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How Long Do Most Guys Keep at Pickup?

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how long do men stay in the game?Lots of guys get into pick up artistry imagining they’ll sleep with tons of women. Most drop out before that point. How long does the average guy stay in?

Picking up girls, like anything new, exciting, yet challenging that people embark on, drops practitioners steadily along the way as you go.

Most folks are aware that most guys who try pickup soon give up. Fewer stick with it. Fewer still stay with it long enough to become good.

But where’s the point where most guys drop out?

Where are the OTHER points along the way that bleed guys from the art of seduction?

Chase's Guide to Ironclad Mental Health

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Chase's Guide to Ironclad Mental HealthA complete guide to unshakeable mental health. Never be depressed again. Escape victim mentality forever. Use RAISE. Plus: see how the ancients did it.

Commenting on a recent article of mine, Robert Kendall asked:

I realise it's a little bit topical at the moment and has been for a few years, and you've also got a few articles not to dissimilar to this one, but could you do something on mental health. Not necessarily seek professional advice etc, and your media control article covers a lot, but something on how to keep and maintain just general rock solid mental health, tips that maybe you use when things get rough practical advice etc.

Obviously not in the sense that your article would be a substitute for professional advice, but often you like to delve into how far back in history mental health has been 'a thing' for, what the Egyptians did for it, or the Romans did to help with theirs etc. Just think it'd make for a great article.

Hmm… an overview of ancient beliefs and practices on mental health. Then my own guide to keeping your mind rock-solid.

Well, that’s kind of an eclectic ask, but… yeah what the heck!

I think this’d be a fun topic to go into, so, sure… I’m happy to write it.

If you’re new here and you’re wondering what my bona fides are to be writing about mental health, I suggest you read my article on overcoming depression and the many enthusiastic comment replies to that. You may also want to check out my articles on bitterness, victim mentality, and frame control. (if you prefer to hear from someone with academic credentials, you might want to head to Psychology Today)

I’m going to begin with an overview of ancient beliefs and practices around mental health, as per Robert’s request – and then I’ll go into my own strategy for keeping your mentality upwards-focused regardless what setbacks or stressors roil your life or try weighing you down.

Meeting a Girl in a Romantic Way (7 Steps)

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meet her in a romantic wayEvery girl dreams to meet a man romantically. If you can meet a girl in a romantic way, not only can you sweep her off her feet – but you raise the odds you get her, too.

Whenever I’ve told women I wasn’t dating how I met girls I was dating, the response from my female listeners is always the same: “Wow, that’s SO romantic!”

Women love how I meet women. Girls I’m with love it, and girls just listening love it. There’s always an element of fate, chance… magic. There is always a way to say, “If I hadn’t gone there that day, if you hadn’t gone here, if this thing that happened had not happened, we never would have been.”

You might think it has to do with meeting girls in romantic places. Or putting together an approach that looks like a Hollywood meet-cute.

In fact, you can meet girls romantically anywhere you see them, and without following a Hollywood script.

In this guide, I’m going to break the process down for you and let you in on the secrets to meeting a girl in a romantic way.

For the sake of simplicity, I’ve broken the process down into seven (7) easy to execute (well, more or less) steps.

Let’s make some romantic meetings!

Tactics Tuesdays: Using Girls for Intentional Preselection

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creating intentional preselectionPreselection need not be an accidental boon. You can cultivate it deliberately with women, too… using these two angles to get girls VISIBLY chasing YOU.

Preselection is perhaps the single most powerful attractant there is.

The attraction boost you receive when a woman sees a beautiful girl behaving in an attracted way with you is +25% (study). The effect a beautiful, attracted woman flirting with you has on your attractiveness to other women is larger than looks, dominance, height, money, or confidence.

The one tool I recommend to every single guy who comes to me saying, “I feel like I’ve completely blown it with this girl; what do I do?” is preselection.

Let that girl you’ve blown it with see another good-looking girl blatantly flirting with you, and she’ll be back chasing after you as if you’d never even blown it. Sometimes (even oftentimes) it is the ONLY thing that works.

Today I’ll give you a simple-yet-nefarious tactic for eliciting OBVIOUS preselection from girls who may not even actually be all that into you.

The benefits should be obvious – but just in case they aren’t, I’ll spell them out.

Note that this is an article for intermediate-level playboys and up. You don’t have to be a seduction mastermind, but you do need a little charisma and some social savvy to pull this one off.

7 Savvy Ways to Not Waste Time on Dates

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stop wasting time on datesWasting time on dates sucks. Want to slash your wasted time? These 7 strategies to streamline dating make the process a whole lot more efficient.

One of the more frustrating aspects of modern dating is wasted time.

There are lots of ways dates can end up wasting your time: being too far away, too inconvenient, turning into no-shows; failures to connect, failures to actually go anywhere, and on and on.

Some people get frustrated enough to outright give up on dating!

Reader’s Digest even claimed a few years ago that “science just proved online dating is a waste of your time.”

Well, what are you supposed to do… just not date? (I mean, skipping online to date in real life is not so bad. But you must get dates somewhere… you’re not a monk!)

This article lays out seven (7) savvy ways to not waste time on dates.

That is, ways to make your dates more efficient, more convenient, AND more EFFECTIVE… at bringing you the kinds of romantic results you’re after.

If that sounds like what you’re looking for, then read on – and let’s get your time wasted on dating down to a bare minimum.

Don't Compliment (or Chat Up) Girls on OBVIOUS Traits!

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avoid complimenting women on obvious attention-grabbing characteristicsIt’s essential in your courtships to AVOID chatting too much with girls about their obvious/peacocked traits. Why? To avoid being too GENERIC!

Over on the forum, member DarkJedi shared a report in which he made a smooth, natural street stop on a girl that melded right into an instant date, with the girl accompanying him to a pub nearby just minutes after he met her. It was a great open and transition.

Once on the instant date, however, things soon fell apart. His attempt at sexual innuendo did not land, and his deep dives on his date’s tattoos failed to create a connection. After that, he battled on for a bit, ultimately to have the date end in awkwardness and the girl text him later that she “didn’t feel we hit it off.”

DarkJedi’s takeaway was that he wasn’t being direct enough.

But that wasn’t my read of the situation at all.

Instead, I noticed (in him spending all that time talking to her about her tattoos) he’d committed one cardinal offense:

He got too hung up upon complimenting / chatting with a girl on something many other people already also have!

Any Hesitance to Approach (that Isn't Strategic) Is Approach Anxiety

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overcoming non-strategic approach anxietyIf you pause to approach from fear of what people may think (“She’s too young for him!” “They’re different races!” “He’s too short!”) it’s approach anxiety.

On my article about what to do when girls you approach say you’re too old, TheDude comments:

Hi Chase, your blog will never cease to amaze me. Just when I think I can't learn anything new, I visit the blog and read an article that teaches me something new.

I have a question - how to handle age gap social lashback? My problem is following. I'm in my 30s, smooth with women, phisically attractive, tight fundamentals. I live in a city where I'm quite known (not rock-star famous, but people know me). Most of women in my city are young (19-22). When I see good looking chick across the street, I hesitate to approach.

Why? Because I can't assess her age and I'm afraid she's too young. To assess her age, I need to either scan her before approaching (which is impossible is she's going the other way across the street) or take a risk and open her.

How should I act if after opening I find out she's very young? I don't want labeled as a guy who "harrasses young girls" because of this social lashback.

Age is a common reason men will hesitate to approach.

A girl might be too young for them, they think. Or a woman might be too old for them. People would judge them for it.

There are other reasons a guy might hesitate: a woman might have a boyfriend. She might be busy right now and not want to talk to someone. She might be in a bad mood. She might be an angry feminist who hates men! She might be listening to a song or a podcast she’s really into on her headphones and not want to be disturbed.

She might, she might, she might.

Nevertheless, for all these reasons, no matter how real the trepidation might feel, no matter how seemingly valid the reason to not approach, unless it is a strategic choice, it is still just approach anxiety.

Tactics Tuesdays: Socratic Questions for Under-the-Radar Effects

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TEXTSocratic questioning is a powerful rhetorical technique for breaking people out of dogmatic beliefs. Use it to bust bad opinions… and turn girls into fans.

Everybody’s had the experience of being in a conversation with someone and hitting points of resistance every which way.

You’re talking with a girl and she brings up some opinion you don’t agree with… then when you try to get her off the topic she won’t budge, insisting on staying with this disagreeable topic. Maybe it’s a political opinion, or a cultural one, or something else. Whatever it is, it’s grating to your ears, and it’s allll she wants to talk about.

If you express the contrary opinion, you’re certain she’ll blow up. And in any event, debates about opinions aren’t sexy. Not conducive to seduction.

If you just go along with her opinion and feign agreement, you risk looking insincere, especially if it’s an opinion you don’t hold, and especially if it’s one that undermines you (e.g., her: “Men are just so obsessed with sex it’s disgusting. I hope you’re not like that”).

You can agree and amplify, which is going to work in some cases by turning it from a serious debate into a funny bit of banter… but if she’s too deep into ‘rant mode’ (or she’s one of those totally humorless chicks) even this may backfire.

What if there was a way you could defuse all her wound-up energy around this opinion, while allowing her to feel a lot more connected to you, while at the SAME TIME even potentially pointing out some cracks in her thinking that lead her to reconsider her most staunchly-held beliefs?

There is such a way:

Socratic questioning.

10 Reasons You're Not Able to Pick Up Girls

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why you're not picking up girlsIf you go out but you’re not able to pick up girls, why? It’s probably not what you think (looks, money, status, etc.). Instead, it is something ELSE.

I’ve been teaching men how to pick up women for over 15 years now.