Tactics Tuesdays

Discover how to use playful “trouble frames” to create a flirtatious, engaging dynamic and turn a simple conversation into a compelling connection.

I just had a call with a mentorship client in which he’d opened a pair of girls in a bar with a very natural opinion opener but hadn’t been sure where to take it from there.

The “Let Me See Your Hands” routine is a simple bit of banter (lifted straight from improv comedy) that lets you rope women deeper into your seductions.

When you first approach a girl, you need to achieve a few things in relatively quick succession:

A girl gets the wrong impression about you, and her mood toward you changes. How do you fix it? Simple enough: with Ignore, Exhibit, Re-Attract.

Imagine you’re in this scenario:

You’re being your regular cool self, but for whatever reason you slip up and say something rude.

You thought you were being funny but you ended up telling a girl she looks like a dork in that getup she has on, and she takes it personally and auto-rejects you, turning cold and offended.

You could try to use the auto-rejection turnaround technique, and that might work. But maybe she’s so offended she won’t even give you the chance to.

There’s another approach you can take. It’s more indirect, and it requires a consistent social environment (so it’s not usually going to work in, say, daytime cold approach, or nighttime street game) – but if you pull it off, it can bring back girls who’d decided they didn’t want anything to do with you at all.

Note: this is a firefighting tactic that is mostly only practical for intermediate seducers and higher. Due to the nature of the tactic, the higher your seduction skill level, the more effective this tactic will be; the less skilled you are, the less likely it is to succeed. We’ll look at why toward the end of the article, but for now, let’s talk tactics.