the likelihood of transmission becomes much greater. Oops.

In rare cases, untreated chlamydia can lead to sterility. This is more likely with women. Do you really want to put your girls at such risk?

As you can see, a minor STI can be a significant concern.

But what about serious STIs? HIV is a serious disease, but did you know with proper treatment, you can have the same life expectancy as the general population? HIV is not necessarily life-threatening. After some time, you may no longer be contagious when you receive treatment. A specialist will sample your blood regularly to check if the treatment works and let you know when you are not contagious.

Yes, you may take pills every day, but it is not much worse than diabetes or other chronic diseases. There are many treatments, and they often function well. You may find a treatment that suits you with few side effects.

So, getting treatment is often less of a big deal than we think. The stigma from the 80s and 90s still persists.

Just to be clear, I am not minimizing anything. Having a serious STI will still affect your life drastically, and not for the better. But it is not a death sentence.

But if you are not tested and treated, it is a death sentence (you will get AIDS). And if you remain untested and untreated, you put others at risk, and in many countries, it’s punishable by law.

Although I am providing the basics about STIs, the best path to good and safe sex is PROTECTION and TESTING, TESTING, TESTING.

A good resource for STI details: https://www.aidsmap.com/

man thinking holding phoneIt pays to be informed.

This is a website about HIV with the latest information about research and treatments. In addition, they have plenty of information about other STIs. You can also check the public health authority’s website and search for STIs, like the CDC if you want the straight facts.

I strongly urge you to discuss your STI concerns with your doctor. If you are sexually active or plan to be, it is your responsibility, both for you and the girls.

Peacocking with a Wingman, Friends, or Girls

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flock together strongerIt looks funny to go out peacocked when your crew’s not dressed accordingly. Just how peacocked do your wingmen, friends, and wingwomen need to be, though?

Hey guys and welcome.

Over the past three weeks, I have been discussing the art of peacocking. This night game strategy involves dressing in a bold and flashy manner to catch women’s attention. The goal is to make yourself noticeable, even getting women to approach and initiate conversation with you.

Peacocking offers many benefits when executed properly. However, if done incorrectly, it can backfire, making you appear foolish and clown-like. For more details, see my post from two weeks ago.

Getting all this attention, although beneficial, is not without its cons, and we should also consider the drawbacks. In my previous post, I covered how peacocking affects your game and how you should strategize accordingly.

Today, I want to expand on last week’s post, which primarily discussed solo outings, which experienced night gamers often prefer. While many guys enjoy going out with wingmen (a topic I covered in a series last year), others prefer going out with friends.

Who you are out with and how they dress will determine your peacocking success or failure. So, it is crucial to strategize.

I will begin by discussing the effects peacocking has when going out with a wing, the implications of going out with several friends, and what to expect when going out with only girls.