Articles by Author: Chase Amante

What does it mean if a girl doesn’t text you first? There are 5 different reasons why she never texts first. All YOU can do is follow your texting process.

I see a lot of stuff online claiming that, “If a girl doesn’t text you first, it means she’s not that interested.”

In articles and videos with this conclusion, the advice to men tends to be something like if she never texts you first, you should move on, and find a girl who’s more interested.

Find a girl who will actually text you first, instead.

Is this actually good advice?

Or is this advice all washed up?

People must feel secure in their relationships to stay in them. As relationship trust crumbles, security erodes, and people take steps to guard themselves.

In my four-part relationship model, GISS, the first ‘S’ stands for ‘security.’ Security, as I use it for relationships, means a few things:

• Trust that you are who you seem to be.

• Trust that you can be relied upon for what’s required.

• Trust that no outside forces or events can upend the relationship.

The reason I don’t simply call it ‘trust’ is because all these kinds of trust together create a feeling that the relationship is secure. Yet in the absence of this trust, or as the trust erodes, a sense of insecurity prevails.

How secure should you aim to make your relationships? Many men strive to give their women a sense of total security – greater security, in truth, than they can realistically deliver.

It’s a chaotic world out there, full of uncertainty and unknowns. Just as your woman seeks security in her relationship with you, you bear the responsibility of deciding how strong a sense of security you will give her… and whether you can live up to the impression you allow her to have.