Articles by Author: Alek Rolstad

Mindsets of a Nightlife Seducer: Beginning the Night

Alek Rolstad walks you through the mindsets of a seducer as he prepares for a night out on the town – plus what goes through his mind early on in his night.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Today’s post has a different focus. While it may seem like a report, it is not. I will present a hypothetical scenario to illustrate my thought process in the field. Instead of analyzing the interactions, I want to discuss the various mental states I experience that guide my decision-making during an outing. My goal is to create an introspective reflection that reveals what occurs when facing different situations and challenges.

I have historically tried to incorporate this aspect in my field reports. However, most reports focus on events, such as the conversations, techniques I use, reasons behind their effectiveness, the girl’s responses, and my reactions to those responses. As a result, there is little room to explore what goes on inside my head.

I initially wanted this to focus on a specific outing. However, upon reflection, I realized that the outing I chose was similar to many others I’ve experienced, and my thought process is the same. Using a hypothetical scenario based on actual events gives me more flexibility. This approach allows me to create more hoops and settings, and I can better describe how I react to them. I am not confining myself to the narrative of what actually happened.

Before I begin, note that I am making these scenarios more negative than usual. This lets you see my mindset and strategic decision-making skills in handling challenging situations. They may seem more difficult than your typical outing. So, do not let this demotivate you. Most outings will be more favorable. The key is that despite unfavorable situations, you can still use your skills to turn the tide.

What to Do After Unprotected Sex

By: Alek Rolstad

Things got a little too frisky and in a moment of passion you left protection aside. What steps should you take after the act to ensure you stay clean?

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Note: This post addresses the aftermath of unprotected sex, which is a scary experience for some individuals. If you are in this situation, please read this post; it is for you. The sooner you read it, the better off you will be.

In my two most recent posts, I covered the important and often uncomfortable subject of sexually transmitted infections (STIs), discussing what they are and how to prevent them. These posts contain valuable information beyond what is typically found on standard sex education websites. I cover methods such as PrEP, a medication that helps prevent HIV, as well as one that helps reduce contracting gonorrhea. Additionally, I highlight some lesser-known facts about various STIs. I encourage you to check out these posts for more insights.

In my opinion, a playboy must educate himself about STIs. It is important to understand them and learn how to prevent their transmission; condoms are just one of many tools at your disposal. Prevention methods not only safeguard your own health but also protect others. As a playboy, you increase your risk of exposure, putting others at risk as well. It is essential to master this knowledge for everyone’s safety.

Please remember that although I have written these posts, I am not a health care professional—just someone who has done considerable research. The purpose of these posts is to provide an overview of available information and help you understand your options. With this knowledge, you can consult your doctor or health care professional to discuss your best choices. Their expertise takes precedence over mine.

In this post, I will discuss the aftermath of unprotected sex. Say an accident happened; perhaps the condom broke, or you were swept up in the moment and forgot to protect yourself. Now, it’s the next day, and paranoia has set in. Regardless of how you’re feeling—anxious or indifferent—this guide will help you understand what steps to take next.

Getting Tested for STIs: The Active Dater's Guide

By: Alek Rolstad

If you’re actively taking on new bedfellows, you should be testing for STIs. How should you test these? Where to do it? When? It’s all in this guide.

Hey guys. I hope you are doing well.

Today, I’ll continue my discussion about sexually transmitted infections (STIs). In this article, I will cover STI testing and share the information I have gathered over the years through clinic visits, conversations with specialists, and readings from scientific papers. I encourage you to visit a clinic to learn more from healthcare professionals, and while you’re there, consider getting tested. Please remember that this post is not a substitute for professional advice from certified healthcare providers.

How to Prevent STIs: A Guide for Active Daters

By: Alek Rolstad

STIs are a scourge to the active dater – but they’re preventable. Follow the steps in this guide, and you’ll keep healthy no matter how active you are.

Hey guys and welcome back.

This post continues my series on STIs. Last week, I covered various STIs with links to medical resources and notes on each.

Today, we get into the real juice: how to prevent STIs. And it is"text" much more than condoms! You have many options, including some you may not have heard of. I am not talking about questionable tricks like washing your penis in coconut oil after sex to dodge STIs. I doubt that works!

You can discuss the medical solutions listed below with your doctor or a specialist. They should be familiar with these options. Sometimes, doctors may not mention STI remedies unless they recognize their patient being in an at-risk group. It’s important to communicate openly with your healthcare provider about your concerns.

Today, I’ll provide this knowledge so you are aware of your options, and in turn, you can bring it up with your doctor. This allows you to be more in control of your health.

Over the years, I have gathered much information about STIs, which inspired me to write this series. Initially, I was motivated by paranoia, leading me to read about STIs and consult with specialists. However, as time passed, my interest in this subject deepened, and I made it a point to stay current on the latest research.

Reading the forums over the years, I realized most guys in this community are rather clueless—shockingly so. I hope that this series remedies that.

Last week, I discussed various STIs. Today, I will cover how to prevent them. I hope readers will see this post before exposing themselves to an STI. This post will help you dodge these issues. Other readers may read this retrospectively and, out of paranoia, read my last post. The details below and last week’s post will benefit you nevertheless. Next week’s post will detail what to do if you have had unprotected sex and you feel that you may be at risk.

What Daters Need to Know About Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs)

By: Alek Rolstad

There’s plenty of misinformation around STIs in the dating scene. How serious are they truly? What really are the risks? In this guide, we get to the facts.

Disclaimer: This post is about a medical subject, and the information presented is from the author’s knowledge and experience. The author is NOT a medical doctor or a health care professional. It is important to verify this information with a health care provider, preferably a specialist in dermatology and infectious diseases. This information is meant to help you understand the subject better, but it does not replace professional medical advice.

This post is from late 2024. Research may have advanced with the knowledge shared here. To stay current, consult specialists in infectious diseases.

Hey guys. I hope you are doing well.

In this article and the next, I will discuss the not-so-pleasant topic of sexually transmitted infections (STIs), formerly known as sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).

But it is a crucial topic concerning sexual health. I have been discussing this frequently on forums, and it baffles me how little even some of the more experienced guys understand about STIs.

Today, I will share basic information and tips regarding STIs. I want to acknowledge that fears about STIs are valid and should not be taken lightly. My goal is to provide details to help you stay safe while offering a nuanced perspective.

I will present information from discussions with health care professionals and specialists, and personal research. Please remember that I am not a doctor, so it is always important to consult with a medical professional for expert advice.

This post is likely to be read by guys who may have engaged in activities that resulted in an infection. While this post will provide valuable details for prevention, it can still be helpful, even if it is too late. There are still steps you can take to address the situation.

In our society, we usually face two extremes: those who exaggerate the implications of STIs (it’s a death sentence) and other who trivialize it (just take antibiotics; the odds of getting something are low). Both are wrong, in my opinion.

Here is the truth

We must weigh fact against both dismissal and hyperbole.

STIs are less dangerous than we might believe if one tests, treats, or cures themselves.
STIs are far more dangerous than we might believe if one does not test, treat, or cure themselves.

What is my line of reasoning? Take chlamydia, for example, a bacterial STI that is frequent and relatively transmissible. In theory, all you have to do to test is to pee in a cup. What are the symptoms? They are usually benign if, any. Treatment? It used to be two pills of azithromycin, an antibiotic; however, most doctors now prescribe 7-10 days of doxycycline, another antibiotic. And it is over.

Is getting chlamydia no big deal? Well, not so fast. In some cases (although rare), untreated chlamydia can lead to complications and spread to the kidneys. What is the hassle, then?

Chlamydia and other minor infections can open the floodgate to more serious diseases such as HIV and hepatitis B and C. These infections can increase the transmission rate sevenfold! While HIV is not easily transmitted, several factors can contribute to its spread. When you consider the increased risk, the likelihood of transmission becomes much greater. Oops.

In rare cases, untreated chlamydia can lead to sterility. This is more likely with women. Do you really want to put your girls at such risk?

As you can see, a minor STI can be a significant concern.

But what about serious STIs? HIV is a serious disease, but did you know with proper treatment, you can have the same life expectancy as the general population? HIV is not necessarily life-threatening. After some time, you may no longer be contagious when you receive treatment. A specialist will sample your blood regularly to check if the treatment works and let you know when you are not contagious.

Yes, you may take pills every day, but it is not much worse than diabetes or other chronic diseases. There are many treatments, and they often function well. You may find a treatment that suits you with few side effects.

So, getting treatment is often less of a big deal than we think. The stigma from the 80s and 90s still persists.

Just to be clear, I am not minimizing anything. Having a serious STI will still affect your life drastically, and not for the better. But it is not a death sentence.

But if you are not tested and treated, it is a death sentence (you will get AIDS). And if you remain untested and untreated, you put others at risk, and in many countries, it’s punishable by law.

Although I am providing the basics about STIs, the best path to good and safe sex is PROTECTION and TESTING, TESTING, TESTING.

A good resource for STI details: https://www.aidsmap.com/

It pays to be informed.

This is a website about HIV with the latest information about research and treatments. In addition, they have plenty of information about other STIs. You can also check the public health authority’s website and search for STIs, like the CDC if you want the straight facts.

I strongly urge you to discuss your STI concerns with your doctor. If you are sexually active or plan to be, it is your responsibility, both for you and the girls.

Peacocking with a Wingman, Friends, or Girls

By: Alek Rolstad

It looks funny to go out peacocked when your crew’s not dressed accordingly. Just how peacocked do your wingmen, friends, and wingwomen need to be, though?

Hey guys and welcome.

Over the past three weeks, I have been discussing the art of peacocking. This night game strategy involves dressing in a bold and flashy manner to catch women’s attention. The goal is to make yourself noticeable, even getting women to approach and initiate conversation with you.

Peacocking offers many benefits when executed properly. However, if done incorrectly, it can backfire, making you appear foolish and clown-like. For more details, see my post from two weeks ago.

Getting all this attention, although beneficial, is not without its cons, and we should also consider the drawbacks. In my previous post, I covered how peacocking affects your game and how you should strategize accordingly.

Today, I want to expand on last week’s post, which primarily discussed solo outings, which experienced night gamers often prefer. While many guys enjoy going out with wingmen (a topic I covered in a series last year), others prefer going out with friends.

Who you are out with and how they dress will determine your peacocking success or failure. So, it is crucial to strategize.

I will begin by discussing the effects peacocking has when going out with a wing, the implications of going out with several friends, and what to expect when going out with only girls.

Peacocking Strategy: Right Mood, Right Frame, & Social Proof

By: Alek Rolstad

Peacocking can offer a boon to your attraction meeting women. Yet your mood, frame, and social proof play a major role in the effectiveness of your peacocking too — or its liability.

Hey guys, and welcome back.

Lately, I have been discussing the concept of “peacocking.” Peacocking refers to dressing in a way that captures women’s attention, often wearing flashy clothing and eye-catching accessories. While this approach gained popularity in the 2000s when pickup and seduction entered the mainstream, it has faced criticism recently. Many have commented on odd-looking, uncalibrated men roaming the clubs, leading to the perception that it appears silly and meme-worthy. This backlash stems from the observation that those who attempt peacocking lack solid fundamentals and struggle to pull it off effectively.

Last week, we discussed how to peacock, providing examples of items you can wear. We covered the different dimensions that ensure you do not come off as clown-like and tacky but instead appear cool and edgy.

The “how to peacock” was covered last week. The history of peacocking, what it is, how it works, and why was covered two weeks ago.

In this article, the focus is on how peacock influences your game. It will affect your presence, people’s reactions, and the overall dynamic of your interaction to affect your overall strategy.

Let’s dive in.

How to Peacock: Rules to Proper Peacocking + Examples

By: Alek Rolstad

Peacocking can be very effective at drawing women in and warming them up to your approach. To use it right, however, it must be congruent + properly done.

Hey guys, welcome back.

Last week, I discussed the concept of peacocking. This older concept involves wearing eye-catching and flashy clothing or using props to draw women’s attention, ideally getting them to open you. The goal is to use your style to engage and hook women.

This concept has unfortunately declined in popularity due to overuse by inexperienced beginners, leading to poorly dressed, uncalibrated men with inadequate fundamentals dressing flashy and provocatively, often resembling clowns.

Many men discovering pickup and learning be some of its best-known concepts, including peacocking, have experienced limited results. The result has been a de-popularization of peacocking and an overall decline in the popularity of pickup culture.

Today, I will go through how to peacock. You will learn the basics to pull it off. Next week, I will cover how it affects your interactions and how to navigate the field when you peacock.

Before we begin, let’s be clear: you do not need to peacock. It is a night game technique. Yes, some guys like Vince Kelvin (aka Hollywood) have famously peacocked in day game. He is an exception to the rule. He’s also an old-schooler who has been active since the early 2000s. You can break some rules if you are that experienced. I wonder if he truly peacocks or if what he is wearing really is his style—he has been dressing like this since I heard about him in 2008. The bottom line is that he pulls it off, and it works for him.

In general, peacocking is a night game strategy. Because of the flashy, high-energy, flamboyant, and extravagant energy of night game, there is more permissibility to be outrageous.

It’s up to you whether you want to peacock in night game. It is not required; it’s a tool you can choose if you feel like it and are comfortable doing so. I’ll provide details on the pros and cons of peacocking next week to help you decide if it is something you want to try. Remember, it is not necessary and may not suit you, and that’s okay. I still recommend reading this post because even if you do not go full-out flashy peacock mode, some tips may still benefit you. It’s still crucial to wear unique items or know how to use props when doing night game. It shows that you are out to socialize and fits the night vibe. What you learn below can help you attract women; just tone it down and add one or two elements.

Let’s run through the fundamentals before discussing how to peacock and sharing some tips and tricks.

What Is Peacocking and Does It Work?

By: Alek Rolstad

Peacocks use ostentatious displays to attract a female. Can this same strategy work for human beings? It can, it does, and in this guide you’ll learn just how it does so.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Today, I’ll touch upon a classic technique in pickup and seduction that is often overlooked—peacocking.

It’s an original technique that Mystery and his crew popularized in the 2000s. The idea is to catch women’s attention by dressing flashy to facilitate openings. This usually involves wearing accessories, flamboyant clothing, or an original dressing style, so you come off as a peacock.

Back in the day, it was one of the most used techniques for night game, and quickly became the clothing style for many active pickup guys. Whenever a guy would dress flamboyantly in a club, people always suspected he must be part of the “community.”

Eventually, as seduction popularity died off, peacocking took a serious hit. It is often a meme-worthy element of pickup and seduction, usually to ridicule pickup and seduction as a whole. “Look at those nerdy clown-looking weirdos!” Often, this criticism was deserving; many of those so-called “pickup artists” (PUA) or “green PUA” (a PUA in training) did look really weird. And their miscalibrated use of gambits, negs (negative remarks), and routines, like magic tricks, gave the entire community an odd image.

However, all these can work if delivered correctly, congruently, and in the right moment and setting.

These guys took the idea of canned material a bit too far. Because they were beginners and entered pickup arenas with a hefty toolbox, memorizing material, they appeared very robotic. Adding to a poor baseline because they lacked fundamentals, pickup and seduction became less popular and was often joke worthy, with the concept of peacocking its primary victim.

Later, the introduction of natural game countered the older pickup style’s overly goofy and robotic aspects. This new approach focuses on mastering fundamentals and represents a positive shift in the game. Natural game aims to teach beginners advanced strategies, gambits and niche routines, particularly men who struggle socially. These men did not have their fundamentals in check. They usually had poor body posture, grooming, and delivery—poor everything. Add a flashy attention-seeking outfit on top of it, and instead of providing them with a degree of edginess or coolness, they looked out of place and easy targets for jokes.

Most pickup material known to the public to this day—and ridiculed by the mainstream—belongs to the Mystery Method. He was the first to promote the idea of peacocking. The popularization of the Mystery Method and its signature concepts like negging, peacocking, and “DHV’in” (demonstrating higher value) is partly due to its popularity within the community and mainstream exposure. The book The Game focuses on the Mystery Method and Mystery himself, in addition to the subsequent TV show The Pickup Artist. Coaching companies erupted in the twilight of this mass popularization, and most sold watered-down copies of the original Mystery Method. Things became worse, as poorly trained, inexperienced men with an advanced system were doomed to failure, leading to a decline in pickup and seduction popularity.

Let’s revisit the concept of peacocking. How can this work today? Why does it work? Next week, we will discuss how to use peacocking.

Why to Be the Well-Dressed Man

By: Alek Rolstad

Dressing extremely well has major benefits for your success with women. It’s not just about attraction, either; it’s also about reputation and comfort, too.

Hey guys, welcome back.

A few years ago, I wrote a post on fashion. This post is incredibly popular, and people on the forums often ask me to write a follow-up.

I have the reputation of being one of the best-dressed guys in the community. One of my main hobbies, next to pickup and seduction, is fashion. It’s not about just buying clothes and looking great or trendy; I care about fashion as an expression and art form. I often went to clubs where influencers and people in the fashion industry go. I used to head to fashion weeks, fairs, and showrooms (by the way, it is a fantastic experience with plenty of free food and champagne; just saying!)

People have asked me over and over again to write fashion guides. This is not what I will do today. I believe fashion is an artistic field, and teaching it is challenging and not something I am qualified to do. I greatly respect fashion and see it as a distinct field, even its own discipline. I am just a hobby fashionista.

Fashion is art, and true fashion people are not the best at writing style guides. Real fashion people tend to be experimental. Asking them for advice might get you some outrageous items you may not feel comfortable wearing.

However, I have a few words to say about clothing and style relating to pickup. And this is what this post is about.

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Articles by Author: Alek Rolstad

Mindsets of a Nightlife Seducer: Beginning the Night

What to Do After Unprotected Sex

Getting Tested for STIs: The Active Dater's Guide

How to Prevent STIs: A Guide for Active Daters

What Daters Need to Know About Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs)

Peacocking with a Wingman, Friends, or Girls

Peacocking Strategy: Right Mood, Right Frame, & Social Proof

How to Peacock: Rules to Proper Peacocking + Examples

What Is Peacocking and Does It Work?

Why to Be the Well-Dressed Man