On this website, my usual advice is that men do everything in their power to not paint themselves as overly wealthy, in order to avoid coming across as a boyfriend candidate. Certainly, dress well; but don't let on too obviously that you have wealth, a prestigious job, etc., if you do. In fact, if you're unemployed or not regularly employed (e.g., a business owner, an artist, etc.), talk about not having a job.
(this is a little different for men in the 40+ demographic, where you can be written off without some measure of accomplishment; for more on walking that fine line, see "Attracting and Dating Younger Women")
The objective is to prevent her from wanting you as a boyfriend in any way... so that you can focus on ramping up sexual tension and seize the role of the lover instead.
There is, however, one exception to this rule, which really isn't much of an exception at all - and that one exception is conspicuous consumption.
Conspicuous consumption is every bit the attraction trigger in women that things like:
... all are.
And it doesn't violate the rule of "don't be stable", either, because men who consume conspicuously very often are not the picture of safety and security.
In fact, they tend to live quite wildly, and very often the most conspicuous spenders are the same men likely to bankrupt themselves at some point.
It's one of those triggers that cuts right to the most primal core of a woman's gut; when she sees it, a powerful, visceral, deep-seated attraction sets in that compels her to want a man, both by showing him to be among the cream of the crop mating-wise, and by advertising his total lack of viability as a long-term candidate.
How this works - and how you can use it, if you have even just a little bit of money to throw around (or how you can really blow it up if you have a lot) - is what this article is all about.
Ah, empathy. At its most basic level, “empathy” simply
means
“understanding where another person is coming from.” I worked in the
counseling field for a couple years, so I have been pretty well-trained
in how to have empathy for others, and even how to make
them feel understood even
when you can’t fully grasp what’s going on
for them.
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