Articles by Author: Alek Rolstad | Girls Chase
  1. Articles by Author
  2. Articles by Author: Alek Rolstad

Articles by Author: Alek Rolstad

When Learning to Use Sex Talk, It Is Okay to Miss

Alek Rolstad's picture

By: Alek Rolstad

with sex talk, it's okay to missYou’re not going to hit the right note out of the gate every time as a sex talk trainee. So what do you do if you sex talk misses? Recalibrate, change it up, and try again.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Advanced Sex Talk: Which Sex Talk Gambits to Use for What Purposes

Alek Rolstad's picture

By: Alek Rolstad

sex talk gambit selectionSex talk is powerful. But each sex talk gambit has different uses. Here’s how to choose which sex talk gambits to use for what seduction situations.

Hey guys. I hope you are all doing well.

Guide to Choosing the Right Pickup Tactics (Avoid These Pitfalls)

Alek Rolstad's picture

By: Alek Rolstad

pickup tacticsNot all pickup tactics work for everyone—some even backfire. Learn how to choose the right material for your style and avoid painful mistakes.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Lately, I have been focusing on sex talk topics—mostly practical and advanced material. Starting today, and over the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing more posts aimed at beginners and those at the intermediate level to mix things up. Don’t worry if you’re more experienced—these posts can still offer fresh insights that even seasoned guys might find useful.

Even though this post is intended for beginners, it’s highly relevant for intermediates who have field experience with pickup tactics and seduction material, yet seem to struggle, or perhaps the material does not always hit the way it should. You might be using the material you believe in, but it does not work as you had hoped, or not at all. And sometimes, when it does work, it has some unwanted side effects.

There can be many causes behind this, such as timing and calibration, when you fine-tune the material to the girl and the context. Timing and calibration are universal components of pristine game that set experienced players apart from newer guys.

Yet, there may be something else at play—something overarching.

Many guys who join this community, read this blog, and purchase products, are looking for the holy grail. They want to collect the best material, building a powerful stack of tools they (often wrongfully) think is the best for them and their context.

The problem is that they often select a random assortment of material, including tech, tactics, and gambits, and then push it out. After all, it has been field-tested by experienced players, so it should work for a newer guy, right?

Yes, the material may have been tested and proven to succeed, especially if it comes from a credible source. But there are other factors at play. Like beautiful clothes, not all material works equally well for everyone. That high-quality shirt is nice, but it does not fit you. You can tell pretty quickly if something does not work for you—it does not give positive results. For instance, teasing or cocky, funny lines often work famously, and many guys use them successfully. This did not work for me back then and still doesn’t work for me to this day. It does not fit my persona.

Beginner's Guide to Sexual Escalation, Pt. 3: When She Resists

Alek Rolstad's picture

By: Alek Rolstad

the final hurdleStruggling with resistance when escalating? Learn key principles to handle pushback gracefully: backing off builds the attraction & comfort to get things moving again.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

I’ve dedicated this post to helping newer guys understand what happens when they experience resistance. Of course, more experienced guys can still benefit from this information.

I will continue discussing resistance to escalation from a beginner-friendly perspective, focusing on the fundamentals. My approach is to provide a few key principles, theories, and rules to keep in mind, which should help most men land most girls. It’s important to note that some level of attraction, comfort, and good logistics should already be in place. This should be obvious.

In my last two posts, we’ve discussed how to prevent resistance by focusing on timing and covering whether to escalate slowly or quickly. Prevention is always a better choice.

However, resistance may still occur. I’ll tell you how to tackle it if it happens.

What I am about to share will not help you get an uninterested or uncomfortable girl into bed. The material below will be effective if there is at least a certain amount of compliance. You should have some interest and comfort built, plus a good logistical setting (back at your or her place alone, for instance). There are ways to dodge resistance without having any of these three factors in place: interest, comfort, and logistics, however that’s advanced, and we will not cover it here. Experienced seducers will agree that, if possible, it is always better to escalate if those three premises are in place first.

Let’s recap potential causes of resistance.

Beginner's Guide to Sexual Escalation, Pt. 2: How Soon to Escalate to Sex

Alek Rolstad's picture

By: Alek Rolstad

how soon to escalate to sexDiscover how soon to escalate to sex without resistance. Learn the perfect timing—too fast or too slow can ruin your chances. Master calibration now!

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Today, I’ll continue last week’s discussion on end-game physical escalation for beginners. There may still be valuable insights for intermediates, and let’s face it, even advanced guys can benefit from a refresher.

The goal of this post remains the same as last week’s: to shift the focus away from escalating and breaking through resistance and instead, discuss how to avoid it in the first place. Prevention is the most effective strategy for tackling this. It’s also much less frustrating. After all, who enjoys facing resistance after spending time with a girl you desire?

It’s also a more pleasant strategy because dealing with resistance directly often kills the vibe, and there is plenty of room for mistakes. When you address resistance head-on, it typically sets an unwanted frame of you chasing her—sometimes even desperately—since she is saying no, and you are trying to persuade her to say yes.

Of course, there are ways around this, but they can be tricky. I will share the basics in next week’s post, do not worry. Dealing with resistance head-on will almost always have negative consequences on your frame.

Last week, we discussed whether one should escalate immediately or wait. Framed differently, what are the implications of rushing things, or waiting before escalating “to play is safe”? Both methods can backfire. If you escalate too early, your girl may not be in the right mood or feel comfortable enough, “not ready” yet, thus increasing your chance of facing resistance.

If you wait too long, you may miss an escalation window. She may be ready now, but your window closes. There may be several reasons: her mood changes (see Chase’s fantastic post on cresting, Emotional Cresting: What It Is and How to Use It), or she starts noticing your indecisiveness and perceives you as a “friend” and not a potential sexual partner.

The bottom line: If you try to escalate outside of a window when it closes, you risk facing resistance.

I cannot stress how important this is. This may seem a bit far-fetched to those just starting (and even those who have been around a while), but these effects are powerful. It takes experience to grasp concepts that truly have an impact. That was the case in my journey.