
Have a bad night at the bar and you may want to give up and go
home. But it’s not over just because you’re off to a bad start.
Every time you step outside your door, you enter a world filled with
different, random, unknown others. Some of those others will be
delighted to meet you. Some will be indifferent to you. Some will be
rude, dismissive, or flat-out hostile. And on any given outing, the
proportions of each of these groups you meet will be somewhat random.
There are a variety of ways you can increase the odds you meet folks
delighted to encounter you, and minimize the odds you meet folks
who want nothing to do with you. Some of those ways include:
Yet, you won’t always be able to implement all these items.
Sometimes you may want to check out a new venue, or you reach a
preferred venue on an off night and discover the crowd is different
from usual. Suddenly, you’re not tailored to the girls present and the
environment is not so low competition.
And regardless the steps you take, there is always that element of randomness in the people
you meet.
Sometimes you’ll go out and every girl
you talk to wants nothing to do
with you. Other times you’ll go out and the second or third (or
even
the first) girl you talk to is all over you and ends up going home with
you.
Each time you’ll be inclined to think “it’s you.” When the girls
reject you left and right: “I must be
really
off my game tonight,” or, “Did
I dress in a weird way or something? Am I putting out a weird vibe?”
And when girls are all over you:
“Damn,
I’m good!”
Yet much of the time it’s pure chance. It’s often dumb
(bad) luck when you get that string of girls who reject you all in a
row. And more dumb (this time, good)
luck when one of the first girls you talk to is the one you take home.
Today, I’m going to give you some
tools to employ when you hit bad luck any given
night. This post assumes you go out and talk to various (i.e., more than two or
three) people with an
intent to find a girl to take a number from or to take home. If this is
not your style, it still might be an interesting read; in that case,
read it through, file it away, and pull it out should you ever find
yourself emboldened to meet enough girls to find
that one you click with and can take home.