Women have a lot of very high standards. They just don’t always
stick to those standards, is all. In fact, they usually abandon a lot
of them.
I had a funny insight recently. Well, more a new way to look at
something I already was aware of, but the new way of looking at it
instantly made me go, “Ah, that’s how it is, yes.”
I started writing an article about girlfriend retention earlier. I
got about a third of the way into it, got pulled away from it, and
don’t really feel like going back to it right now. Then I started
writing one on hooking up with girls who are horny when you’re not the
most attractive guy in the room, but went on a big tangent and kind of
lost my train of thought so shelved that one for now too (lost trains
of thought happen
sometimes when you write).
Anyway, in the ‘keeping a girlfriend’ one, I embedded a YouTube
video of a hit 1970s soul song where the female singer talks about
trying to hang onto a broke male partner she feeds and clothes and
houses and
whom she discovers is having an affair. It’s a great song (the single
sold a million copies in its first eight weeks), and people love it...
but the YouTube comment section is filled with women proclaiming how
they would never tolerate a man straying on them and how the singer
needs to find herself a new man.
And I thought “It is so funny how women do that.” Because I have had
numerous girlfriends – beautiful, intelligent, charismatic girlfriends,
with no shortage of male suitors and no lack of self awareness –
declare to me they would never tolerate a man seeing other women while
with them, even as they knew I saw other women while with them. I have
watched
these same women tell other women no woman should tolerate this and
that any woman with such a man ought to leave him. Then come right back
to me after these little rants to others, happy as pups.
It’s not just about fidelity. Women do it with many things. There
was a poll I came across where someone asked Japanese women what they’d
like to change about their man. 40% of women said a bit more muscle,
25% of women said more
wealth, and another 25% said they wanted more personality. One male
commenter on the poll results remarked “So just get muscular, be rich,
and have a great
personality. Easy!” (that’s sarcasm, in case you didn’t catch it).
Another commenter remarked that the problem women face is all
the ripped, rich guys with great personalities are gay.
And it’s true (the standards disconnect, not the gay thing. Although
that is kind of true too)! If you ask most men what they want in a
girlfriend,
you’ll get a couple of items. Cute, nice, submissive, can cook and
clean. That’s about what most guys want. Maybe one or two other things,
like likes to dress sexy or is into this or that leisure activity. Many
women have full-on wish lists of 30 to 70 qualities they want a man to
have. Yet, again – reality doesn’t
match women’s words. Look at the
guys these girls with huge long lists of things they want date, and
you discover their actual real world partners don’t have most of what
these women say they want.
So why do women say they want all these things, and then turn around
and date men who don’t have any of them? And then they keep saying they
want those things anyway, in spite of their dating histories to the
contrary?
Are women just nuts?
You
talk to a girl on a street somewhere and you reach that ‘moment’. She
smiles, you smile. She looks at you with expectation.
