Dating Rules

This post is Part 3 in my Next Level Seduction series. This series is dedicated to illuminating and breaking down the most advanced concepts, processes, and subtleties involved in the highest level of seduction. It’s about discussing ideas that most men may not necessarily think about, and identifying the nuances of living your life as a highly sexual and desirable male. So if you’re new to the game, you can either ignore this... or try not to be intimidated. You can read Part 1 here and Part 2 here.

Greetings, my fellow men; this is Colt Williams, and this is the State of the Game address. Today I want to talk about where the game is today: what’s working in the seduction world, what trends I have noticed, what’s not working so well, and where this is all headed.

One of my good friends (who is in his mid-20s) has moved to almost exclusively dating cougars, which has earned him the wonderful epithet of “The Cougar Hunter”. He swears that dating these vixens is the only way to go if you want to experience a real woman.

I think somewhere in the psyches of all men is the desire to have a sexual encounter with a cougar. But why is this? Why do men see that older woman and wonder what secrets lay within her heart... and between her legs?

What is that special kernel that is just so alluring about the ever-intriguing cougar? This question is what I look to answer today, where we will be looking at the greatest things about being with these ferocious denizens.

Interracial dating is a topic on the minds of many people these days, and definitely a social topic that’s come more and more to the forefront of our culture. I predict that most men in the West will have had at least one romantic encounter with a girl of a different race within the next 20 years.

So how does a man go about handling interracial dating the right way? It is this question that I’ll be looking to answer in this post. I’m going to cover the biggest dos and don’ts in terms of your approach and execution of interracial dating.

And I want to preface all of the information that you’ll find in this post by saying that these dos and don’ts are geared toward interracial dating in the West.

Although I’ve done my fair share of interracial dating around the globe, I am focusing on the dynamic in the West because I think it’s the most nuanced.

Moreover, since masculine-feminine roles are more traditional in other parts of the world, as long as you present yourself as gentlemen with strong masculine values and some level of substance, women of nearly any race will welcome your approach and at least give you a chance to show what you have to offer.

Note from Chase: this is a solid article from Colt on highlighting lover qualities and downplaying provider qualities to up your odds and better your outcomes with women. However, I do want to note that the way Colt's applying r/K selection theory here is based on the pickup community repurposing of the theory, rather than its ecological definition, which differentiates between r- and K-selected species by traits like rapid growth vs. slow growth rather than between different individuals within the same species employing differing intrapsecific mating strategies, as is done in some pickup circles where the term “r-selected” is used as a standin for “lover” and “K-selected” as a standin for “provider.” Obviously, if you take the path of the lover, this will not help your children reach maturity any faster than those of providers, nor will women birth you large litters of offspring any more consistently than they otherwise would. Clarification out of the way, on with the article...!

We spend a lot of time on this site covering a wide array of topics: from mindsets, to fundamentals, to esoteric social observations, to process. And although we do have some quality posts on advanced topics, I thought that it was time to dedicate a series of posts to deep seduction topics – which I am naming “Next Level Seduction”.

And the first up in this roster of posts is R-Selection. For people reasonably well-steeped in the pickup community, R-Selection should be a fairly familiar term to you.

For those of you who don’t know what R-Selection is: it’s the single most important factor to determining whether or not a girl will sleep with you quickly, how sexually open she will be with you, and whether or not she will be upset if she knows about – or even sees you with – other girls.

So, is R-Selection important? Yeah, it’s kind of important. So today I’m going to talk about what R-selection is and how to demonstrate it to women.

In this article, I will share some advice on how to have literally safe sex. “Safe sex” does not only mean knowing how to avoid STDs (sexually transmitted diseases) or unwanted pregnancies – there are also many more risks out there to be aware of.

Now, I hope I will not scare you away from seducing women – that is not my purpose. In most cases, casual sex does not lead to any dramatic consequences, but, very rarely, they do happen. In this post I will share some advice that will reduce the risk of any negative consequences from having casual sex.

Again, most of the time, you will be fine. Serious consequences from having casual sex occur rarely, yet they do happen, and if you have forgotten to read this post, you may regret it later. Fact is, this post might not be the most exciting to read, but it will cover some simple tools that allow you to have a lot of fun without worrying.

I can recall with distinct clarity a time in my life when I thought it was a must that you go all out when planning a first date. I’d heard it from my mother, read it in magazines and books, saw it on television, and even heard it from the horse’s mouth. Yes, even the women I’d known as friends or romantic interests were telling me I needed to pony up and make that first date as extravagant as possible!

However, the real way to make a great first impression has absolutely nothing to do with the activity itself or the amount of money you spend – it’s all about:

1. Your fundamentals, such as your style of clothing and voice and body language

2. The actual interaction itself, your conversation skills, and how well you are able to lead her

3. Your ability to hit escalation windows and pick up on opportunities to move things forward

So as Ricardus taught us, you really can go “From Street to Bed in a Snap”, and that most certainly does not require an 8-hour date at an amusement park or a $100 dinner.

I found myself seated several evenings ago next to a young couple who were obviously on a first date. The girl was thin and okay-looking, though she’d lopped her hair off into a not-very-attractive medium-length boy cut, while the man was tall and lanky with a somewhat awkward accent I couldn’t quite place, but otherwise not too bad. She was dressed more fashionably than he was, her in a frilly white button down shirt, while he seemed to just be wearing a standard t-shirt or polo shirt.

My ears perked up because it was obvious from the moment I sat down that the guy had some game; what I’m always curious of in these types of situations, though, is, “How much?”

As it turned out, the guy had just enough game to get the girl extremely excited about him... before running the date straight into a concrete wall.

And that’s what I want to talk about today, because the things this guy did right and the ones he did wrong are something I see lots of newer guys making in their dates and interactions, and ones I certainly made a lot myself early on.

Because it often isn’t the “grabbing her interest and exciting her” part guys fail at; it’s all the stuff that comes after that.