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Sexual Prizing Gambit: Diachronic Sex

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By: Alek Rolstad

sex doesn't start in bedSex doesn’t begin in the bedroom. It starts long before. That’s what you’ll tell girls in the Diachronic Sex Gambit — and get them imagining themselves in bed with you soon after.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

I have been sharing some gambits about the concept of listing. It is a powerful tool for setting and controlling the frame of a conversation. When talking to a woman, you can use listing by providing several reasons for a particular point, which can help her accept the frame. This technique is straightforward. Advertisements frequently employ listing techniques both online and in television commercials.

The examples I provided in my two latest posts demonstrate how listing works in the field, and I hope the examples in this post will do the same.

Even though listing is intuitive, the hard part is to pull it off correctly, ensuring that each dimension you list seems persuasive and desirable to her.

It’s not really about convincing and being correct, as in political debate. It is about making the girl think, “Damn, he gets it; I like this.” If you use a defensive tone and get into an argumentative state, you have lost the seduction, and the conversation will turn into a debate. If you ever get there, pace and lead her elsewhere and change the subject by fractionating out.

Today, we will go through a gambit using the same template. It has a similar theme to last week, but instead of focusing on sexual comfort, we will focus on arousal and sexual prizing by conveying that you are a good lover with great skills, experience, and knowledge.

Sexual Trust and Comfort Gambit: Diachronic Comfort

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diachronic comfort: a sexual comfort gambitYou need trust to get new women into bed. Many men try to build trust once, quickly, and move on. With this gambit, you’ll build deeper trust – over time.

Hey guys. Welcome back. I hope you are all doing well.

Today, I want to share a comfort gambit that utilizes listing, a technique we discussed over the past two weeks (see the rest of my series on using listing during sex talk). We talked about how to use listing as a tool for frame control and addressing potential tests you may receive from women when discussing sex. Last week, I provided examples of how to use this technique to build comfort.

I will continue with what we did last week. I will use listing as the main concept to set the frames of trust and comfort throughout the gambit.

This gambit is called the diachronic sex gambit. Do not be intimidated by the word diachronic. It simply means “through time,” and knowledge of the word is not necessary for using it.

It is an easy gambit to understand and use.

I have many versions, but today, we will focus on one that focuses on building sexual trust and comfort.

Before delving into the gambit, I’d like to expand on the analysis from last week regarding the importance of sexual trust and comfort.

I try to create hybrid gambit posts by covering theory while sharing techniques. This provides a “two in one package” so that you have both theory and tools. However, sex talk is the verbalization of a theory about male-to-female interactions, sexology, and sexual sociology. Thus, my theoretical analysis is not unwarranted. It is essential to understand what goes on behind the technique.

Sexual Comfort Gambit: Listing

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sexual comfort is the moveWomen today aren’t worried about being “sluts” — they’re worried about being COMFORTABLE. So how do you get girls sexually comfortable with you? One way is via LISTING.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Last week, I discussed the concept of frame control and how to use listing as a strategy to tackle tests that may arise when discussing sexual topics. Common questions include: “Why are you telling me this?”, “Why are you talking about sex?” or “Do you always talk about sex?” I explained that providing a list of reasons for why you are saying or doing something can be very effective. Outlining the benefits and explaining why it is generally well-received can help make your perspective (and frame) one she should agree with. This technique is a classic form of persuasion commonly used in sales.

Today, I will expand on this, demonstrating how to apply it in sexual comfort gambits. For an example, see the narrative gambit at Pickup and Seduction Gambit: Narratives and to some extent, the diachronic sex gambit that I will share next week.

Because this concept is intuitive, easy to execute, and, most importantly, highly efficient, I took time to reflect on it and developed some new gambits. These will help better illustrate this technique.

The primary purpose of a gambit has always been to provide an example of how to apply specific techniques via a theme to set frames and elicit emotions. This gambit is no different: you can phrase it however you like, tweak it, and experiment to make it your own.

Easily Handle Sex Talk Tests with Listing

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listing to beat sex talk testsListing is a handy tactic for getting past all kinds of tests from women — including women’s tests when you use sex talk.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Last week, I talked about frame control and how to handle potential tests when using sex talk. I distinguished between tests that women may use to test your frame, congruence, and authenticity. If you are new to this concept, I recommend reading last week’s post, as it will help you identify whether you are facing resistance tests, which require a slightly different approach. I included several links on how to deal with resistance. For example, if a girl says, “I am not that type of girl,” this may indicate a resistance test.

A few articles ago, I covered the importance and power of using fractionation during sex talk. This has many benefits, including limiting your chance of facing resistance by creating comfort. It also helps keep the conversation fresh and avoids overinflating the sex talk. More importantly, you can avoid getting tested, although you may not be able to prevent all tests.

There are many types of tests, and they are usually contextual. That’s why it isn’t easy to provide a comprehensive list of examples and “catch-all” answers to each. Frame control tests are about testing your frame, and dealing with them is something you must practice and troubleshoot individually. So, go out, get tested, and try to pass girls’ tests. If you fail, go home and think of better responses to reframe, or visit the forums and ask for help. You can even hire or hire a coach (wink).

3 Ways to Beat Women's Tests When You Use Sex Talk

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own the sexual frameSex talk is a powerful technique — yet women will test you on it. “Is sex all you think about?” “Why are you always talking about sex?” Use these 3 ways to sail past tests & get the girl.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

In the past few weeks, I’ve delved into sex talk topics, focusing on calibration and fractionation. This technique involves alternating between sex talk and other subjects to build comfort and avoid inflating the topic. By doing this, you keep the interaction from growing stale. Mastering fractionation is essential for effective sex talk. If you are unfamiliar with it, read up on it and practice.

Today, I want to discuss potential tests you may encounter when using sex talk. Some examples you may hear from girls:

“Are you always talking about sex?”

“Is sex the only thing you think about?”

“Is sex the only thing you talk about?”

“Why are we talking about sex?”

“Why are you telling me about this (sexual thing)?

Depending on the context, you may hear many types of these tests, but they are generally along those lines.

How to Fractionate In and Out of Sex Talk

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keep the frame freshSex talk is a powerful seduction tool. But overuse it, and the sex talk turns stale. How do you avoid this? With fractionation. Here’s how to keep your sex talk fresh.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Last week, we discussed the importance of using fractionation with sex talk. For an explanation of how fractionation works, see Fractionation Simply Explained.

Fractionation is a simple yet powerful technique for alternating between a topic, vibe, or frame. In this instance, it involves bringing up sexual topics, then switching to a different subject for a while, before returning to the conversation about sex.

Why should you use fractionation?

  1. It keeps the interaction fresh.

  2. It avoids overinflating the subject, which can decrease its value.

  3. It leaves the girl wanting more, which makes her more invested in you and the interaction.

  4. It creates comfort, which is especially useful if you sense resistance coming. This helps you bypass potential roadblocks.

  5. It helps you maintain the social frame so that the interaction seems smooth.

But exactly how should you fractionate? When? And into what?

First, a disclaimer. Today, I will provide detailed calibration information. Keep in mind that I am doing this because some readers are already good with sex talk. Do not feel intimidated or fall for the trap that you will not do well unless you are perfectly calibrated. You will usually be fine if you at least fractionate occasionally. The details below encompass things I do not always think about when in-field myself. But this is Girls Chase, so the more information we can provide to assist, the better. But do not get caught up with every calibration detail.

Fractionate Your Sex Talk (and Amplify Its Power)

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fractionate your sex talk and amplify its powerSex talk is matchless for setting powerful sexual frames. But some girls aren’t prepared for non-stop sex talk. The solution? Fractionate your sexual frames.

Hey guys, welcome back.

I have noticed that more men, particularly those at an intermediate level on the forums, have been discussing fractionation. I decided to write some basic posts to assist with calibrating and using it correctly.

Today, I’ll cover the essentials and discuss how to use fractionation in sex talk. I have already mentioned the role of fractionation in pickup in previous articles, and I believe it is a key technique to master.

To fractionate during sex talk, you switch from sex talk to another topic, then rinse and repeat. This allows you to change up and fractionate your interaction. For example, on a dance floor, you may dance sexually and then switch to a more social style of dancing, before fractionating back to dancing sexually. The same goes for when you opt for a push-pull strategy of mixed signals—you show interest for a bit, before switching to non-interest, and back again.

Fractionation is a broad concept that includes various techniques. Generally, it involves switching between different states, vibes, or frames. I go into more depth in this post:

Fractionation Simply Explained

Using Sex Talk to Set a Sexual Frame with Women: Basics

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using sex talk to set sexual framesSex talk has become a popular way to sexualize conversations with girls. But arousal is only a bonus: the real purpose of sex talk is to CONTROL the FRAME!

Hi guys. I hope you are doing well.

Today, I would like to revisit the basics. I have noticed a surge in the popularity of my signature technique, sex talk. While I’ve experienced much success, I’ve realized that some intermediate practitioners have gaps in their theoretical understanding of how it works.

Often, they come across certain gambits and repeat them verbatim. Since these are field-tested often, they are known to yield good results, especially when delivered well and supported by strong fundamentals.

However, we all know that things do not always go as planned. Sometimes, we encounter resistance. Some guys may not fully understand how to handle this. They face tests and may be unsure how to respond. The woman might steer the interaction her way, taking control and leaving the seducer outframed. When this happens, the interaction can quickly fall apart.

I will address these issues in the coming weeks, providing details on how to tackle them. All these issues relate to a single aspect: frame setting and frame control.

It boggles my mind. Historically, this community recognized frame control as essential for every seducer to understand. Everyone discussed its importance. These days, however, I seldom see any discussions about this. Most agree that setting and controlling the frame is crucial. Frame control means establishing rules for the interaction, ultimately allowing one to take charge.

Today, we will discuss how sex talk relates to frame control. Once you understand this, you will not only grasp how sex talk works and why it works, but you will also be better equipped to troubleshoot potential roadblocks and, more importantly, know how to overcome them.

So, let’s dive in. This information may be basic for some and new for others. I recommend that both beginners and experienced seducers read on. Naturally, newer practitioners benefit more, but experienced guys can also gain valuable insights. It is easy to forget that sex talk is a framing technique, and a review of how it works can be helpful. Even veterans like me benefit from occasional refreshers.

I covered this subject in my early days at Girls Chase, How to Use Sex Talk to Set a Sexual Tone and Mood, but this post shows a different angle. Read both if you’d like the best possible understanding.

Verbal Seduction Gambits: "Who Likes Sex More, Men or Women?"

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sex talk gambits: who likes sex more, men or women?Rope women in with two very different seduction gambits that ask “who likes sex more, men or women?” One of these is bold… but the other is light as air.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Now that we are discussing sex talk, I’d like to share two fun gambits that are both stimulating and light.

These are simple to pull off and have the same theme: Who likes sex more, men or women? However, both gambits are very different. This shows how we can use one theme to set different frames.

Both gambits can set a sexual frame and get the conversation going about sex. Both gambits are easy and fun to use and are good tools for stimulating her mentally and sexually. Despite talking about the same theme, they both serve different purposes. The first gambit is light and not too explicit, so it’s ideal for early game but is still beneficial later. This one can pace her reality and show that you understand her world when it comes to sex. It also frames yourself as nonjudgmental and, more importantly, sets sex-positive frames, which can help you dodge potential resistance later.

The other version is more about sexual prizing. This gambit conveys a great understanding of sex and female sexuality and shows girls that you are sexually experienced and a good lover. It is more explicit, so it may sexually stimulate her. It’s ideal for mid-to-late game, but you may use it earlier if the situation allows and you know what you are doing.

These are not complex gambits. They are simplified to work on most women, whether highly educated or less mature.

I will share two variations; one focuses on the socio-sexual aspects, which is lighter, and the other focuses on female understanding and is more explicit, discussing sex and orgasms.

Using Negativity When Sex Talking to Girls (Can It Work?)

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negativity that attractsNegativity done right can make for engaging conversation – but it’s also potentially loaded and risks putting women off. Here’s how to use it right.

Hey guys. In the upcoming weeks, I will focus on sex talk. This is my signature technique, which many of our advanced readers appreciate. I will share updated insights along with the latest techniques and tools for calibration.

A poster on the Skilled Seducer Forum mentioned some time ago that he struggles with using sex talk. He seems relatively new to it, and it is not a beginner-friendly technique. There are several interesting factors to consider regarding his question.

Here’s what he says.

None of the Sexual Gambits Work

Whenever I use sex talk, it seems to make girls angry and defensive rather than aroused. This is what I usually do. I need to transition into sex talk somehow, so I use anger:

"You know what REALLY frustrated me a while back? I was arguing with a friend about who has it easier, men or women. And he made me mad because he said women!"

Then I show my prizable traits with more frustrated talk:

"…Women have it way harder! To find a guy who can stimulate you both physically and mentally, who can make you feel safe yet desired...that's difficult! Ugh, I really do hate this!"

I say that non-sarcastically, of course. My thought process: It seems like I’m venting, but, in fact, I’m showing prizable traits.

"And how difficult it is to find a guy who can show desire but also control himself. That is what's terrible about being a woman! You can’t find really good men easily, and I HATE that. I feel sorry for all the women out there.

Some women don’t know what they like or what they want. As you know, to arouse a guy, you touch him in that one place, but to arouse a woman, you touch her everywhere else but there. And women need an experienced guy to show them this. It must be terrible looking for such a guy and always being disappointed, ugh."

So, I vent away, expecting heaps of attraction and arousal. However, women usually respond poorly. They argue with anything I say. Or they say they don’t have an opinion and change the topic.

They seem irritated instead of aroused. Am I doing something wrong, or are all the gambits just bad?

(See None of the Sexual Gambits Work)

Before you jump to the conclusion that the person asking this is a noob or frustrated, which may or may not be true, the fact remains that many of my gambits do play around with some negative emotions, such as:

  • Objectification (discussing sexual objectification of women, then presenting a theory of sexual subjectification)

And these are just a few. They all have a negative underlying connotation. After all, frustration is undesirable, and so is objectification.

The question is straightforward: Does using negativity or referring to negative experiences or states, such as frustration, truly work to transition into sex talk? More specifically, is the OP’s approach successful in practice? And if it is, how do you transition from there?