You’re talking to a girl about sex, and she gets into it and takes the lead role. Great! She’s into the topic. Don’t steal her thunder – but don’t leave her in charge too long, either.Hey guys. Hope you are doing well.
Sex stories get you & a woman discussing sex in a big (+ intimate) way. But can they be too much? Discover when they work best – and just how to use them.Hey guys.
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Just because she doesn’t start ripping her clothes off (or yours) is not a sign of a sex talk failure. Sex talk aims at something more crucial for the seduction than this.Hey guys.
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Not every girl will eat up your sex talk. What do you do when girls give a neutral or negative response? Persist, move on, or – change it up. It depends!Hey guys. Welcome back. I hope you are all doing well.
You’re not going to hit the right note out of the gate every time as a sex talk trainee. So what do you do if you sex talk misses? Recalibrate, change it up, and try again.Hey guys. Welcome back.
Sex talk is powerful. But each sex talk gambit has different uses. Here’s how to choose which sex talk gambits to use for what seduction situations.Hey guys. I hope you are all doing well.
Not all pickup tactics work for everyone—some even backfire. Learn how to choose the right material for your style and avoid painful mistakes.Hey guys. Welcome back.
Lately, I have been focusing on sex talk topics—mostly practical and advanced material. Starting today, and over the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing more posts aimed at beginners and those at the intermediate level to mix things up. Don’t worry if you’re more experienced—these posts can still offer fresh insights that even seasoned guys might find useful.
Even though this post is intended for beginners, it’s highly relevant for intermediates who have field experience with pickup tactics and seduction material, yet seem to struggle, or perhaps the material does not always hit the way it should. You might be using the material you believe in, but it does not work as you had hoped, or not at all. And sometimes, when it does work, it has some unwanted side effects.
There can be many causes behind this, such as timing and calibration, when you fine-tune the material to the girl and the context. Timing and calibration are universal components of pristine game that set experienced players apart from newer guys.
Yet, there may be something else at play—something overarching.
Many guys who join this community, read this blog, and purchase products, are looking for the holy grail. They want to collect the best material, building a powerful stack of tools they (often wrongfully) think is the best for them and their context.
The problem is that they often select a random assortment of material, including tech, tactics, and gambits, and then push it out. After all, it has been field-tested by experienced players, so it should work for a newer guy, right?
Yes, the material may have been tested and proven to succeed, especially if it comes from a credible source. But there are other factors at play. Like beautiful clothes, not all material works equally well for everyone. That high-quality shirt is nice, but it does not fit you. You can tell pretty quickly if something does not work for you—it does not give positive results. For instance, teasing or cocky, funny lines often work famously, and many guys use them successfully. This did not work for me back then and still doesn’t work for me to this day. It does not fit my persona.
Struggling with resistance when escalating? Learn key principles to handle pushback gracefully: backing off builds the attraction & comfort to get things moving again.Hey guys. Welcome back.
I’ve dedicated this post to helping newer guys understand what happens when they experience resistance. Of course, more experienced guys can still benefit from this information.
I will continue discussing resistance to escalation from a beginner-friendly perspective, focusing on the fundamentals. My approach is to provide a few key principles, theories, and rules to keep in mind, which should help most men land most girls. It’s important to note that some level of attraction, comfort, and good logistics should already be in place. This should be obvious.
In my last two posts, we’ve discussed how to prevent resistance by focusing on timing and covering whether to escalate slowly or quickly. Prevention is always a better choice.
However, resistance may still occur. I’ll tell you how to tackle it if it happens.
What I am about to share will not help you get an uninterested or uncomfortable girl into bed. The material below will be effective if there is at least a certain amount of compliance. You should have some interest and comfort built, plus a good logistical setting (back at your or her place alone, for instance). There are ways to dodge resistance without having any of these three factors in place: interest, comfort, and logistics, however that’s advanced, and we will not cover it here. Experienced seducers will agree that, if possible, it is always better to escalate if those three premises are in place first.
Let’s recap potential causes of resistance.
Discover how soon to escalate to sex without resistance. Learn the perfect timing—too fast or too slow can ruin your chances. Master calibration now!Hey guys. Welcome back.
Today, I’ll continue last week’s discussion on end-game physical escalation for beginners. There may still be valuable insights for intermediates, and let’s face it, even advanced guys can benefit from a refresher.
The goal of this post remains the same as last week’s: to shift the focus away from escalating and breaking through resistance and instead, discuss how to avoid it in the first place. Prevention is the most effective strategy for tackling this. It’s also much less frustrating. After all, who enjoys facing resistance after spending time with a girl you desire?
It’s also a more pleasant strategy because dealing with resistance directly often kills the vibe, and there is plenty of room for mistakes. When you address resistance head-on, it typically sets an unwanted frame of you chasing her—sometimes even desperately—since she is saying no, and you are trying to persuade her to say yes.
Of course, there are ways around this, but they can be tricky. I will share the basics in next week’s post, do not worry. Dealing with resistance head-on will almost always have negative consequences on your frame.
Last week, we discussed whether one should escalate immediately or wait. Framed differently, what are the implications of rushing things, or waiting before escalating “to play is safe”? Both methods can backfire. If you escalate too early, your girl may not be in the right mood or feel comfortable enough, “not ready” yet, thus increasing your chance of facing resistance.
If you wait too long, you may miss an escalation window. She may be ready now, but your window closes. There may be several reasons: her mood changes (see Chase’s fantastic post on cresting, Emotional Cresting: What It Is and How to Use It), or she starts noticing your indecisiveness and perceives you as a “friend” and not a potential sexual partner.
The bottom line: If you try to escalate outside of a window when it closes, you risk facing resistance.
I cannot stress how important this is. This may seem a bit far-fetched to those just starting (and even those who have been around a while), but these effects are powerful. It takes experience to grasp concepts that truly have an impact. That was the case in my journey.
It may not always seem clear when the time to make a move is while relying purely on instinct. Use these frameworks to know when to escalate to sex with a girl & get your timing right.Hey guys. Welcome back.
This post is dedicated to newer guys, to help them understand what’s going on. More experienced readers may also find value in this post.
I would like to discuss how to escalate to sex, often referred to as “end-game escalation,” from a beginner-friendly perspective. Below, I’ll outline some fundamental principles, theories, and guidelines that can help most men land girls, considering all factors. It’s important to establish a level of attraction, comfort, and decent logistics to proceed. This is a crucial first step.
Today, we will cover the theory of escalation.
Most men have an intuitive sense of how to escalate to sex. They begin with a light touch and gradually increase it. Unfortunately, they are often uncalibrated as they do this, which ultimately sparks the girl’s resistance. As a result, many men skip the basics of how to escalate properly. Instead, they interpret her resistance as a natural part of the process and look for “resistance busters” to overcome her objections to sex.
If this sounds like you, read and memorize the next sentence: The best way to deal with resistance is to prevent it from happening in the first place. Shortly, we will discuss the theory of escalation, concentrating on when to escalate to sex. Next week, we will address how quickly to escalate to sex. By keeping this in mind, you will be able to escalate smoothly and will likely dodge much resistance. Remember, resistance may still arise, and in a couple of weeks, I will share tips and tricks for managing those situations effectively.
Why am I focusing so much on resistance and objections to moves? The goal of escalation is to advance seduction and avoid resistance. If it occurs, you should learn to deal with it in a smooth way that also respects her boundaries (and consent). Many guys mess up the escalation process because they fear resistance. I will also discuss this below and offer a perspective that helps remove these fears.
What causes resistance? It is typically the result of poor escalation skills, although this is not always the case. Experienced guys who know how to escalate effectively rarely encounter resistance. Top-tier guys face it only about once a year. To satisfy your curiosity, I will provide a long list of potential causes for resistance below. However, I won’t go into detail about how to address each type, as that would be exhaustive, and more suited for upper-intermediates to advanced guys. Instead, I’ll focus on basic, general rules for appropriate escalation so that you can minimize resistance. I will also explain why this approach is preferable.
