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It’s out. Trailer #2 for One Date & TDA.
Want to see what it looks like inside the course? Come join me for a quick, fun, and awesome tour...
When you’re head-to-head against another guy over a girl, the
last thing you want to do is try to best him at what he’s good at. Beat
him on your terms, instead.
Commenting under my article “If a Girl Has Sex with You Fast, is She a Slut?”, Mike asked:
“Hey chase, please I have a question to ask. I want to know how to compete with guys more handsome than me. Thanks.”
It’s a good question. It echoes similar questions I’ve answered in articles and in the comments before, such as:
How do you compete with men who are famous?
How do you compete with guys she already knows?
How do you compete with bad boys when you’re not a bad boy?
I don’t want to spoil the whole article, but the way you win, of course, is by not trying to beat that guy at what he’s good at.
Instead, what you must do to win is change the rules of engagement.
With the right tweaks, you can put a guy on the defensive and emerge victorious for the girl, despite almost any number of on-paper advantages he might seem to have over you.
If you jerk off too much, what happens to your sex drive and
motivation? Nothing good – but the problem is not masturbation; it’s
masturbation to excess.
On an article of mine from earlier this month, a reader asked about masturbation:
“Hi Chase,
Do you think masturbating destroys your drive for taking control of your life and motivation, even if you don’t watch porn?
Growing up I used to do it a lot and I was very timid, low self beleif, and hated sports, I’m wondering if that’s why? I use to do it like 3 times a day.
I do it now, but it’s more here and there. Sometimes I have days where I do it 3x, but I was wondering if I did it once a week or every other week, would that be good for my motivation and for me to start doing better in life and to be more aggressive?”
A later comment on the same topic:
“Chase, i watched porn and masturbated very compulsively throughout all my teenage years, as an escape from life. I was very depressed back then: there was a period that i would watch porn literally all day (i’m a high school dropout)! I’m 24 now and nowadays, the best i can go without fapping to porn is 10-11 days... and that requires A LOT of effort – i get crazy cravings, mood swings, even insomnia...and i don’t feel lust for women in real life at all, even if i find them hotter than the ones i’m seeing on my computer.
This affects not only my love life, but also my potential professional life, because my memory and concentration are terrible when i’m watching porn frequently. There was this time that i went a little over a month without fapping/watching porn and i was literally another person – no more acne, strong attraction for real women, much more sociable, fat loss, muscle gains, etc.
After that, i tried to reintroduce masturbation to porn once a week, i thought – “eh, i can manage that...”
Hah, i couldn’t! After a couple of weeks i started increasing the frequency, and after a while i was back where i was before. It has been about 2 years since then, and i didn’t manage to go over ~20 days without porn/fapping since then.
I find it very difficult to let go of porn, mainly for one thing – fetishes. I have a couple of fetishes (not porn-induced) that without porn would be very hard to fulfill. I could easily leave behind vanilla porn and any other subgenre (i rarely watch them).
I respect you and would love to hear your thoughts, even if you don’t have any advices. Cheers :)”
So let’s talk about jerking your own chain. Can you do it? How much can you do it?
And what happens if you do it a little... an ordinary amount... or a lot?
You’ve met a girl, hit it off, and invited her to leave with you.
But then she tells you “I have to find my friends!” Don’t fret – there
are several ways to handle this.
One of the most bone-chilling things a girl you’ve made a lot of headway with in a bar, at a party, on a beach, or in a shopping mall can tell you when you ask her to go somewhere with you is “I have to find my friends!”
It signals a likely end to this beautiful courtship you’ve enjoyed with her. Either she is going to go and not come back... or you are going to go with her and follow her around like a puppy dog for a bit, until her friends decide it is time to go and she leaves (without you).
It totally sucks. You thought you were doing great with her. But now she “has to find her friends.”
How do you handle this obstacle with finesse, and not lose the girl?
Must you be an expert on women to excel with them? Of course not…
yet there are different kinds of expertise, and they have different
effects on your odds with women.
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I have a lot of fun building mental models of how other folks think, feel, and act that are as accurate as I can get them. As you may notice from comments by female readers on some of my articles, I’m generally pretty on-the-mark.
Yet something I found myself thinking about recently was “How well do you actually need to understand women to date them and bed them?”
It’s an interesting question. And not as easy to answer as you might think... because there are different kinds of “understanding women”, and different kinds of “doing well with women.”
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It’s sexy to part your lips. Some of Hollywood’s most alluring
leading men have used parted lips. If it works for them, it can work
for you too.
Just wanted to do something simple and basic today, after my latest stretch of hard/advanced and gargantuan posts. So today we’ll talk about parted lips.
Parted lips do three things for you:
This fits in nicely with Hector’s series on smart men vs. dumb men.
In this article, we’ll talk about when to part your lips and what uses this has.
There are two big downsides to going bareback on girls:
pregnancies and infections. But nobody talks about the upsides. What’s
the truth about unprotected sex?
In my article last week on how to best please women, I mentioned having unprotected sex as a pleasure booster and devotion inducer. When you shag a girl raw, and especially when you cum in her, all other things being equal (i.e., the sex itself, and the experience of it, are also just as good), the experience for her (and for you) tops anything you can achieve with a condom on.
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I also mentioned this was not an endorsement or a recommendation, and that you’d better know the risks. And that the risks for it aren’t minor (diseases and pregnancy being the Big Two).
We had a few readers ask for more on the topic in the comments of that article, however. One comment was:
“How are we having sex with these girls raw with no consequences? Lol
How do we get girls to have sex raw with us?
How do we know if she does this with everyone or not? How do we know we’re special ?
How do we know she’s clean
How do we not get her pregnant
How many girls would you advise we do this to?
I’m really curious, I love raw sex, but my safety is more important”
Another reader requested a proper article on having sex raw.
So, I’m going to give you the politically incorrect truth about raw dogging women – including women you’ve just met. Because there’s a lot of good information in the sex education you’ve had, but it had one problem: it went heavy on the fear, and light on the benefits.
We’ll talk both today.
Science tells us 7 factors matter for how pleased a woman is with
sex. Whether it’s your first time with her or your 1000th, you’ll want
to use these 7.
I have a fun post for you today on how to please women so thoroughly you get them hooked on you.
We’ll talk about getting her hooked your first time in bed... as
well as keeping her hooked for a long time thereafter.
These tips come from discussions I’ve had with fellow lovers of women the years (men with triple-digit notch counts and plenty of experience pleasing all kinds of women) mixed up together with the very best science out there on female sexual satisfaction.
We’re going to start with the science, then get to the how-to. Of course, if you just want the practical “how to” on how to please a woman, you can always skip to it right here (or use the table of contents on the left).
Either way, by the end of this article, we’ll get you hooking just about every girl you wrangle into bed. The women you sleep with, from here forward, will not be able to get enough of you.
On with the show.
Usually you want to touch the girls you like. But not always.
Advanced daters can use the ‘no-touch’ technique to ramp things up with
harder-to-get girls.
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1. Beginners: Stick with Touch
4. Switching Between Touch/No-Touch
Usually, the other writers here and I will tell you to touch women early and touch them often.
Touch is good. It lets her see you are not a timid man, unafraid to contact her. It helps you stand out from most of the men she meets, who either don’t touch her or don’t know how to touch her (i.e., they touch her in half-hearted or awkward ways).
When you start out, you will want to touch any woman you talk with, to get comfortable with touch, and in general to help you build the sexual tension you will have difficulty building with vibe alone as a beginner.
However, sometimes (particularly for non-beginners) it works better if you don’t touch. Today’s article will be about that.