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Tell Her You Can Last All Night: The APE Sex Talk Gambit

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By: Alek Rolstad

sex talk gambit: premature ejaculationCan you turn girls on and communicate you don’t cum early – without sounding like you’re bragging? With this unique sex talk gambit, you absolutely can.

Hey guys and welcome back.

After discussions with forum members on the chat, I’ve been asked to share one of my gambits.

If you did not know, we have a forum with many experienced players (including those at our writer level) to discuss and ask questions for free. The forum has a great culture and has one of the best newbie/veteran ratios online. In addition, we have a live chat!

A recent chat discussed premature ejaculation and how to avoid it. Some asked how I deal with this. I mentioned a technique conveying sexual experience while being a good lover. Most women do not want a man who ejaculates quickly, as they usually take longer to orgasm than men.

This gambit is from a long-ago post of mine about tackling premature ejaculation. The trick works well and has assisted me greatly over the years, although I do not have this problem.

The idea is to tell her you can last a long time without appearing that you are bragging. Not cumming fast is a bit like saying you have a big dick, if you see what I mean. (On that note, a normal-sized penis is ideal.)

How do you do this? You convey to women that you are not a quick cummer (without explicitly saying it) and are a guy who lasts for a while in bed. You offer an explanation that “makes sense” for why that is. More importantly, the reason for you lasting so long is not because you are a sexy Superman (which would be bragging), but it’s because you know a simple trick to make sex last longer. I go through this trick here: How to Stop Premature Ejaculation – Proven Tips from a Pickup Artist.

I want to be clear that lasting all night is not necessarily ideal. It is easy to believe that because we, as men, know that premature ejaculation is unsexy, we quickly assume that the opposite must be sexy. Well, it is, but it can go too far. If you never ejaculate, she may become self-conscious: “Why is he not ejaculating?” “Is there something wrong with me?” Her worries arise because most guys tend to ejaculate rather quickly during intercourse, and many do it faster than she hoped.

I will briefly recap the anti-premature ejaculation (APE) trick and then show you can convert this knowledge into a sex talk gambit.

"Self-Control Is Sexy": A Sex Talk Gambit (Turn Her On!)

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sex talk gambit: self-controlThis simple conversation gambit gets you turning women on via an unusual conversational route: self-control. Because self-control is sexy… as she’ll agree!

Hi guys. I hope you are all doing great.

I want to share a sex talk gambit that is very efficient and easy to pull off. What can this gambit do for you?

  • Communicate sexual, social, and female understanding (pacing effect)

  • Build sexual comfort

It does all this while setting a sexual frame, which we know is crucial. When the interaction is sexual, whether the sexual frame is explicit or light, future sexualization is smoother because the interaction already has a sexual undertone. So, talking about sex as you move forward will be easier, forging a path for bolder and more explicit gambits.

This self-control sex gambit is light and does not contain much explicit content, but feel free to create a more explicit version if you want. Because this gambit is less explicit, it’s less prone to resistance, less risky, and easier to introduce.

However, a light gambit does NOT mean it is weak. It is powerful even if the level of explicit content is low because it still sets a sexual frame and conveys attractive attributes. And this can get a girl interested and attracted.

Sometimes, light gambits are all you need to hook her, get her immersed and curious about you, and even be willing to go home with you. Sure, it rarely is enough to escalate all the way, but it can set a clear path for easy physical escalation.

Light sexual gambit are helpful in your early game as a hook gambit; see Using Sex Talk to Hook Girls Early in a Conversation.

So, let’s get into the gaming, but first, I’ll share some background so you understand the theory behind this gambit.

Remember, you can find a compilation of all my gambits here: STICKIED: Sex Talk Gambits Compilation (And more).

Using Sex Talk in Seduction's Late Game

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sex talk late gameThe ideal time for sex talk is mid-seduction. But some girls resist sex talk – or things may move faster with them than you expect. How do you use it late?

Hi, I hope you are all doing well. Last week, we discussed how to use sex talk during mid-game, when sex talk is most suitable. You have enough rapport and attraction to transition into sex talk easily, and you will not have been in an interaction so long as to set and reinforce a strong sexual frame. As we discussed last week, not escalating the vibe and waiting too long before setting a sexual frame will result in an asexual frame, and if that frame persists, you will reinforce that frame. This makes future escalation attempts difficult and prone to resistance.

You can also set a sexual frame through sex talk during early game and before the hook, but that poses some challenges. It can cause resistance because you are a stranger. We discussed the benefits and how to use sex talk in early game a couple of weeks ago, so make sure you check that post for more details.

The ideal time for sex talk is in mid-game. This phase hits the perfect balance between not too early and not too late. We covered why that works last week. If you are at an intermediate level or new to sex talk and want to use a cookie-cutter method (in my opinion, it’s the easiest and safest way to use sex talk), read last week’s post.

Today, we will discuss how to use sex talk during late game. I will discuss the pros and cons, cover when to start it, and provide some pointers on how to use sex talk effectively and hurdles to watch for.

Using Sex Talk During Seduction's Mid-Game

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Hi guys. I hope you are all doing well.

Last week, I discussed how to (and if you should) introduce sex talk early in the interaction. Sex talk can increase compliance, set a sexual frame (crucial), and escalate the vibe. It can be challenging to introduce sex talk early, even if you talk about sex in a way that does not convey sexual intent and sexual interest. You don’t want to trigger potential resistance, so it makes sense to assume that talking about sexual subjects with strangers may be socially unacceptable (unless you calibrate properly; see last week’s post). Early sex talk is also prone to resistance, especially if done not long after the opener and during the hook phase before the hook point. I’ve written many articles about sex talk; see Sleazy Sex Talk vs. Sexy Sex Talk: What’s the Difference? for more.

For these reasons, I recommend introducing sex talk after reaching the hook point—after you have an interaction going smoothly with a girl, preferably in isolation. You can use sex talk in groups but will have to select lighter sex talk gambits as you don’t want resistance from any of the girls, as resistance from one may risk you the entire group. Even if your girl likes what you are saying, if her friends dislike you or your topic and can use whatever you talk about as a pretext to get rid of you, you are in trouble.

So, sex talk is ideally most helpful during mid-game, after isolation. It is the easiest and most efficient time to bring it up, especially if you are new to it. Even if you are not, it is still the safest and easiest phase to do it.

This post answers that question: What is the best way to use sex talk during mid-game?

Using Sex Talk to Hook Girls Early in a Conversation

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sex talk as an early game hookSex talk can be used to hook girls in the early game. Its viability depends on a few factors – yet when viable you can use it to suck women right in.

Hi guys and welcome back.

Today, I’ll discuss sex talk calibration and how to use sex talk in the early game after the opener and during the hook phase.

First, I emphasize that sex talk has always been a mid-game technique to increase compliance, set sexual frames, and escalate the vibe. So, using sex talk as part of your hook gambit is a bit “off-label” (the pharmaceutical term for medicines used for something other than their usual purpose).

But sex talk can be useful as a hook gambit to immerse girls. For instance, after the opener, whether the opener is an embedded hook in the opener or a hook gambit. The goal is to get a positive reaction from your opener, and if not, you can use a hook gambit. It generates initial compliance, creates more interest, and gets the conversation going. We use hook gambits and other techniques such as assumptions/cold reads, group gambits, and storytelling to accomplish this.

This post covers techniques best suited for night game. In day game, sex talk is mainly used from the mid-game on, typically after isolating to an instant date, or at least, after a solid interaction.

When You Can't Pull a Girl Due to Logistics, Use Push-Pull Barriers

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push-pull logisticsIf you hit it off with a girl but can’t pull her because she has to mind her friend or there’s no private place to take her, what can you do? Use push-pull!

Hi guys and welcome back.

Not long ago, I wrote a post about how to run 2-sets, groups of two girls, one of the hardest groupings to deal with in pickup and seduction. Isolation is difficult in those settings because you cannot fully isolate without leaving her friend alone. It’s why going for groups bigger than three is easier (unless you are dealing with lone wolves). In my guide, I covered how to work with those settings. I won’t recap that here.

But in a previous post, I suggested a cool technique called a barrier that provides great effects when the logistics are not in your favor (for example, her friend does not want to leave so you have enough alone time).

“I would love to drink some Rosé with you back at my place, but I can’t leave your friend behind.”

The above example is one of the lines discussed. The idea is to use a push-pull strategy (Tactics Tuesdays: Push-Pull for Getting Girls) and show mixed signals, but the push here is a sign of interest indicating you’d like to do X or talk about X, but can’t because of Y reason (logistical).

I will discuss how this works plus provide a few examples.

Let’s go!

2-Set Escalation: Escalating a Seduction in a Set with Two Girls

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two-set escalationGroups of two girls are common in nightlife. It can be hard to peel a girl off her one friend, though. Here’s how to escalate in front of her instead.

Hey guys and welcome back.

My most recent articles discussed two paradoxes. The first is to give both girls in a 2-set attention to maintain the hook. By doing so, you will face issues, such as running out of things to say, inflating your material, appearing like a dancing monkey, and creating jealousy and confusion because you are giving both girls attention. I provided solutions last week that deal with these issues.

The second paradox is that you will not have the ideal setting to escalate the vibe when you deal with a 2-set. But because you must escalate the vibe at some point (stagnation = the death of the interaction), you find yourself in a dilemma: do you escalate in a setting where you cannot escalate the vibe very well—or do you wait and risk stagnation?

And that’s the question we will resolve in this article. I will explain how to escalate the vibe sexually and intimately in 2-sets. Yes, it is more challenging than running 3-sets (or larger) as you can isolate and escalate more easily from bigger groups.

Finally, we will discuss how to seal the deal when dealing with groups of two.

How to Chat Up Two Girls (Dealing with 2-Sets)

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chat up two girlsIt’s easy to stumble talking to two girls on your own. How do you run a two-girl set? The secret: a stronger hook… plus avoiding jealousy in the other girl.

Hey guys and welcome back.

Last week, I discussed running 2-sets—groups of two women when you are alone. With a wingman, theoretically, it’s more straightforward.

I also mentioned screening, looking for 2-sets that appear easy to deal with and those that are more difficult or impossible (hint: move on!) by assessing different screening factors.

And I went over a few tips and tricks for running 2-sets.

Today, we will delve further by discussing how to run 2-steps. This post continues last week’s post but also stands on its own. If you like, you may read this first, then last week’s post.

Both posts continue my older post on 2-sets. The advice in this post still applies, and I try not to repeat myself in these two posts. So, check out that post, as it covers the basics and strategies I do not mention here, such as the social proof strategy and the last-resort (ultimatum) strategy.

Today’s topic is how to run a 2-set, covering some theory first. Next week’s post will explore how to sexualize and seal the deal when running 2-sets.

Should You Approach Girls in Groups of Two?

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approach two-girl groupsMany girls you’ll see out and about come in groups of two. Should you approach two-girl groups? Consider these 7 logistical and 10 girl-related factors.

Hey guys. I hope you are doing well.

Lately, I have dedicated numerous posts to opening, hooking, and group theory, including handling big groups and their dynamics.

Today, I’ll explore a topic I have been hesitant about discussing: how to deal with two-sets (groups of two girls). I often get questions about groups of two, especially from my students. Groups of three or four are common at night, but unfortunately, you’ll see groups of two girls often, too.

I say “unfortunately” because dealing with groups of two is the most challenging group size to deal with. It is hard to isolate your girl when she is with one friend. More importantly, they can be frustrating to deal with because many factors determining your success are out of your direct control, and there are hazards to navigate. If you want consistent results in night game, you need to limit those hazardous elements. Sure, sometimes chaos and hazards work in your favor, but generally, the more skilled you are, the more you can get control over difficult situations.

What hazards do you encounter with groups of two? I will explain how to limit hazards and give pointers on when it is worth it to opt for a group of two and when it is not. Using these tips will help you limit the hazardous elements by proper decision-making, which is an underrated and under-discussed element in pickup and seduction.

I will cover different strategies in next week’s post on how you can run two-sets. I will not discuss strategies with a wingman. Dealing with a group of two is more manageable then because you can smoothly isolate your girl if your wingman is doing a good job with her friend. Even better, you may do a “double” when you and your wing pull a group of two girls together. (It isn’t easy to pull off, but it is very satisfying.) I will not review this strategy today because the usual issues will not surface when you have a good wingman. The wingman strategy requires a separate post I intend to write about soon.

Picking Up Girls from Bars that Close Late: Additional Considerations

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late closing nightclubsMore considerations to help you pull off your late-closing nightclub pulls. How do you maintain state? How crucial is endurance game? Can you use public transport? And more…

Hey guys and welcome back.

Two weeks ago, I discussed how to deal with early closing hours (venues closing at around 3 a.m. or earlier), and last week, I covered late closing hours (venues closing at 5 a.m. or later). The dynamics in both settings differ, and so do your strategic options. You have less time to strategize in venues that close early and must be bolder to screen out unreceptive girls quickly.

In late closing venues, you have plenty of time to deal with those, and you can run efficient strategies that require more time, like extended verbal game or social proof game.

I also reviewed differences in venue dynamics:

  • With earlier closing times, the venue dynamic works for you by providing a peak hour that usually affects people’s state positively. However, these venues offer more wildcards, which are typically negative. A defined closing time gives you plausible deniability to extract the girl from the venue.

  • With later closing hours, you have a calmer and more settled vibe, and your results depend more on your work. You will be more in control but will get less for free.

Below, I will discuss the remaining logistical factors to consider with state control, sealing the deal, and providing pointers regarding your strategic choices in venues with later closing hours.

This post continues my post on late closing hours, although those who want to know more about early closing hours may still find some valuable details here. If the venues close late where you live, then this expansion post is for you.