Chase Amante’s new mini ebook is available free on X – all it costs is a like, follow, and retweet.Running another giveaway here to bolster our audience on X a little bit.
(by the way, if you aren’t following us on X, I’ve been posting a lot of great stuff. Probably half my recent output has been on X. You really ought to follow me there too)
Absolute abundance: where you know you can get another girlfriend-caliber girl in a matter of weeks. What’s it take to reach this level – how do you get here?In a recent X post, I laid out the 9 levels of abundance, starting from level 0 (total scarcity) to level 8 (absolute abundance).
A reader named French Frame Apostle asked what it takes to hit absolute abundance with girls. I listed out the key facets to reaching this:
A guy who is in absolute abundance (i.e., able to get & keep girlfriend-caliber girls very reliably):
✅ Has a specific type of girl he goes for and knows her front and back.
✅ Has himself totally dialed in as this specific girl’s ideal male archetype.
✅ Knows the best places & times to go to meet his preferred type of girl.
✅ Is approaching & laying enough girls to be running on HIGH social momentum.
✅ Is excellent at approaching, smoothly opening, and reaching the hook point.
✅ Builds enough intrigue yet retains enough mystery that girls want to come out onto dates.
✅ Has enough female options that he can stop himself from slipping into oneitis with amazing girls.
✅ Has a fully mapped out date process that lets him attract & seduce with efficiency.
✅ Has learned not to do the “wow, this one’s so great, I need to throw out my process and do something special with her” thing with the exceptional girls and just treat them exactly the same as every other girl.
✅ Has learned not to get clingy/crazy/emotional after he beds an awesome new girl, and still treat her the same as any other new girl he’d just bedded.
✅ Knows to maintain the power shift after intimacy where the girl is going to push for the relationship and he is going to stay skeptical. Never pushes for the relationship no matter how amazing she is.
When you see all that, the guy without fail will either be at absolute abundance or very close to hitting it.
— Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨 (@GirlsChase) October 16, 2024
You’ve got the list there.
In today’s article, I want to go a little more in-depth into what you need to do to hit all these.
What do you say when a girl tries to take you away, disrupt you at play, or frame herself as greater? The word of the day, that verbal sashay, the word that we all know as ‘LATER’!This is a very simple little technique, with a surprising amount of uses, and a startling amount of power.
I learned it from a very beautiful, very charismatic, very sociable girlfriend of mine who tended to get crowds of people clustered around her pestering her with all kinds of questions or requests.
It revolves around a single, magical word:
“Later.”
Someone asks you to do something you don’t want to do?
“Maybe later!”
Someone asks you about something you don’t want to discuss?
“I’ll tell you later!”
Someone tries to get you to go somewhere you don’t want to go?
“I’ll go with you later!”
The power in the word ‘later’ lies in it being a rejection that’s not a rejection. It keeps the other party in a state of limbo, robbed of the ability to either push for more or take offense at the rejection.
And, as a bonus, it clearly frames YOU – to the party you tell “later” to and to all other observers – as the one who is being chased, and very much in demand.
Once you’ve seen the dark side of women – how callously they can stray on men who deeply love them and lie about it – can you ever trust a girl again?Over on X, there was a good long thread where guys shared their experiences being ‘side guys’:
Women don’t usually make eye contact beyond 6ft/2m. When they do, it’s often a sign they’re ‘on the hunt’, in search of men – and YOU have caught their eye.I’ve noticed for a long time now that when girls start looking at me from far away, they almost always start playing with their hair and preening themselves once they have my attention.
Much of the time they will move closer to me on their own. As they draw nearer, I will use my eyes that draw technique to make sure they stop near where I am (within easy opening range).
When I approach girls like this, they are generally very receptive.
So, I have long taken this one (girls staring at you from a distance) as “very often an approach invitation.”
As it turns out, there is a specific distance you can look for to make this more watertight!
Today’s henpecked men suppress their own sexual attractiveness, studies find. Why men are doing this & how to stop doing it we discuss in this essay.The other day I came across an eye-opening paper from 2007. Here’s the abstract:
This simple ‘tactical framework’ for romantic conversations puts you in the driver’s seat. Get girls laughing, intrigued and following your lead in no time.Yesterday we talked about the common problem where guys bombard women with too many questions.
It’s an easy trap to fall into, especially when you are new, and especially when the girl is not giving you much.
In that article, I challenged you (you being anyone who runs into this issue) to try running your conversations with ZERO questions – at least until the girl is hooked / shows sufficient interest on her end.
In today’s Tactics Tuesdays article, I’m going to give you a simple tactical framework you can use to make your “no questions convos” run smoothly in the early conversation.
We’ll call this tease-compliance-qualify-cold read – or TCQC for short.
A common trap men fall into is asking women too many questions. How do you stop asking girls too many questions? By asking no questions AT ALL! Try it!I responded to a few reports on our Field Reports Board recently (over on the forum) in which newer guys fell into the trap of asking women they’d just approached too many questions.
Here’s an excerpt from one report – I’m just going to post what the forum member said and skip the girl’s replies just to give you a sense of the question frequency here:
[opens]
"Hi, so what's your name?"
"How are you doing today?"
"Pretty good, I just, uh, got out of the coffee shop. I was just reading a book and chilling today. You?"
"Oh awesome, the Korean corndog place?"
"But they look like corndogs."
"Okay okay. Well, girls are usually interested in hotdogs."
"So what kind of boba are you going to get?"
"Oh, I've been to that place. I really liked the watermelon."
"Are you guys boba addicts?"
"I'm part of the, uh, boba anonymous addiction recovery group."
"Maybe. Maybe I'm just replacing one vice with another."
"Yeah. Are you from around the area or...?"
"Oh, that's pretty prestigious."
"Yeah, I also grew up around the area. I went not to <her school>, I went to <school name>."
"Yeah, did you just graduate?"
"Oh awesome, what did you study?"
"Oh nice...so you like money, and numbers? <Teasing her>"
That is 9 questions out of 18 separate remarks. 50% questions.
Here’s an excerpt from a second report:
But we get to talking and again my problem is my conversational skills be dry as fuck I can't think of anything to say beyond what do you do and where are you from. Anyway she tells me she goes to church and turns out she goes to the same church I used to go to, I ask her for her number and she says she doesn't give that out so I left.
…
But I couldn't think of anything to say my conversation skills are super dry. How do I be better at conversation and get her attraction to continue building? I could just feel these girl's attraction to me slowly waning the more we talked cuz I didn't know how to keep the spark going.
Here again we have an incident where the guy was struggling to get much more going on than asking some basic questions while struggling through conversation.
I just want to be clear: I’m not ragging on our forum members! I did the same thing as them when a newbie. You could’ve called me “Mr. Questions” at times.
It’s tough when you get into a chat with a girl who isn’t giving you much back. It’s all too easy to get caught up in the ‘infinite questions loop’. She’ll answer your questions but she contributes nothing! What do you do except ask MORE questions!
Well, I’m going to give you a strategy for what to do:
You are going to ask ZERO questions!
Who are the people who sleep around a lot sleeping with? Well… EACH OTHER, for the most part. We look at the numbers and see how it all shakes out.Next up in “uncomfortable truths about hooking up”: the more sex you have with more different people, the more you are dipping into the same (somewhat limited) pot of lovers every other sexually active person is.
A lot of people do not seem to understand this. In fact it took me a few years in seduction to realize it myself. I was picking up girls from nightclubs and some from dating apps. While I knew it wasn’t their first rodeo, it didn’t really occur to me that, “Every guy who also gets laid a lot is sleeping with these same exact girls.”
In any population of people, most of them aren’t having lots of sex with different people. Most of the women and most of the men only have a handful of lifetime partners. But this also means that most people in any given mating market are not participating in the dating scene most of the time. Only those who are single (or cheating) and who actively are looking for mates are participants. This is a limited pot of people.
Further, the most chronically ‘single and looking’ people tend to make up a disproportionate amount of those present in meet market environments (such as nightlife and dating apps), skewing hookups from these environments even more into the “shared lover” category.
I’ll give you some data to back up what I mean, but first I want to tell you a few stories.
If dating’s too expensive for you – well, you’re doing it wrong! You can have great dates that cost nothing… and some are even classier than pricey dinners.“Dating’s too hard on my bank account!”
“I had to give up dating right now; I don’t have the funds.”
“I spend way too much on women.”
Every time I see comments like these I wonder, “What the heck is this guy doing to make dating so expensive?” I’d have to bang 30 girls a week to be spending as much as some guys spend going on one or two posh dates.
Not only is spending money on women hard on your bank account, a lot of the time it is counterproductive. Is your goal to get this girl into bed? Then you should not pay for dates!
If you must pay (and sometimes you’ll have to spend a little money), then you should cut the amount you are spending down as low as possible.
In this article, I’ll share nine (9) ways you can keep your dates dirt cheap or even free. If you want something with a girl other than to be her ATM, this is the guide for you.
(note: a lot of guys seem to have ego tied to being the provider. That is fine. If that is you, this isn’t the article for you. This is for guys who want to sleep with the girls they take out on dates and optionally turn those girls into FWBs or girlfriends. When that is the case, you want to minimize the role of money and maximize the focus on YOU and THE GIRL)
