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10 Dumb Myths About Women Newbie Seducers Often Believe
Men believe a lot of weird/baseless things about women that aren't broadly true. Shed these female myths aside, and be free.If you're a seduction newbie (i.e., you're new to meeting and getting together with girls), I can guarantee you you have some objectively very silly beliefs about women that don't hold water at all.
It's not your fault you have these beliefs, nor are you dumb yourself just for having them. When the brain lacks real world experience in a thing, it picks up 'experience' by observing other things around it.
And our real-world media environment is just all kinds of stupid with the spin it presents on things.
The beliefs men absorb from the media they watch tend to be almost exclusively wrong. There is very little media out there that actively depicts male-female relations.
So you get this situation where men have limited and also shallow real-world experience with women, while meantime getting bombarded with garbage fiction messages from media, and you can't blame them for forming a bunch of inaccurate beliefs about female nature.
In this article, I'll do my part to expose those myths for what they are: myths.
That way you, as a guy going out there to chat up girls, can set these weird and harmful beliefs aside, and start meeting women.
(the image at the top of this article is not to suggest women don't sing siren songs, by the way. Some women certainly do. It's just a cool image of sirens, which are obviously mythical female figures, so it fits the spirit of the article)
Tactics Tuesdays: Reframing with Paradiastole
Paradiastole is a technique for reframing criticism into trophies. That vice of yours? Hey, look on the bright side! At least it means you (something good). That’s paradiastole."You shouldn't say something like that to a woman!" a girl recently told me, half-tickled, half-irate. "It shows you have low EQ!"
"Well, least I'm honest," I said. "Just think how bad it'd be if I was low EQ and I wasn't honest!"
I use this kind of reframe a lot. There's a name for it: it's called 'paradiastole'.
(my EQ's pretty good, by the way)
Paradiastole is a way to reframe a criticism into something positive, in a playful and humorous way. It deflects the other person's judgment, often with a bit of moderate self-deprecation.
If you don't do this, or you don't do it enough, it's a handy little tactic you can add to your arsenal.
'Charisma' Is Almost Here: Sign Up for the Launch List Now (and Get a Free Video)
The new Chase Amante Girls Chase courses on charisma, how to touch girls, and building a bachelor lifestyle are almost here. Sign up now to know when they come out.As you may (or may not) be aware, we've got some new courses due out in just a few weeks.
I've got three of them coming out, in fact:
Selection Bias in the Women You Date
Each man forms his opinions on women from the women he meets. Yet not every man meets the same sorts of women — so selection bias shapes his opinions.I've talked about this a bit here and there. But today I'd like to highlight it specifically (and clearly).
You (yes you, the reader) are suffering from selection bias in the women you date.
Your opinions about women form from a subsection of all women that is almost certainly not comprehensive.
Further, even if you've experienced a broad cross section of women over time, if your seductions of late have been limited to a smaller cross section of women (and any chunk of your seductions across any discrete chunk of time will likely have been), selection bias has crept in whether you realize it or not.
Selection bias is subtle but sometimes insidious. It can lead men to sweeping, inaccurate beliefs about women they don't realize are inaccurate at a broad scale.
Right now, I'd like to highlight how selection bias in dating works, to help you be aware, and allow you to shield yourself from the downsides of this mental glitch we all possess.
