Nobody Owes You Nothin’
In a comment
on my article “In
Seduction, “You” Don’t Matter (But Her Emotions Do)”, a commenter
who dubs himself ‘Enlightened’ left the following remark:
“This article seems to suggest that women care more about what you can do for them and how those actions make them feel vs what they can do for you. It’s very much important about what they deduce they can get if they stick around with you. Is this correct? If so, how does this sentiment vary by country and across the world? If this is correct, then why should men pursue women at all when ultimately all he is to a woman is a talking dildo?”
Now, in case you haven’t read this article or skimmed over the part Enlightened is referring to, my point was twofold – that:
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When people meet someone new, they evaluate him on value and attainability – essentially, how valuable does this new person appear to be, and how accessible is that value of his?
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Once someone has spent a longer period of time with another individual (say, perhaps, 80 to 100 hours?), he begins to form a real attachment to this person, and begins to want the best for him, care for him, and deeply understand and empathize with him – however, this connection is only formed with time; it is not instantaneous
Enlightened may have missed that latter part and only zeroed in on the part that raised his ire, so he may not necessarily be guilty of the following mindset. However, I have noticed there is a distinct minority of men who stumble onto this site (supposedly stumbling in here from places like Reddit, or some manner of MGTOW websites and forums) who think point #1 is totally unreasonable in all circumstances – at least, for other people.
They still judge others by the value they present to their lives, and how attainable those others are. However, they believe they themselves should be exempted from this.
That they are special, and entitled to special breaks from
the rules they expect of others.
Mindsets like this are a product
of a world replete with advertising and feel-good messages
designed to make you feel like you deserve honor, respect, and everything your heart
desires, merely for breathing. I rarely if ever encounter this
mentality outside the West. However, it’s ubiquitous among the more
radical elements of Western feminists, men’s rights advocates, and ‘men
going their own way’.
In this post, I challenge you to break free from slavery to the mindset TV commercials, magazine ads, and now even much (most?) of the Western education system do their darnedest to instill in you, and to instead adopt the manliest, most liberating, most self-reliant mindset there is on Planet Earth:
Nobody owes you nothin’.
Recently, a commenter asked a question about my article “
In a comment on my article about 
I see a lot of guys starting out who devote themselves
to trying to
hook up with girls who are, to a more experienced eye, clearly just 
There’s a
truly wonderful post (and equally wonderful comment
section discussion) on LessWrong titled “
The
vapid
stares, the uninteresting conversation, the constant
references to celebrity doings and pop culture happenings you haven’t
the slightest inkling of.
This is Part 3 of my series on why relationships fall
apart. Part 1
was on